how do you come back and reestablish yourself after suffering the type of psychological bullying of?

Question

humiliation after a prolonged time in your life?

your self esteem was demolished, your character, who you are discredited/ put down severley alot through your life.

ive got a video to show you to give you example: look at what the bee gees had to go through in this interview......now imagine youd been through that all through your life..

how can you come back, find your pride, morals, integrity and esteem after having it beaten severly?

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PObhS3Z9YAQ

im 30 years old, have bpd and ptsd

Answer 1

Depends, usually if it isn't one of the big imprinters (parents!!! you powerful players in our lives, darn you!!!!) you can usually find a way thru it by the very nature of relating the delima, hence why our society has councillors and psychologist, (*whisper* we don't have good friends in our society *whisper*) or your other avenure, others who have lived thru it. Now if its your parents, your sort of forced to make a purpose based on that, its hard to explain but the intertagliment of pride and heart as related to our parents is impossible to determine. So your forced in a way, to find your self-worth THRU over-coming the abuse, you have no choice. You can't talk it away, you can't councillor it away, you can't psycho-analize it away, it is your identity. Which puts you in a position to HAVE to make it right, or follow the same path. (ever heard of cycle of abuse? thats right....)It has to do with purpose which IS our parents purpose in our lives, weather they accept it or not...... so ether you over-come or your crused by it.... from your typing I think you'll do great in over-coming it and use it for the purpose your actually forced to do, helping others thru it, because in the end thats your only fix. All the councillors would do is help you see this, its part of getting past it, eventually you'll be able to do that and more, its a nature development of human coniciousness to move from being a sheep to being a shepard. Those are my terms for it, yes religious in nature and in orgin, but its not religion I want you to take seriously. Its about ether other people define your purpose, or YOU define your purpose, extremely hard in abuse cases because its hard to seperate THEIR ideals of us from our own because man by his very nature is pretty insure, or is it society? I digress.... If you can't make the jump your forced in limbo (self-conflict), or you join them in displaying the same behaviors in your own style. But I'm a free-thinkin psychologist(ok I'd have to have a dr. in front of my name, but by there very nature, i'm more psychologist then them, but I again digress, the nature of science isn't the issue here) so what I say means less then what they say even if they can't agree on how to say it, hence 7 different schools of thought, but the facts remain the same. A crisis in purpose and how to bring meaning to your life, when purpose and meaning (excuse the term) have been raped from it..... best of luck with this endavour and I hope strong that you gain strength from this and use it to others and yourself, because from my point of view, that is your only cure.... same for all of us, hence why I'm here =-)

Answer 2

No. I am watching at my lifestyles in a body ahead and that does not supply me so much time for nostalgia. I best use my beyond to aid others within the reward. It offers me little remedy to seem again whilst so much of what's again there may be anything I leave out. It is like in HG Wells "Time Machine", you must no longer try to taper with the beyond on the grounds that so much as you could love to carry matters again to lifestyles you can not on the grounds that it disturbs the reward. I am concentrating on the reward proper now.