so i have a friend that is in a very abusive relationship. he was raised to never hit a women and also raised in a very abusive environment. through out his life he never made many friends, the ones he made often backstabbed him. now he is married to a wife that constantly hits him, varies from hands to actual objects. in their 5 year marriage he had to go to the hospital to get 2 stitches, he has marks all over his body. when I asked him about this he says that he deserves it and that he upset his wife. he always tries to change, which im not sure what he changes cause I dont see any reason at all why she hits him. he randomly calls her from work telling her he loves her, he buys her flowers randomly, he gets her pretty good gifts and makes sure she gets the best. she doesnt work just hangs out with her friends and is home. he also cooks and cleans. he is afraid that no one else will love him, when i talk to her she also says she loves him but that he is stupid. what am i to do?
2007-10-22 14:31:23 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He really cares for her a lot, after a fight he would care for her so much that he would tend to even the small cut on her with bandages despite him bleeding from the head. im a bit worried about his life, could she possibly do the unthinkable?
sorry for the lateness, my computer was slow
2007-10-22 14:32:38 · update #1
If he won't seek help, then there isn't much that you can do for him. Try to be supportive, and a friend.
2007-10-22 14:44:22 · answer #1 · answered by Beau R 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First rule of thumb is never tell your friend bad things about his wife(this will only make him defend her). Then, slowly initiate conversations about what a healthy relationship is and how she needs to get help. Remember, little by little-a person cannot get help without wanting it.
2007-10-22 14:56:17 · answer #2 · answered by MissB 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is taking it then he deserves it.
This is crazy, this is a very abusive woman that needs desperately psychiatric help. He needs to move out and let her be till this problem is fixed. Who needs this? besides he is better off without her.
2007-10-22 14:46:03 · answer #3 · answered by Chris B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you envy her and perhaps wish the guy worked so hard for you? Careful, coveting is very dangerous and you don't ever get what you hope you'll get: even if you get him, he won't be the same way with you.
2007-10-22 14:48:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well my advice is the same unwanted advice I give to abused women, if she/he doesn't want to leave, then they consent and approve of the behavior and you cannot help them. I am sorry.
2007-10-22 14:48:17 · answer #5 · answered by anthony b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋