Question about pelvic exam visit?

Question

I have to go to the gynecologist tomorrow and am dreading it because I know they are going to ask me what form of birth control im using and I am using the pull out method. I have been with my bf for 2 years, i'm a grown woman, and I know the risks of using this method so please no comments about that. It has been successful for us because my bf is good at timing (and yes i know guys can have pre-***) and also wathc when I ovulate. I can not take birth control pills because of bad side effects i've had with them. I do want to be honest with my doctor and tell hre that I do use this method but I feel stupid for saying it and I know she would pressure me to use something else. Please any advice on what I should expect her to say or do???

Answer 1

Geez, don't dread telling her! It's your choice what you use! You can tell her if you'd like something more surefire. I'm sure she'll suggest several that will be perfect for you if you tell her your fears & reservations! She can weed thru all the ones that have the side effects you don't want & tell you whats left! What do you think that she's the over-population police? Chill out!

Answer 2

Be honest!! For several reasons this is the best course of action.

1) You have nothing to be embarassed about - by your own comments you and your boyfriend have made an informed decision and are comfortable with the risk you are taking. Its a choice that only the two of you can make.

2) She may discuss other options with you and there may be better options. Tell her openly some of the reasons you chose this method including any reactions you've had. Perhaps there's a better method now - especially with the new version of pills and such on the market.

3) If you are honest, you can talk openly and discuss if there's any other options and you and your boyfriend can have the info you need to continue making the best decision for you two - whatever that is.

4) It may change what she looks for in the exam, or how results are perceived. Since pills and other forms of birth control come with risks and side effects, this does change what is considered "normal". If you're not taking any she needs to know as much as she needs to know if you are.

My final comment is this - reread #1 above - if your doctor is making you feel bad for informed choices you are making instead of simply discussing the alternatives with you, then perhaps you need to reconsider who your doctor is. Your doctor should always be a partner in your healthcare - someone who is there to offer you options, information and their skill set - not to pass judgement on you and your decisions. Judgements do not allow for a good working relationship.

Hope all goes well with your appointment!

Answer 3

She will ask about birth control, and you will respond, I've spoken to my bf about the risks involved, and the possibility of pregnancy, and together we decided the pull out method works for us. Oh, and I watch my ovulation very closely. (Actually, you're using 2 methods of birth control. Together, they might be fairly effective).

She will either say, well, okay then and move onto some other subject, or she'll give you the percentage failure rate. All you have to do is hold up your hand and say, we know what we're doing.

TX Mom

TX Mom

Answer 4

You don't have to go into detail with the doc. Just tell them you can't take birth control and were wondering if they could recommend any alternatives other than condoms such as an IUD, etc.... The doctor has no way of knowing that you use this method and cannot prove otherwise. You should just say you're using condoms and if you're interested in another method talk to your doctor about it. Good luck and don't worry about it.

Answer 5

except you have become an IUD you do no longer choose a pelvic examination for delivery administration (or a breast examination). AGOC state that they do no longer seem to be required for the delivery administration pill. you merely choose a blood rigidity try. See the links below. additionally you do no longer choose a pap smear earlier the age of 21 the two because of the fact the percentages of having cervical cancer youthful than that are approximately one in a million and a pap smear won't %. it up besides because of the fact its in many cases an adenocarcinoma which paps are not good at figuring out on up. So final analysis is: there is no medical clarification so which you would be able to have a pelvic examination in case you pick the delivery administration pill and in case your wellbeing care expert insists then they're previous-formed with their records or they're merely attempting to get additional funds out of your coverage corporation.

Answer 6

Girl, I so feel you. I am 25 yrs old,and I am married with two kids, BUT I also dont use birth control, because my husband and I use the "pull out" method also. We have planned both lil ones, BUT when it comes down to pelvic exam time, I have NO shame in telling my doc the truth! What can they honestly say? They cant get on you for not using b.c in a monagomous relationship, but they will press the fact that you should use it. But you should not feel ashamed mama, its YOUR body, not theres!

Answer 7

Do be honest with your Dr and find out about other options - there is more out there than just the pill and condoms. You can use a cervical cap or diaphragm or any number of options. Your Dr should not pressure but inform you of your options after all if you get pregnant on the "pull out" you will be the one making the decisions about that and not the Dr. Good Luck!

Answer 8

She would probably want to educate you on why that method of birth control is useless. Sure, you have been lucky with it but luck runs out. You need to be honest with your doctor and tell her that is what you do and then when she asks why you don't use any other birth control, you need to tell her about why you don't like the pill.

Why doesn't your man use condoms?

Answer 9

I've never been pressured by my OB/GYN about birth control. She'll probably ask what you're using - just say nothing, and she'll ask if want to discuss the options. I would expect her to offer you alternatives, if you want them, and if not - she may warn you of the risk of getting pregnant. Take it as it is, just education - it's her job. I'm sure you know the risks anyway. Smile and nod - it's not ethical for Drs to pressure you into anything. I'm sure she won't

Answer 10

You should be honest with your doctor. There are lots of different kinds of birth contol out there. Maybe you just haven't found the right birth control pill for you. If you don't want to use the pill, what about condoms? My daughter is living proof that the withdrawal method is not reliable birth control. Most doctors are not judgmental, so please be honest with her.