Both of the people who raised me are to this day so perfectionionistic I can't invite them to my home despite mopping once a day, washing dishes countless times a day, vacumming everyday,etc. A spot on the carpet is big deal to them. I have to watch what I say to some family cause they get upset over the slightest thing as though everthing is a big political issue . Dad can't read anything that might offend him. The song lyric for a romantic song" we'll change the station if news comes on" upset my uncle. A nine yr. old girl putting chap stick on caused him to criticize. I can't send my dad a school pic of my daughter if one hair is out of place. He doesn't think women with stretch marks should wear sleeveless tops and makes it clear he doesn't want stretch marks around him where he can see. Yet, he never shows concern his x wife whom he was married to at the time has spent 30 yrs. on missing person list. Are these people normal?
2007-10-22 11:05:25 · 7 answers · asked by summer 3 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
No, this is distinctly, and EXTREMELY, abnormal. There's enough in just one of those cases to keep a clinical Psych busy for an entire career.
2007-10-22 11:17:28 · answer #1 · answered by Stephen H 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can I be brutally honest with you as a person who has a lot of experience with a family of control freaks?
Anything and everything you will ever do or not do will EVER satisfy them.
You need to get a backbone and set boundaries for people who, obviously have none. They are TOXIC people and it sadly, is not their fault.
If they visit YOUR home they must follow YOUR guidelines and you need to let them know lovingly but firmly what behaviour or comments will NOT be tolerated in your home. Let them know that their criticism is poisonous, it HURTS you, and serves NO purpose. They may wake up and smell the coffee but I would not hold my breath.
Worst case scenario is they will distance themselves and , from what you have said, regarding your kids, that may be a blessing in disguise
You may also get help from several 12 step groups or literature that deals with codependency. This may help you tremendously.
Good Luck and God Bless You, My friend !!
2007-10-22 11:34:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I certainly hope that they are not "normal". I don't know about other people, but my family was very different than this.
You vacuum and mop once every day? I think that my mother vacuumed once or twice a month, and I clean less than that. No one seems to care.
2007-10-22 11:16:25 · answer #3 · answered by Randy G 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well... i wouldn't call that normal behavior... but normal family...here the line is drawn...
every family has its own ramayan...
my dad gives a lot of **** abt prestige and all...he doesn't know how to respect his own wife..he loves her of course... but he makes a big fool of her alot many times...
my mom loves and adores my dad to the core... so that made her get adjusted to all these constant bad situations... but she doesn't know how to make her own children listen to her...
i sometimes feel lucky that i was in a hostel from my second class onwards...
but even the darkest cloud has a silver line... there is always good we can find in everyone...so i made it easier for me...
i absorbed all the good i can from them...tried to implement it whenever i had a chance... i also realized whats not so good and thought of a way i can avoid that position in MY life...
so thanks to them, I AM A BETTER PERSON.
so i think, individually personalities is not common, but family behaviors is.... hmm...... common i guess....
2007-10-22 11:29:54 · answer #4 · answered by Sunny Leo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
omg umm not really their kinda strange but their ur family dude
2007-10-22 11:11:36 · answer #5 · answered by Ari C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, they are the "Normal Twins", "Sub" and Ab"
2007-10-22 11:10:46 · answer #6 · answered by festus_porkchop 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whatta bunch of lame-ooooosss
2007-10-22 11:09:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋