Okay i have been with my fiance for almost 4 years now with no break ups or anything... but i spoil the crap outta him... he has a psp, games, player pack, i pod nano, cell phone, new shoes every month, gamecube, computer, new tv, car stereo, and the list goes on.... i have paid for all of this crap for him.... he comes to me a week ago and says i want a new TV will you buy it for me... and then just two days ago and says I want an xbox 360 will you get it for me... i told him yes was i wrong
2007-10-22 09:56:15 · 24 answers · asked by Kayla J 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well for those who asked we have been together for three years, we do live together, and we do have a child together, he does have a job, and i do the laundry, dishes, and cooking. I totaled it out and everything i have spent on him since i moved in with him two years ago is $9,235 in total since our relationship began i have spent $11,468.52 on him...
2007-10-22 20:53:35 · update #1
oh and by the way, yeah he idd buy the ring... from wal mart for $50
2007-10-22 20:54:14 · update #2
Yes. If he wants these things he should buy them for himself. You are not his mother and shouldn't be buying him toys. Make him grow up and act like an adult with the ability to work for the things he wants and be able to budget and plan.
He'll just end up taking advantage of you, even if it's just by habit and not on purpose.
2007-10-22 10:01:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Were you wrong?
What is your relationship based on? My guess is that you are the suger mama and he is there for the stuff.
You call him your fiance, but did he actually purchase a ring for you or did you get it for yourself.
Tell him that you are saving the money for the wedding or something and see how he reacts. You can see the changes now or after you have been married for awhile.
You might be better off finding someone that want you not just the stuff you provide.
With all the stuff you buy him, when does he have time to spend with you?
2007-10-22 10:03:47 · answer #2 · answered by clutchdoc 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Whether or not you are wrong is really up to you. The real question here is do you want a husband or a dependent? If you are constantly doing all of these things for him and giving him everything he pleases, then all you are doing is setting yourself up for being taken advantage of later. Maybe he never will, but you could possibly be leading him down that path. I just hope that he works and does things for you to deserve these material gifts. Buying him all of these things will NOT guarantee you love or security in your relationship though. Let him know how you feel. Good luck.
2007-10-22 10:07:02 · answer #3 · answered by No one 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ask yourself this one question:
How long do you think you can sustain this relationship in it's current state for?
A year? Two? Ten? Twenty years? Marriage vows speak of a commitment for LIFE. Is this how you want to live the rest of your life?
Better think about what you need from a partner for LIFE, and compare that list to what you have.
2007-10-22 11:26:40 · answer #4 · answered by Zaferus 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, you are a kind woman. You seems to be giving more than you are getting in return. A relationship should be both people giving no just you. I sense you are a little insecure and you are buying all these items to make sure you are number 1. He playing you like a fiddle and I know you don't want to hear it. It is the truth.
2007-10-22 10:02:41 · answer #5 · answered by Kaya M 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sure you did? I've never met a woman that bought me anything! Not even for Christmas or birthday's.I've heard about women like that but I think they are like unicorns,not real.He must have a d*** about a mile long if your buying all that stuff.Good luck with that.
2007-10-22 10:10:07 · answer #6 · answered by notagain49 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stop spoiling him. He needs to learn the value of a dollar and apparently he hasn't yet. Make him start paying for some of the things he wants. I want a lot of things but I can't afford them!
2007-10-22 10:03:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes because he should be the one who is buying things for himself. He sounds like he is taking advantage of you. You cannot keep his love by buying him things. You already told him that you would buy him those things now you need to be the one to put your foot down and tell him that you can no longer buy him things unless it is his B-day or some other special day.
2007-10-22 10:01:59 · answer #8 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Sorry...sounds like he's with you for ALL the wrong reasons.
Relationships are about love, passion and respect...not iPods.
I am so sad at the state of our world.
2007-10-22 10:17:51 · answer #9 · answered by sweetassgal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ummmm. Yes. Stop buying him crap. He's only going to get worse when you're married. you need to kick this habit or kick this guy.
2007-10-22 10:31:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you live together ?? yes ?? boy, you do spoil him, you do really give him all he wants. If you do live together, you failed to mention that you cook, clean, wash clothes, and give sex Without any commitment. DO not live together, VERY GOOD, let him go, he sounds irresponsible
2007-10-22 10:07:03 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋