to live with their parents? some people asked if i live with my family i said yes kindly they make a face and said you shouldn't....is it really wrong for married people to live whoever husbands or wive's parents together? or any of you do still live with parents or parents in law with ur wives or husbands?
2007-10-22 14:10:08 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Personally i think its ok if it doesnt bother you guys. I lived with my parents for two years of my marriage and I hated it. I hated that my parents would alsways have something to say about how we argued if we did, about if we were going out to eat o cooking. Everything was their business and I hated it. My husband didnt mind because he was hardly home or he didnt hear the complaints daily. So I wouldnt reccomend it but It depends on the type of relatiionship you have with your parents and If they respect your privacy.
2007-10-22 14:18:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 7⤊ 0⤋
To be completely honest....yes....married people should have their own "home" and space. If you made the choice of getting married than why not start your own home. It is nice to just enjoy each other without all the family involved. I know that for financial situations many people live with their parents, but we need to learn to leave mom and dad and cleave to our spouse. When you have children it will be nice to have your own home and be the lady or man of the house. By home I am referring to an apt, house, condo, etc... I wish you luck..BTW you are not doing anything wrong...but the ideal thing would be for you and your family to get your own place(family meaning you and spouse). People shouldn't make faces when you answer their question...that is rude..
2007-10-22 14:21:51 · answer #2 · answered by metalwife 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
When I left the army, my ex wife and I lived with my parents for over a year and a half because she and her mother went on a summer shopping spree and spend the $8k we saved for a down payment on a house. We saved money and built a nice house.
A lot of younger (twenty somethings) live with parents more often than in the past because housing costs over the past decade have skyrocketed and it is hard to afford a $200,000 plus mortgage on beginning wages.
2007-10-22 14:26:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it's a great idea if everyone gets along!
It's not unusual for entire families to live together. Mom, dad, brothers sisters and their wives and kids... I think it's efficient and keeps your home filled with love. (although can be a lot more frustrating than living on your own)
2007-10-22 14:23:06 · answer #4 · answered by rorybuns 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I love all of our kids(7 of em) and the grandkids(13 of em), I don't want (let) any of them live with us!! You marry out, not IN!! If you're old enough to have a family, then live on your own!! we (wife & I) have worked very hard to raise r kids, and they wouldn't(or us) think about living with us,, No house is big enough for 2 families.. We do babysit on occansion, but not full time, I insist they take care of that with hired help. In the event of an emergency, we'd accomidate, but for the most part. they do it on their own!! We are now busy enjoying our retirement!!
2007-10-22 14:48:17 · answer #5 · answered by happywjc 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is no right or wrong general answer here. It depends on many things including financial. If everyone is comfortable with living together, then what's the problem?
I'm sure you will get your own place when you are ready. Just because it doesn't work for some people doesn't mean it can't work for you.
2007-10-22 14:18:02 · answer #6 · answered by April First 5 · 5⤊ 1⤋
You didn't give your age or financial condition,but as a rule IF you decide to git married you should be ready to leave the parental roost.Sure some cases are acceptable,being very young,still in school,temporarly unemployed are a few examples.If none apply,then you need to ask yourself,am i an adult,am i always going to sponge off my mom amd dad,things like that......George
2007-10-22 14:18:02 · answer #7 · answered by tgeorge12000 4 · 5⤊ 0⤋
It would be nice to have all the answers....but not reality.....nothing wrong with it...as long as it stays only for awhile...but honestly two familles cant live together...and if you wasnt secure enough in your life to have a home..why did you marry ??.........sooner or later peoples self will shine through and you will relize other peoples space is that thier space.....and one or the other will start getting into it.......causeing conflict and fights and harsh feelings.........advice...get out as soon as possiable to a place all ya'lls own before the hurt begins!!!!!!
2007-10-22 14:19:09 · answer #8 · answered by hghostinme 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
There's nothing wrong in it especially if your doing it because you have no choice financially, but you should work on getting out and starting your own household with your wife or husband, it could cause a lot of relationship problems eventually....
2007-10-22 14:19:15 · answer #9 · answered by Renee 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
its not wrong, in some cultures its known to be good if a couple live with the parents (a joined family system), but with guys parents. it is a little unusuall to be living with the wifes parents!
but if u dont mind it then i guess its alright!
2007-10-22 14:19:25 · answer #10 · answered by sab 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋