he has acted like was at worked.gone to lunch with ladies(raunchy ones)and to late dinners,some get togethers.all while I'm thinking he was at work.
he has left me 3 times and come.back one week later.
the last time he left.i begged like a dog for him to stay.
i feel apart cried a week straight.i thought i would die.he was mean to me during this 3 month break up.after he found out that i was putting my life back together again.during that time i had met a nice guy and dated him.my ex came back again he asked me if i slept with date guy and i said no.(the truth i could not even kiss him let alone hold his hand )we had a fight i said i had slept with date guy.because he insisted i did.so many times.he said he wanted me to take a lie detector test after i finally said that i have been way to honest and what i did was really none of his business anyway.i told him sorry and that i did not and that i had other male friends some at church and some new guy friends.as well as women friends when he was gone for 3 months and that was all.now he thinks. the worst of me and this has been months ago.he is mean he wont hug,kiss,or comfort me true trying times or illnesses.
i kiss his a*s all day long.
2007-10-22 11:21:36 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i ask him to please love me i am so lonely he said he dont care how i feel AT ALL.i asked for us to split because all he is is home and i might as well be alone.i ask should we spilt and he says no thats not what he wants.he wants me to leave him alone and that everyday cant be valentines day.he is driving me crazy.PLEASE HELP.
2007-10-22 11:25:41 · update #1
please excuse my mistakes.i hope you can understand my story.
2007-10-22 11:30:18 · update #2
thanks friends.
i have hid this from everyone i know except for God.
i put on a fake smile everywhere we go.
today we were on our way to have lunch with his mom that hates me because he feel in love with me 3 years ago.(that seems so foreign to say.because he was really sweet to me at one point.that is why i stay.i wait for that man to come home my loving guy.)any way he cussed all the way to eat and i said to please talk to me right and lets be in love again.i remember when he would kiss me at red lights and i kissed him my eyes watered and he just keept driving and he parked and said for me not to go and i sat there like a idiot.with no key to roll the windows down.i wanted to leave i pictured myself walking home crying like a nut and opted to stay in the car.
2007-10-22 11:51:37 · update #3
Your husband is unforgiving? You need to be unforgiving, your husband has got it made. He can act out however he wants, you take care of him, he takes care of him, and no-one is taking care of you. He is trashing you and you do not have to take it. If he wont leave, leave. Get a lawyer and let the lawyer talk to him. Get a restraining order because you are going to need one, people don't let go of there doormats very easily. He will be nice then he will be mean, he will accuse, he will plead, he will pull it all....be prepared.
Get a very strong emotional support system and get the heck away from the unbalanced person and find your own balance before you find a newbie. Find a good therapist while you are at it, you will need it. This guy is not worthy of forgiveness right now. Move quickly.
2007-10-22 11:43:26 · answer #1 · answered by scsspace 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why are you still with this guy he sounds like a total jerk. You are too good and have too much to offer to bother with a guy like this. Remember, he left you 3 times. This time don't waith for him to leave, throw his stuff out on the front lawn, change the locks and your phone number. Call a good divorce attorney and move on. There are too many good guys out there to be hampered with a guy who won't give you love and attention.
Stop kissing his A S S start kicking it. You don't need him and obviously he doesn't want or need you too badly or he would treat you better.
Life is too short to be in a relationship where you are not happy, satisfied, and secure. What will happen the next time he gets a stick up his A S S and decides to take off for another 3 months. You have shed enough tears, wasted enough time and given too much of yourself for a relationship that he only wants when it convenient for him.
Get your life back, get it together and move on.
2007-10-22 18:34:56 · answer #2 · answered by Cliff R 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
MOVE ON !!!! If you go around all day kissing his a** then he's going to keep thinking he can treat you anyway he wants to.Show him you can live with out him even though you think you can't.Trust me I've been though sumthing similar with my now fiancee.You have to get a back bone. Show him you do have a life outside of being with him. All he's doing is disrespecting you it doesn't seem like he even loves you anymore.If he thinks he can just dump you anytime he wants and knows you'll always take him back he'll keep doing it.Believe me!!! I found out the hard way til I grew a back bone my self.So what you need to do is leave him start getting your life back on track like you were b4 and just forget about him. And yes it might take a while and hurt a bit but in the end you'll be a happy woman and won't have to go around all day kissing sum guys a**.
GOOD LUCK & GOD BLESS !!!!!
2007-10-22 18:36:22 · answer #3 · answered by carebear0404882005 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know this is a situation many people have to face. I'm sorry you did. But the thing is, if you are not happy, you need to move on. I don't know if he beats you, and I don't want to know, but if you are scared and being held hostage in a way, call 911 when he is beating you, and just set it down, help will come. It didn't sound like this was happining to you, but you more than likely need to just get way, and never look back. What he does to you will affect you, so good luck to you, and may you find true happiness.
2007-10-22 18:36:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ah! This will continue as long as you allow your self esteem to be undermined. Your spouse has little respect for you hence his behaviour. If you have an opportunity to get as far away and as quickly as possible, with no rear vision mirror to distract you, I am extremely confident you will get over this and recover to lead a much brighter, happier, and productive life. You deserve a lot of appreciation. My mother went through this for more than 25 years. It is called battered wife syndrome, regardless of whether it is emotional or physical. Danger looming. Take action now.
2007-10-22 18:33:24 · answer #5 · answered by Cold Comfort 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ahhhh...the old 'palm the guilt off onto you ploy". Works too. He's a scumbag. You're a chump and a sucker for staying with him and letting him use you as a doormat. Get real. Snivelling about it does nothing. Either leave him and strike out on your own or face the fact you're doomed to stay with him and cry about it every so often here.
2007-10-22 18:27:46 · answer #6 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The longer you let this go on the worse it will get. Leave him now. You will find someone that loves you. Don't stand for being treated that way!
2007-10-22 18:46:39 · answer #7 · answered by dbc 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Partners both contribute to a relationship and both respect each other. He had no respect for you, you know it - he knows it.
You need to find a partner who will respect you and you don't have to kiss his *ss.
2007-10-22 18:30:31 · answer #8 · answered by Zaferus 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to grow a back bone and leave him for good!
2007-10-22 18:25:59 · answer #9 · answered by Spring 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you need two things. a divorce lawyer and a good therapist.
2007-10-22 18:54:42 · answer #10 · answered by woodpecker 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋