i met a great guy that is everything i ever wanted & now my boyfriend decides he wants me back..i have financially & emotionally carried this man the entire relationship..hes been afraid to committ & has called off our wedding about 10 times..he still lives with his parents & is afraid of telling his family he loves me because they dont approve of me..i have an 18 yr old daughter & the family thinks he can do better becuz of it..i love him to death & missed him so much..i know it would be a big mistake to take him back but never the less im tempted..im confused becuz i already have a wonderful man by my side & now im faced with this..please give me ur opinion & play out the scenarios for me..
2007-10-22 11:28:07 · 19 answers · asked by resolucion 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Don't go back to the ex; he's an ex for a reason.
2007-10-22 11:45:57 · answer #1 · answered by Spring 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DON'T GO BACKWARDS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! wow he has no job! he's living with his parents!!, your finacinally supporting him!, I'm more worried about the example your setting for your daughter than your question.. Do you want her to end up with a dead beat like that.???? you guys broke up for a reason and i hope for yours and your daughters sake it was a damn good one.. and now you have a great guy and you want to blow it all away for the same scum who doesn't even love you enough to get a job i mean come on anyone can work at mc donalds.. oh i bet it's a pride thing, he'd rather mooch off you and his parents that go out and get a job.. i hate guys like that. don't you think the only reason he wants you back is for your wallet and how easy you are to open it.. if he loved you he'd work.. and as far as the parents are concerned, why would you concern yourself with people who allow a grown man to continue to live with them and finacially support him, is he still breast feeding tooo...? please take this advice RUN loose his number and stay with the guy your with now and excactly what are you missing..? his bills, his mooching, his lack of imbishion in life, his inability to grow up and work like everyone else in the freakin world, or is it his charming grownup but yet still a childish way of being a freaking loser??? were you breast feeding him too? ok you want a senario heres one.... you dump good guy and go back to mama's boy... mama's boy gets what he wants, a little of you, your money and you away from good guy,since you know that's another reason why he wants you back, do you honestly think he would want you back if you were still single? a month later he's out the door after he's gotten everything he wanted from you... and around and around you go.. please don't get back with this guy, you spent 10 yrs with someone who won't work and won't commite to you. Don't you think you deserve better than that? Give your new beau a chance he may turn out to be the husband you've been searching for.. Show your daughter that there is such a thing as a good man. Please!!!!! and tell mama's boy to grow up and get his own life and stay out of yours..
2007-10-22 19:14:02 · answer #2 · answered by lady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GIRLL PLZZZ
Dont take bak this BOY
if i was u i would just stay wit the MAN u have.. 18 is a age for a girl were u need a dad... someone there to protect u
i think u should just forget about him and stick wit the guy u are with
good luck and i hope u make the riight choice
2007-10-22 18:53:58 · answer #3 · answered by Monica 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you second guessing yourself? It looks like you already know that it would be a mistake to take back your Ex and you admit you already have a wonderful man by your side.
It looks like you are seeking permission to do something wrong- when you know deep down what is the right thing to do for you and your daughter.
My advice is move on and don't look back because you are not going that way.
2007-10-22 18:45:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can love someone to bits but it doesn't mean you have to be with him. The relationship is over. You've moved on. Tell first boyfriend you will always have fond memories but you won't be getting back together with him. Stick to your guns. You are better off without the financial and emotional drain. Celebrate YOUR life.
2007-10-22 18:39:43 · answer #5 · answered by doglover 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Scenarios-Schmarios. You admit you're doing just fine...in fact better now and yet you can't decide if you want to go back with a non-commital slug who lives at home with his parents.
You madam...are a loser. Yep...too bad if you're insulted by this but frankly...you deserve it.
See you back here when you go back with the chump and now come back crying about it and asking what you should do again.
Honestly...if he asked you to jump off a cliff would you?
2007-10-22 18:34:23 · answer #6 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok now take a deep breath and say to yourself why am i thinking stupid thoughts and then grab the man you have and hold him and forget the ex he is the past get over him and if, you think he is changing then you will deserve a looser and keep in mind what reason you broke up for then your going to get the right answer
2007-10-22 19:10:42 · answer #7 · answered by daisy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless you want more of the same with the "boy" you spent 10 years with, stay with the "man" you have. Sounds to me like you will be happier in the long run. Good luck to you!
2007-10-22 18:34:02 · answer #8 · answered by why 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he wanted you he could have done that years ago.
Next time you talk tell him to go talk to his mommy and ask her advice about where he should go for a wife because she blew this one for him. Maybe he is now suffering because he is beginning to understand that you will no longer wait for mommy to shuffle off this mortal coil. Either that or he has figured out that you no longer need to wait for him to come around.
Enjoy your new relationship.
2007-10-22 18:43:00 · answer #9 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's not going to change, so unless you're willing to be his dirty little secret, I guess you should stick with the decent man who didn't call off your wedding 10 times.
2007-10-22 18:55:57 · answer #10 · answered by Roland'sMommy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not take him back. Let it go and go on with your life. Find someone that is mature and ready and wants to marry you and have a family. That man is not a man he is a mamma's boy.
2007-10-22 18:36:45 · answer #11 · answered by Chris B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋