2007-10-22 13:14:38 · 31 answers · asked by marianne w 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Get away now! How many times will it take before you get hit the final time and the only place you can go is the morgue!
2007-10-22 13:19:27 · answer #1 · answered by Steven D 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i have just left my husband two weeks ago. He is extremely controlling and verbally abusive. He has never "hit" me per say but has pushed me down and thrown things at me, etc. It is a very hard decision to make because these types of men get us to think there is something wrong with us and that we will never find someone else. That's a load of B.S. I finally could'nt take it anymore and I just up and left. Now I am getting text messages everyday. One day he misses me and is sorry and will try counseling and blah blah blah. The next day I get to read how horrible of a person I am and that he never wants to see me again. The contrlling abuser will brainwash us to feel inadequate about everything and it makes us question our own worth. I personally am too strong willed to let him demean me anymore. I can't give you an answer except that for me, it so far has been good. It's hard, but it's so much better than living a nightmare and walking on eggshells all the time. Good luck to you.
2007-10-22 13:32:10 · answer #2 · answered by sassyass 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-18 14:53:35 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whether it's emotional or physical, abuse is abuse. If a man puts you down, he is trying to lower your self-esteem so that you will be more dependent on him. Abusive behavior frequently reveals itself in stages with emotional abuse preceding physical abuse, no form of abuse is acceptable. The abusive man is not a myth; any woman can meet on, and they can be found in all age groups and all socioeconomic levels. I think that you should think about leaving this man, because he isn't going to change.
2007-10-22 13:26:01 · answer #4 · answered by flannelpajamas1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously everyone is going to say you need to leave him. I was in a marriage that was abusive physically and verbally.... it took about 6 months of counseling before I could get rid of him for good. i had to learn to be assertive and stand up for myself and do it in away that he knew I was serious....
It is gonna take time to build up the courage.. you will be able to - hopefully sooner than later.
2007-10-22 13:18:47 · answer #5 · answered by Miss Kelly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was with you 'til the abuse part.
Never put up with abuse of any kind. Especially if you have children. It teaches boys that it's OK to treat girls this way, and it teaches girls that this is what "love" means.
Encourage your husband to get some anger management. You may have to make some hard decisions on how to get him to take your "suggestion" seriously.
Good luck.
2007-10-22 13:20:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry. You are a very special person. You do not deserve to be mistreated. Please go to someone who can help you, your family, your church, the local women's shelter, the hospital, your friends...Just go so you can get away from the danger and figure out what you truly want (stay with hubby and both go to conseling, leave hubby and separate or divorce, stay with others in the meantime). Do you have children or are you pregnant?? If he hurts you, he will hurt them too. Good luck to you and God bless you.
2007-10-22 13:23:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
allowing someone to abuse you shows a lack of self-esteem on your part. Know and believe that you are deserving of better treatment and that he does not deserve you. Ask God for help and LEAVE your abuser if he will not go to counseling with you. He can only control you IF YOU LET HIM!
2007-10-22 14:12:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why wait leave now...A real man would never hit a woman...A real man would never....say bad things about his wife...
If he really loved you he would never done these things to you..
And when you do leave do not go back...because he will say he is sorry and he won't be and the next time will be worse..Leave and never look back...I've been married 16 yrs and I respect my wife like a woman and a lady..I have never done anything like that or even close to it.
2007-10-22 13:30:09 · answer #9 · answered by hononegah1988 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you are silly and not to smart to stay... verbally, hitting than what? He is going to hurt you... You need counseling.... You better do something quickly before he maims you.... Good luck Grant in Pennsylvania
2007-10-22 13:27:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋