I know this may sound ungrateful but if anyone has been in this same boat I'd appreciate it.
My MIL refuses to get anything off our baby registry, instead relying on impulse buying of anything 'cute'/impractical. Every day she calls me and tells me about something else she's bought. I'm afraid we're going to end up without the stuff we really need and instead with 50 newborn outfits (not six months or twelve months, etc.). My husband and I have gone from hinting to explicitly stating this fact, and she always agrees but then when we go over there she shows my husband her latest purchases. (I'm having a shower in a few weeks and so she doesn't want to show me anything.) She's also the kind of person who acts really hurt if we ask to take anything back, and since she lives nearby she'll be checking to make sure the baby is wearing what she bought.
My husband and I thoroughly researched what we'd need and I'm just afraid the baby's going to get here and we'll be missing the essentials.
2007-10-22 14:30:07 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
That is wretched. I lucked out with a great mother in law but I can totally understand your pain. If the stuff still has the tags on it, take it back for store credit. If not, just thank her and I'm sure the other people going to your shower won't be so inconsiderate and will buy off the damn registry which is the whole point!!
2007-10-22 14:39:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
You might as well get used to it. If your MIL is anything like mine it will continue even after the baby is born. You will end up with a million toys from second hand stores that barely work and baby clothes that look as though they have been handed down more than once. I've just learned to keep what my son needs and will use and take the rest to goodwill. The good news is that I ended up getting everything the baby needed from other people. I think most people look at the registry. Hope you get everything you need.
2007-10-22 21:46:56 · answer #2 · answered by Sophia G 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I totally feel ya'. its not a matter of being ungratefull either, but like someone else said - everyone won't ignore the registry. I just had my shower a few weeks ago and I got alot of cutesy stuff but i also got a lot of essential things as well. I just figured that I would get the things we needed and everyone else could get the baby gap outfits. :) What are essentials anyway? somewhere to sleep, onesies, you know... people have been doing this forever without "all" the essentials that they say you need. Congrats and good luck!
2007-10-22 21:43:26 · answer #3 · answered by AKGIRL 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think gift registries and gift cards are out of control, and turn gifts more into obligations than something heartfelt. While I know what you mean, Ive gotten a few useless MIL gifts, well lots, I wouldnt stress on it.
Another thing to consider is, when we first registered for baby stuff, we were a mess. Even with the help of mommy friends, we went scanner crazy and still scanned a bunch of junk on there we never ended up really needing, so it goes both ways. Some of my best gifts, werent stuff I registered for, but what experienced moms knew youd need, like a diaper bag changing kit.
2007-10-22 21:37:59 · answer #4 · answered by lillilou 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
honestly, i just had a baby shower i had ONE person buy something that was on the registry. i am grateful of the things i got dont get me wrong and i didnt get a bunch of useless things that i wouldnt need. i just didnt put them one there. my aunt in law threw this one for me and im sure i will have another one. you may find use for all the little things your mil is buying for your unborn child....and be grateful for them in the end. just dont freak out yet she's an experienced mother and knows what you will need and keep in mind that you dont know what the gifts are yet so you cant say that it will be a bunch of useless things until youve seen them. if you cant use all of it take some back and put to use what you can. dont hurt her feelings and be nice about it. yall will both be happy in the end.
2007-10-22 21:49:43 · answer #5 · answered by Teri 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well is there any way you guys can sit down with her and thank her for buying stuff for the baby. Then tell her that you have a registry with the stuff that you really need and suggest that next time she is in the store she looks at it. If that fails... well just take back what you really don't need and get whatever it is you do need. If she ask then explain truthfully what happened.
2007-10-22 21:40:04 · answer #6 · answered by ♥cutemamma♥ 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
my grandmother is the same way!!!! im just hoping that the other people who attend will buy stuff from the registry. maybe by the time the baby comes, your MIL will have forgotten everything that she bought and you can take some of it back... or you can tell her that the baby outgrew it.
2007-10-22 21:36:08 · answer #7 · answered by curiousin08 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wait until the baby shower and see what you got then go buy the stuff you still need.It is not up to other people to buy you the essentials.I know at my baby shower most of the stuff I got was frivilous,and we bought all the basic essentials ourselves.
2007-10-22 21:36:40 · answer #8 · answered by Victory 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Just because she would be hurt, doesn't mean you shouldn't take them back. It's her fault for buying a bunch of stuff you don't need/want. You have told her to stop and she hasn't so I would return them if I were you. She needs to get a grip.
2007-10-22 22:35:52 · answer #9 · answered by xchasingsummerx 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just because she ignores the baby registry doesn't mean everyone will.. She's just excited & probably buys everything that seems cute for her grandson/daughter.... She is buying all of this new stuff for your baby!! Show some gratitude woman!
2007-10-22 21:34:51 · answer #10 · answered by ˚despeяate housewife˚ 6 · 3⤊ 3⤋