I been married for 4 years now. and we have a 3yr old son. I am bored we never go out anywhere and I feel im wasting my life. I am 23 years old and have never gone to a bar or concert or anything. Ive tried talking to him and telling him how I feel but nothing changes. What should I do? We both work and make decent money so we are finacially stable and have the means to pamper ourselves but we never do anything.
2007-10-22 14:12:45 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
also before we got married he would go out 3 4 times a week and after we got married he stopped so I knwo he liked going out.
2007-10-22 14:20:46 · update #1
In this situation, if I were you, I would just find a babysitter & then just tell him one night,
"honey, I got a babysitter & I've made plans for us to go out to dinner & go to a movie"...
Tell him what the plans are instead of asking.
~Good luck!!
2007-10-22 14:17:14 · answer #1 · answered by luvmybabies 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
U need to get a sitter for a weekend and take a getaway to have some fun and become "buddies" again and remember why you got married in the first place!
2007-10-22 21:25:44 · answer #2 · answered by YUMMY1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can start making the arrangements for going out together. He might not be good in making plans like that. Do not wait for him to do it, because it might never happen. You should take charge. Drop your kid with a relative or get a babysitter and drag him out.
Good Luck
2007-10-22 21:24:49 · answer #3 · answered by Chris B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 24 and have been married for 3 yrs. My hubby does not like going out a lot. It really bothered me, but lately we have been doing a lot of going out on the weekends. We go for a weekend getaway sometimes we take our son and sometimes it is just us!!!
2007-10-22 21:27:10 · answer #4 · answered by metalwife 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree about making plans and telling him, not asking. See if that works, if it doesn't, and it may not, then find YOURSELF, and see where YOU want to be. It is hard to be in that situation. I was married pretty young too and it didn't work out, it started out like yours did and we ended up getting divorced, but now I have a man that likes to have a good time. Good luck!
2007-10-22 21:21:23 · answer #5 · answered by Angela J 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
WOW, this sounds incredibly boring!! Let him know if he doesn't wake up and start enjoying life with you, you'll start going out with your girlfriends!! I'm not encouraging you you to be unfaithful, jsut be careful here!Maybe he too is bored !! Start having some fun and ask him to join you!! Sounds like he's playing too old, and comfortable in a rockin chair!!
2007-10-22 21:40:01 · answer #6 · answered by happywjc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't listen to any one who says you were stupid to marry at 19 i am a doctor an i married only 3 months after my 19th birthday. one thiing i have found in younger marriges is it is easy to get bored tell your husband that you are young and you want to go out and have a fun night life if he dosn't want to go with get your friends and gohe shouldn't be holding you down maybe to make him fell better 2 weekends a month have your son stay at over somewhere and have a fantisy night one night you chose something kinkey to keep things interesting and then it his turn
2007-10-22 21:23:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yep, hire a babysister then go out to a bar, club or somewhere fun. Maybe your husband is just so boring he doesn't know how to make proper plans, so you make them and tell him to come along. If he refuses, well you can always go alone. It's your responsibility to keep yourself happy.
2007-10-22 21:19:50 · answer #8 · answered by some female 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't expect your husband to change. Make your own changes and hope he joins you. :) I find going out w/ the girls once a week helps tremendously.
Texting him a couple times while I'm out reassures him that he's still loved.
If he doesn't like it when you go out, too bad. You need time alone so you can enjoy him and your son more. He'll appreciate you more too. You can also remind him that you could go out together sometime too.
2007-10-22 21:18:46 · answer #9 · answered by rorybuns 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
first off if you both are making decent money and he wont take you nowhere than thats your fault. then if you told him your not happy and still living with him thats your fault too. either throw him out, move out yourself with the baby and find a man who isnt ashamed to be seen with you. go get on with your life and make life diffrent for your son so he can go places and see diffrent sites. you probley wont regret it.
2007-10-22 21:20:38 · answer #10 · answered by joes_mom86 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋