I can't stop crying because this nasty boy and his friends?

Question

said this nasty comment.

heres what they said
what was it like when you showed your boobs to your ***
cause we love them

do you have anything to cheer me up. im so sad and angry. i rlly want to beat him up. He said right in front of all the guys i like

i didnt show my boobs to anyone

Answer 1

You should tell him to stop. If he doesn't, then tell your teacher or principal or something so he can get punished like he deserves. Sometimes boys are pretty immature. Sexual harrasment isn't tolerated at school. Don't let him get to you. :)

Answer 2

Don't cry over what some boy said...One of 2 things is happening here:

1. He maybe kinda likes/fancies you, but doesn't know how to show it, so is being mean to you, cause its the only way he knows how to get any attention at all (& that's what he's really after - has nothing to do with you). If this is the case, he probably feels really guilty about it, but would never show it.

2. When people's own lives are bad/painful for them, they tend to get angry or scared, and similar bad feelings. This menas they lash out at whoever seems ot be the easiest target. Think about how angry and sad you're feeling now, and what happened to cause it (he said something nasty that hurt you emotionally) - the only reason people do or say nasty things is cause they themselves feel hurt & angry - but it usually has nothing to do with the person they end up taking it out on. So remember, its got nothing to do with you...he's in his own world, dealing with his own sh*t.

Either way, he deserves pity more than anything else. Whatever he said is totally meaningless - it's just his messed up feelings outbursting...certainly not something you should waste any time thinking about.

Update:
And if nothing else makes you feel better - think about all the people on here supporting you! :)

(I started writing this when there were no answers to your question - by the time I finished, there were 2 pages worth!
...either I'm a really slow typer, or lots of people are so much on your side they all wrote supporting answers & comments...hehe (Its the second one by the way - I'm a fast typer)!

Answer 3

No one has any right to make fun of you for how slow or how fast your body is growing. Going the puberty is really hard, and it is also the fastest your body will grow, besides your baby years. These boys sound pathetic. Ignoring them is a mom answer, yet you might not want to be a "tattle tale" (in bad situations this might be a bad idea). People might thumbs down me for this and some parents will think i give bad advice, but the best thing is to fight fire with fire, but only at school. Out of school you could get really hurt. In school, if it gets bad, you might get caught, and at least it will all really end in a detention or two. Then it will all be over. I had problems in 7th grade because I didnt start puberty until later. I was flat chested and big boned. But by my freshman year I had slimmed down and my body filled out. All the boys that hated me in middle school wanted to date me in high school! But I held my head high and said to them, "You were too immature for me then, you are too immature for me now. Go f*uck yourself."
I had my self respect and the right idea. Those guys will always be pigs, and so will the guys that are bothering you. Looking back now that I am 26 I feel like I handled everything well. I hope I helped you.
xoxo, Karley T.

Answer 4

There's nothing really to say that can console you. That boy is a rude, immature, prick. The only thing he you can do really, is to either insult his manhood or tell him to kiss his boyfriend er.. jump in a lake. A lot of boys are rude, and some adults try to say that that means he likes you. Bull. You can believe with out any doubt in your mind that he is a disgusting freak. If given the chance, I would beat him up for you, cuz I hate it when boys think their cool by insulting girls features. You can take comfort in the fact that your mature enough to not slap him, (which I would do without blinking, and maybe a well-placed kick to the center of his existence. But I am not very mature when it comes to anger. I beat up the person first and ask questions later.) Just remember, and I know you've probably heard this before and you hate hearing it again, that no matter what anyone else thinks, it's your perception of yourself that really matters. That doesn't mean blatant denile, but try to not let them guys get to you. If they keep it up, come up with a good comeback involving his manhood. (or lack there of)

Answer 5

I don't really have anything to help you cheer up; but ignore them. They're doing it just to make fun of you. If you give them the satisfaction of getting angry and beating him up, you're playing right into his hands. So he said the comment in front of the guys you like. Big deal. They'll most likely forget about in the next week or two. Or if they bring it up again, try to turn it into a joke. Just don't do anything terrible about it. If you're mad, punch a pillow. Don't get into trouble just because some guy was a jerk to you. Trust me, you'll get into more trouble than he will. I've been there and done that. It's not fun in ATOSS.

Answer 6

Children can be so cruel.
I have been given the worse of all comments unimagineable, at my age.
Feeling that your reputation will fit smack down on the floor, do not give them the satisfaction they are looking for. I know form experience since they are looking for a way to puch your buttons and destroy your self-esteem.
1.) Do not get sad or angry, you have not done anything and you can prove them wrong.
2.) Do not listen or pay attention to what they say.
3.) Tell an adult, your parents pefferably.
4.) Tell school authority: tell them exactly when and how it happend, get his name and his friends name.
5.) Do not feel scared if you feel like you will get in trouble and will be threaten by them if they do, they will get in serius trouble.
6.)The school has responsibility to handle a situation of sexual harrasment.
7.) And if you did not know bullying is Illegal in school.

Remember to forgive him(I know its hard) remember that he does not know better and that is just acting immature, it will make you feel much better knowing that you will never do that to anyone else.

Smile, know that God loves you , your family and true frineds.
You live your life decently and you are not like some girls who liketo show of their body.

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Answer 7

Just ignore them. They are low-class. Don't stoop to their level. You just continue to be a good person, and eventually the good people will come to you. Anybody who who would believe the "nasty boy" just because he said it is just as low-down as he is. You don't need that kind of person.

Find a good support group. If you are a person of faith, look within your religious community.

Fight evil with good. While the nasty boy drones on to anyone dumb enough to listen, you live a good clean life, and do good service for others. Be the best you can be. Be a source of comfort to others who are similarly persecuted.

Answer 8

Go to school tomorrow with you head heald high and turn him in for sexual harassment. He can get into serious trouble for that comment and make sure you also give the principle the names of the boys who heard it. The good thing about this is that you must have a nice chest. That will come in handy when you are older and more comfortable with your body.

Answer 9

He's just a jerk off, ignore the idiot. If not, tell someone. My friend had the same problem, and she was embarrassed to tell anyone. Once she told me, she felt better and I delt with the dude for her. Tell a friend, you could spend the night bashing the dude and her cheering you up! :)

Answer 10

Sweetie boys are gonna act like that if they think they can get away with it. Don't stoop to their level and spread rumors and stuff but come up with some of your own zingers to pop back off at them when or if they something else nasty. Something that will embaress them like about their "manhood". Fight fire with fire baby girl.

Answer 11

It sucks but stop crying. Report his sexual abuse to your principal. Next time he does this, tell him loud enough for everyone to hear that you don't have to put up with his vulgar comments and then go right to the principal and demand action for sexual abuse. Tell your parents, they will be on your side. I wish I had when I was your age and the boys cornered me and felt me up all the time. Don't put up with it, call the cops if no other adult will help you. Speak up and speak loudly.