Why do women think they understand rapists?

Question

I only here women say "rape is not about sex". How do you know? Women don't WANT rape to be about sex.. but it is. My cousin is a rapist.. in jail now.. good thing.

Saying rape is not about sex is like saying robbery is not about money.

Not a "hate" crime, a "rape" crime

Its 99% sex 1% anger/control

Ok.. maybe I was wrong.. maybe its about power and control. I find that surprising since men already have power and control over women without rape. Know what I mean?

But you chicks need to chill out. You'll never see me over reacting to some post on Yahoo! Answers.

Nevermind.. I still think its about sex

Answer 1

It's a feminist mantra to claim rape has nothing to do with sex when, in fact, it has everything to do with sex. They say that to suggest that men are not more biologically predisposed to sex when, in fact, we are. Having a paid of balls does not predispose to rape, but it makes rape more likely than if we didn't have them.

Answer 2

Men Can be abused just the same as women,they just don't press charges as often as women. A woman of age having sex with an under age boy is guilty of rape just the same as a man and an underage girl. The main difference is that men are about 90% more likely to be thrown in jail for it than a woman.

Answer 3

Rape is about power and control and while the act involves sex, it is also about controlling a smaller and weaker victim. You don't see rapists going after larger women or even men because they know these people can fight back. Instead, they go for what they perceive as being easy targets such as children, small women, handicapped people, and elderly people. Why would rapists go after these people if all they wanted to do was have sex? No, they're bullies who violate their victims by doing what is considered to be one of the most vile acts imagineable.

Answer 4

What really disturbs me here is your obvious pleasure at the sound of the word. Mental problems run in your family it seems. Because it is not an opinion of a random uneducated female, but a scientific fact proved by many recorded conversations and medical tests of actual rapists: rape is always ( without an exception ) a power trip for an offender. As a rape survivor, I can tell you one thing: take a serious look at your cousin while he is raping you. I can guarantee you will not recognize him. He will look, act and sound like a wild animal on a prowl to kill you. There is absolutely no pleasure involved. Your only hope is a quick death. Wild animals look friendlier and sweeter somehow while performing a mating ritual. In comparison a healthy male has a need for a feedback of his sexual partner: he desires to see how much she enjoys his touch. When a normal man is seeing tears on his lover's cheek, his reaction is kissing them away. Do yourself a great service and make an appointment with a psychiatrist in your area: something is really wrong with the way you think.

Answer 5

Who said women "think" they understand a rapist? Only a therapist/psychiatrist would understand the mind of a rapist.

Rape is not only about sex, it has to do with control, power and domination, let alone, someone who has a sick mind. One rapist that comes to mind, is a childhood friend that I remembered. He was in and out of Boys Home, served his time and decided to enter into a pre-school, hold the class hostage, while him and his friend raped the teacher while the children watched. The individual didn't only rape the Teacher he made the children "touch" her in places that children shouldn't be touching. He raped the mind of the innocent, being the children. Their crime didn't help him much in prison, unfortunately, he met up with a few uncles that were related to the children and the guy AND his friend experienced what rape felt like. It's a pity that their ordeal was a painful one with the prisoners. Although the prisoners couldn't take back what those idiots stole, but they felt justice was served to their families, in their own way.

So rape isn't only about sex, it's not only about power and control, it also has to do with the psychotic mind of the perpetrator. It was at the perpetrators will to do it. It's inexcusable to rape the mind and the body of the innocent. And take what was never given to them. Rape is a violation of the mind, body and soul.

Rape is not glamorous, nor is it appealing. It's an ordeal that no one would ever want to experience.

Answer 6

I'm not a telepath or a rapist; I don't know.

Clearly there is a gender/power dynamic that some men find upsetting/threatening, and certainly this plays a role to some extent. But is that the cause 100 percent of the time? I don't know.

The danger of any orthodoxy that is places beyond question is that when it is questioned, it crashes hard. There may be good evidence to support the prevailing power/rape correlation; if so, like any science/evidence, reexamination from time to time should help, not hurt, the axiom.

Answer 7

Well that is a myth. It definitely can be about sex, but it's a myth to believe that all of it is or most of it. I took health class for college and one of the lessons was the domestic violence part/sexuall assault chapter. Well my teacher was discussing this sex myth about rape and explained how a lot of it is about power and control. She has counselor or something for rape shelters and sexual assault shelters. And from the reports and what she gather being there and from learning about it is that there were good portions, to the shock of my class hearing is that infants, elderly women in their 70s-80s and autistic women are raped quite a bit too. This kind of explains how it is power and control, because if it was about sex, why would a man rape an infant, 80year old woman or autistic woman? I don't think sex would be the motivation behind this. But, this specific group of women would be the most vulnerable tho, which even further indicates that much rape is about power and dominating the other person. I mean think of rape in prisons and men getting raped, these guys are straight. Their rape on men was not out of lust, but basically to attack and dominate and humiliate the prisoner and make him his territory. Thus power, control, domination.

Answer 8

Well, let's put it this way, a rapist can rape a woman's pride, dignity and self-worth and not even lay a hand on her. Another splendid thing about the usage of the word, "rape."

EDIT: I'll post an informative article maybe some of you would appreciate. I do agree with the article. Here's a little piece:

"And if you still insist that sex isn't sex without penetration, then you are just proving that different people have different definitions of what level of intimacy and/or physical acts constitute what is called "sex". The point is not even to expand the number of situations we describe as sex, per se, but rather to point out that sex can only be defined by the person having the experience."

Answer 9

So what does that mean about the nature of a rapist, then? If it's "about sex," why don't guys who rape just pick up a "willing participant," or go to a prostitute? Why rape if sex is all they want? It's not as if all rapists are unattractive, one-eyed hunch backs (no offense to one-eyed hunchbacks) who can't get a girl to have sex with them willingly, and plenty of guys who DO have problems getting women don't resort to rape. I don't understand your argument, please explain.
In most cases, rape is about sex in that sex is tool used to humiliate and degrade the victim. In some cases, the rapist has a sexual dysfunction whereby they can only feel sexual pleasure by humiliating, degrading their victim, but in most cases, the rapist feels rage, and usually has issues with women. Rape is a way to express that hatred and rage.



http://wicip.org/dcccrsa/saissues/rapist.html

EDIT--Jonmcn-My point is that it seems like plenty of guys who rape would NOT have a problem getting girls, in some cases, any girl. Look at Ted Bundy. His issue was not that he "wanted women who didn't want him," now was it? His issue was that he felt a great deal of hatred and anger toward women, and he acted on it through sex (and murder). I'm not saying that that it "has nothing to do with sex," obviously it does, I'm saying that it's ultimately not ABOUT sex, but about the pleasure one derives from humiliating and degrading the victim.
As for date rape, it would seem that that is a different matter. Psychologists suggests that this type of rapist is a narcissist who becomes enraged at being told "no." No is not an option for this type.

Answer 10

Sex is not that hard to get. If worst comes to worst you could always hire a prostitute. No body's that hard up. Good looking men commit rape. Its' not like rapists are so hideous looking they can't get a willing woman. Many rapists have admitted they don't get turned on by willing women.

Answer 11

I agree that rape seems to be a disturbingly recurrent theme with you. I've seen you comment that rape was no big deal.

Brad D says: GET over it. Its not like someone killed you or cut off a limb. I think its a control issue for women.. the idea of not having control over sex is psychologically damaging to them.

So are you sure it's really your "cousin" with the conviction? You are a very creepy and sick person .

Put it this way, if a guy who was bigger and stronger than yourself, held you down and had his way with you, would the
issue be with you or with him? I mean, it's just sex! Like you said, get over it.

A woman who is raped wants sex from a rapist every bit as much as you want some dude to hold you down and force himself on you.

By the way, it isn't the claim of WOMEN that rape is really about power and control. That is the consensus of basically every mental health organization in the world. It's a feminist conspiracy though, right? You understand rapists better than they do? Do tell.