I'm so depressed about being gay. What do I do?

Question

Well I am gay and noone knows it. I constantly think of my best friend, who is very hot! We stay the night together and watch movies together. I am always depressed if he doesn't talk to me that much. However, he is STRAIGHT =[

I'm very scared to tell him about my sexuality. I know he will still be my friend, but I don't know about me staying the night with him and stuff like that anymore which would hurt me really bad.

Also, do you guys think I can talk to a counselor about this?

thanks for your time =]

Answer 1

This sounds like a really tough situation. In our society there is a lot of homophobia — fear and hatred of people who are lesbian, gay, or bisexual. It is caused by ignorance, or other kinds of misinformation and lack of understanding about what gay, lesbian, and bisexual people are really like.

While coming out — telling people you're gay — can be a great experience for teens who have support from their families and communities, it sounds like you may not have this kind of acceptance. If coming out means that you risk losing your place in the family and its emotional and financial support, you may need to wait until you can find a way to support yourself. You should also think about whether coming out could put you in any physical danger.

Answer 2

Definitely talk to a counselor. I am a midwife (I deliver babies at home)and contrary to popular belief, I understand the feeling of being born in a male body yet have feelings of a
female. I had three close friends that were gay. To understand this we need to go back to the womb. Strong evidence pointing towards biological factors that are in place before birth. The embryo at a certain stage of in life is neither male nor female. According to how much male or female Harmon's are sent through, the embryo will either grow a penis or a vagina. We do not live in a perfect world. You know that the only difference between us and a mongoloid baby is that it has an extra chromazone. Well sometimes the embryo gets more female Harmon's or male Harmon's that do not match with the organs. When a baby is
born hermaphrodite, (having both organs) the doctor waits until it develops a personality before removing the spare part. If it acts masculine the vagina is removed and Visa versa. There are clinics that will help you , explain your depression and help you psychologically an physically. I can see why you are depressed but think of your future, your family, your friends, your God. He said he will not give you more than what you can endure but with your endurance, He will show you a way out. Most of my friends in school
were gay and I watched them struggle and loved them to death, while I did not condone it I could not say or do anything for them. All of them died at a young age. I wish I knew then what I know now. Perhaps I could have said something that could have helped...because I do still miss them so. So before you loose your friend, family, or even your life, See your counselor.

Answer 3

First i think a counselor would be a great start,because letting all out is what it sounds like you need to do.When holding things in that mean so much to you or that is, causing problems for you ends up in depression.I think you would be very pleased with your out come it would be a lot off your chest,As for your friend like you said it will really hurt you if he suddenly stops doing the things that ya'll do.Which is why you should have never kept this from you key word(FRIEND) than there's the but,well you know him best maybe you should do the couseling and talk about how you should tell him,Before you do just remember if he's a true friend he'll be there .You've also got to get over your crush on him he's stright ,And under the impression that you are to good luck.

Answer 4

Yes, talk to someone and maybe it needs to be an outside counselor, depends on where you live. In some parts of the world the privacy rules are ignored, a small town can be that way. So, if you are really worried about it maybe go to your local mental health ...they have to keep it confidential. I just don't want you to be outed until you yourself are ready! That is up to you and school may not be the place where they can be trusted...I don't know. Maybe in a large area they are different.
About your friend. That is a hard choice and you do have to worry about that. So, make sure you are really ready to deal with the results of your telling. It might be too much for your friend to handle, we all do that differently. My daughter is gay and when I found out, it about killed me and it did take me a while to adapt. I am only human and I am not perfect as none of us are. So, it does take some of us time to get used to it. I love her more than life itself, but I had a hard time at first.
There is a website for support for people with all kinds of problems and issues that you can join and maybe talk to others going through what you are. It's My Daily Strength and there are many people on there, a great site to find others to talk with. I have depression and chronic pain and I use it for that. I wish you luck in whatever you do, You do need to talk to someone though and I hope this website helps you out. Miss Mary

Answer 5

You do get specialist counsellors for discussing being gay. I have leanings towards bisexuality and have had sessions with such a counsellor when I was in the Brighton area. You could probably discuss this with any counsellor for that matter, but you might be more comfortable with someone who has some insight into what you're going through. If you look up "The Pink Paper", you may find something there of use to you.

Answer 6

Yes you should talk to a counselor about this. When my best friend was struggling with his sexuality it helped immensely.

You need to be honest with your friend. If he is your true friend, he will not care. But you also need to understand that if he is straight you must keep it at "just friends". You have to respect his sexuality just as you want him to respect yours. Let him know that you respect his sexuality and this will not change how you and him will be

I also think that maybe you are getting used to your newly discovered sexuality and are attracted to your friend because of closeness that is already there. Once you come out and are more comfortable with who you are you will find someone that is right for you.

My gay friend has lots of male friends that he is just friends with. You will get a feel for those relationships as you come to terms with who you are.

And DO NOT feel bad about being gay. There is nothing wrong with it.

Answer 7

talk to a counsler and tell your friend. if he cant handle it, hes not a good enough friend for you. Be happy. Just because your a little different doesnt mean you should get sad. People these days are more open to that kind of stuff (it could be better though). And all you a$$holes who are sying go straight or $hit like that... SCREW YOU!!! your so narrow minded! you are entitled to your opinions but you dont have to be rude about it. Some people are gay, that doesnt make them less of a person! god, why dont you people leave the 1800's and come join us in the 21st century.

Answer 8

God can change you, but you must humble yourself. Unfortunately for us only he can humble us in such a way that it leads to eternal life and peace. Regardless, that's what you need to do. Now here is a generic answer I usually give (so that my fingers don't fall off):

Without a friend that gives you an honest answer when you want one, who gives you one out of love, you will always feel some misery. And if you only have friends that flatter you, you may be depressed knowing that they are doing so because they want to take advantage of you in some way rather than truly loving you, or loving you with a pure love, love which isn't self-seeking.

Also, you may have a poor diet which is causing a chemical imbalance or making you depressed due to its blandness, have past trauma that is still bothering you because you don't know how to deal with it or because it was very painful, are encountering unpleasant smells often (like perhaps from a new rug which smells bad), have bland surroundings (you may want to decorate your walls with posters), have unpleasant parents, don't have friends or ones that give you bad to no advice when you ask for the help or when it's obvious you need it, you may have a boring getting-no-where life, or you may feel as if you're not getting your way in general (which frustrates everyone who feels that way).

I had problems with depression and suicide when I was 12 due to my parents abusing me, neglecting my education (including knowledge about right from wrong), and not providing me with much interesting or helpful to do or teaching me how to be helpful. I also got bullied at school for how I was dressed and appeared before I was 14, and of course, instead of the bullies being punished for what they did to me, I was the one who got stuck in a miserable substitute for a "normal" public high school and had next to no friends while there (and still have about none). Soon after attending that school I was bullied by the police off an on a few times. Other miserable things happened including being repeatedly kicked out and being mistreated at nearly all the jobs I had by coworkers or bosses who harassed me out of them. But, God saved me and helped me beat my depression and allowed and helped me to accomplish some great things that I can take comfort in having accomplished no matter how miserable. I'm still depressed sometimes, but it's not as bad now since he's opened my eyes.

Check out the link in my profile if you are interested in spiritual help, which I found has been a lasting and permanent solution heading towards perfect peace. I hope you show the link to others.

Answer 9

I think it's best you express your feelings.

First off, you have to decide if you're *in love* with your friend. If so, your relationship will change, but in the end, everything is better. Living a lie is no way to live.

If you aren't attracted to your friend, you have to tell him, but say you don't have any feelings for him.

Either way, you have to express your feelings. Living a life full of contained secrets is not fun.

If you are truly depressed see a counselor. But I think as soon as you *come out of the closet*, things will get a little ugly, but in short time become the best days of your life.

Answer 10

If you don't tell him, he will still spending the night and you will probably continue being attracted to him. It's best if you tell him because it would be awful if you felt stongly about someone who you can't have. Plus he sounds like a good guy so I'm sure he would not stop being your friend.

As for the counselor, it helps a lot of people, so it could help you just to talk things out.

I hope my advice helps!! Good luck with everything!!

Answer 11

Being gay is NOT a disease. It's just a sexual preference. If that guy is ur truly best friend, he wouldn't mind what u r, as long as u can respect each other. U already have lots of stress w/ school/work n every day life....Talk 2 ur parents about it. They love u n they will understand n guide in times of trouble.