Teen Dating?

Question

After seeing SO many girls ages 8 yrs old and up asking how to "make a boy love them","notice them" pregnancy issues(mostly in the 15 yr old range here) b/f's getting them pregnant dumping them etc.I asked why do parents let their teens date.
The ONLY GOOD response was actually a more "how to" than why answer.
The person who said they NEVER leave their teenage kids alone when members of the opposite sex are around......
YOU my firend have some sense.
Trust teenagers ?Yes.Trust teenage hormones?NEVER!
The answers I received that lacked wisdom were along these lines.
1.One person said I was jealous because I must not have dated much in my high school years.That was probably from someone who was 12 or wanted to re-live thier teen years vicariously through some other teens.
2.They need to learn how to "socialize".
If a teen is 15 and they have been in school since the age of 5 and do not know how to "socialize" YET, then they sure don't need to be dating.

They wouldnt be dating any of MY kids thats for sure.
3.They will do what they want behind your back.
I have only heard that from parents who lost control of their kids LONG before they became teenagers.These parents end up grandparents before the kid gets their driver's license and they are not consistent with discipline, arent involved and have set a bad example for their kids.

4.Tell them about sex.You can be "open and honest" all you want it still doesnt mean they are MATURE and RESPONSIBLE just because they come home and tell you they slept with 10 guys(or girls)!
Birth control HAS a failure rate(read the dating questions on yahoo) and just because they know HOW to use birth control does NOT mean they will!
The main thing is ALL the teen welfare moms who become welfare bums on the backs of the tax payers and all the emotional and mental damage the children go through is what spurred me to write this in the first place.
The problem is only getting worse.Compare OUR society to the Amish and see who has more STD'S, teen pregnancies out of wed lock and single parent homes.Who has more kids in prison because they grew up in single parent homes with no dads being bounced from one shack job to another.
Chaperoning was the best idea.Teach the kids how to be responsible adults who can stand on their own feet FIRST BEFORE sending them out to have sex.

No they wont turn out to be monsters, look at the Amish again.

Give their hormones freedom and you will be a grandparent.

One last thing.How many teens make babies with guys who have a job, their OWN CAR AND HOME and support themselves at the age of 15?

Depro shots had bad side affects on a lot of the girls I knew who used them, and some STILL got pregnant.
Control freak,?Let your kids run wild they will rule YOU and make YOU miserable because they will be controlling YOU.I'd rather control my kids than them control me and by the way, you dont have to use brute force, there ARE other methods.

IF 90% of the teens who have sex used birth control and they know what birth control is and how to use it, there wouldnt be as many pregnnant teens.Again, read the DATING questions.Many girls say their b/f's dont want to use b/c and some of the girls dont either.I saw a study back in the 80's most women who used birth control pills had uterus cancer later in life.The birth control pill companies tried like you know what to cover that up.It has also been linked to breast cancer and other health problems.All the owmen I know who are in their 40's now who used birth control pills , many of them have had to have surgery,whereas 50 yrs ago it was not as common.

Answer 1

What your job as parent is:

NEVER TO STOP KIDS GROWING UP BUT PREPARING THEM FOR LIFE AND SUPPORTING AND HELPING THEM DEVELOP TO BECOME STRONG IN TERMS OF RELATIOSHIPS INCLUDING SEXAUL ONES.,

SOCIALISING, SELF DEFENCE, SURVIVAL, ACEDEMIC ETC.


It is essential your kid does not grow up to be a lonely, hurting, shy, needy, clueless individual. Who can only find affection with prostitutes, porn and sex toys due to parents like you stopping them practice and learning dating when everyone else was leanring and messing up and doing all the teen stuff.

As well as depro there is Nuva Ring which appears to have the least side effects, the patch, IUD coil and implants as well all backed with condoms as well.

I HAVE BEEN SCANNING AND HELPING TEENAGERS HERE FOR MONTHS UNDER MANY NAMES.


I SEE HUNDREDS WHO THINK YOU CANT GET PREGNANT IF THE GUY PULLS OUT AND CERTIAN TIMES OF THE MONTH.

CLUELESS NEVERVOUS EASILY EMBASSARED TEENAGERS.


BUT HOW MANY DUTCH KIDS DO YOU SEE ASKING QUESTIONS LIKE THIS?


YOU DONT AS ALL EXPERTS ON ALL ASPECTS OF SAFE SEX


as said have come accorss your kids that cant get a date.


When older they are the ones in strip clubs, with prostitutes, in abusive relationpships as cant beleive they can find better. Those who self harm, want to die, hate theselves, annorexic to get guys to want them, crying self to sleep. Never find success in life, well into 20s or 30s still at home with parents who effective cut off their wngs with thinkign like yours.

Never going to marry as cant even date as the ONLY ONLY ONLY chance to learn as a s a teenager. Will NEVER know love or have a family

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You are very very deeply wrong. and see bottom links

The kids who did the columbine school massacures as life was so painful to them had dateless lives.


Go and see how the dutch do things... links below.

as forBirth control HAS a failure rate(read the dating questions on yahoo) and just because they know HOW to use birth control does NOT mean they will!

ACTUALLY THEY WILL IF YOU TAKE THEM BY THE HAND AND TAKE THEM TO THE DOCTORS EVERY 3 MONTHS AND SEE THE GIRL TAKES DEPRO INJECTIONS.

AND START SEX ED YOUNG TO THE POINT WHERE CONDOM USE any A SECONDON CONTRCEPTION LIKE NUVA RINGS IS TOTALLY NORMAL TO THEM.

I trust teenagers to act like teenagers and date and have sex... but would have them trained from age four with hundreds of hours of lessons in prparation.



I never got to date till after 18... manily as no chance of impressing anoying as missed out on dating when was 14-16. Then did not loose virginity till 19 just as you would want.

The Direct result was bing suicidal throughb most of late teenas, having life ruined, having any hope of a career in the media and other companies doestroyed.


No picking up of any office politics skills.


then finding out if you wait you are totally screwed as only get the chance to be cluess and a roookie or shy and awkard when under 17.

Aftert that no chance to form relationships as everyone is way ahead of you and no time for looser rookies as they have higher standards


its just like you can only be allowed not to be able to tie showlaces as a little kid.


You find all work is mostly social and selling skills you only get from realtioships and been in concelling on and off thoughout 20s and now in early 30s still at the level of a teenager as no experience no realtioships, no realtipship no experience... consequently am going to have a very lonely and painful life witgh only the ofdd one night stand or maybe get a few dates lasting a couple of weeks evey few years.


Pretty much all Ive knowing is pain and rejection due to having been brought up with sick and tewisted grown ups like you.


Its absolutely essential for teenagers to date and follow a pattern along the lines of under 14 speacil friends, 14-15.5 second base and kissing and feeling up and exploring... 15-17 3rd base stuff ie bj, hands in pants etc... and full sex somewhere betweenlate 15-18.


So readdy for Uni with all the sleeping around and experimentation so readdy for live in realtioships in the second and 3rd years so readdy for life for 20s, so formoing seriosu perminant relationships in late twenties early 30s so by mid 30s have a family.


its people like you that lead to kids self harming, suicidal etc.

What you need to do is this


SUCCESSFUL SEX ED COUNTRIES STATS AND INFO

http://www.advocatesforyouth.org/publications/factsheet/fsest.htm
http://www.nvsh.nl/english/index.htm

http://www.mistymedia.co.uk/blog/2005/09/29/dutch_sex_education/

http://www.channel4.com/learning/microsites/L/lifestuff/content/up_close/letstalksex/index.html

http://www.channel4.com/learning/microsites/L/lifestuff/content/up_close/letstalksex/dutch.html

http://www.channel4.com/learning/microsites/L/lifestuff/content/up_close/letstalksex/findoutmore.html

DUTCH SEX EDUCATION
www.plannedparenthood.org/pp2/tcr/files/tcr/news/
europetour.xml#1119288090469::6998015254475574609
Blog of American sex educator on fact-finding tour round Europe, including trip to Netherlands


http://www.rutgersnissogroep.nl/English

compared to useless absteinance

http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/content/article/2007/04/13/AR2007041301003.html


HELPLINES FOR TEENAGERS TO ANSWER QUESTIONS

Ok this one is not from the best our sources. It’s actually from a site associates with hookers but this page is like a dictionary of terms associates with sex and what they mean which is useful. So copy the list and avoid the rest of the site if you want.

http://www.punterlink.co.uk/guide.htm
I.e. Russian = breast sex… get the idea?

What you have to look forward to
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=K45m79fEyz8

TEENAGE HEALTH FREAK
www.teenagehealthfreak.org
Questions from real teenagers, answered by experts, plus lots of other information.

SEXWISE
Tel: [phone]
www.ruthinking.co.uk
Free confidential advice and information on sex, relationships and contraception, for anyone under 18.

www.childline.org.uk

FOR YOUNG PEOPLE
www.4yp.co.uk

FAMILY PLANNING ASSOCIATION
www.fpa.org.uk

EVERY HOUR COUNTS...
http://www.morningafterpill.org/map2.htm

Teach absolute expertise on every known aspect to human sexaulity, sex, relationships, activity before 12/13 starting age 14.


so readdy to handle all the emotional, social and phsyci elements of sex and realtioships as well as technicalnones like contrception.

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You wanmt sexaul repression... this is what you are about then... child abuse

'The Magdelen Sisters' should be in your video shop but the tv drama 'sinners' was more accurate if you can find it.
over 30,000 were involved up till 1996...how old were you at that time?
How many of your friends, you or your sister could have ended up here.

Abusing, raping, and ripping the babies from the arms of 30,000 girls up to just 10 years ago

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WGMFcethrak&mode=related&search=

http://www.cinemaguild.com/sexin.pdf
http://www.netreach.net/~steed/magdalen.html

http://www.theage.com.au/articles/2003/04/04/1048962932185.html
http://www.nac1.bravehost.com/magdalene/magdalene_laundries.html
http://www.bbc.co.uk/northernireland/drama/tv/sinners/index.shtml
http://www.thewildgeese.com/pages/magdalen.html

http://www.torrentspy.com/torrent/397040/The_Magdalene_Sisters

http://www.netreach.net/~steed/magdalen.html

http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0380703/

http://www.bbc.co.uk/northernireland/drama/sinners/interviews/annemarie.shtml
Origonal documentry available from

http://cgi.ebay.com/SEX-IN-A-COLD-CLIMATE-DVD-DOCUMENTRY-REG-0_W0QQitemZ6437066430QQcategoryZ617QQssPageNameZWDVWQQrdZ1QQcmdZViewItem

MORE TEENAGERS BEING EXECUTED FOR MAKING LOVE OR RESISTING RAPE

http://uk.messages.news.yahoo.com/World/threadview?bn=UK-NEWS-WOR-Religion&tid=7667&mid=7667&tof=10&m=tm&rt=2

TEENAGE GIRL TO BE HUNG IN IRAN FOR DEFENDING HERSELF AGAINST RAPE. AND ANOTHER FOR SEX
http://www.jihadwatch.org/dhimmiwatch/archives/009746.php

http://www.iranfocus.com/modules/news/article.php?story...


16 YEAR OLD HUNG FOR HAVING SEX.
http://www.telegraph.co.uk/opinion/main.jhtml?xml=/opinion/2004/08/29/do2903.xml&sSheet=/portal/2004/08/29/ixportal.html

http://www.activistchat.com/phpBB2/viewtopic.php?t=3661

http://www.islamonline.net/servlet/Satellite?pagename=IslamOnline-English-Ask_Scholar/FatwaE/FatwaE&cid=1119503547102

http://www.frontpagemag.com/Articles/ReadArticle.asp?ID=21502

DEATH OF A PRINCESS EXECUTED FOR FALLING IN LOVE
http://www.pbs.org/wgbh/pages/frontline/shows/princess/

http://www.transdiffusion.org/emc/behindthescreens/princess.php

200 MURDERED IN RIOTS OVER A SILLY BEAUTY SHOW AND JOKE WHILST YOUNG MOTHERS TO BE TORTURE STONED TO DEATH
http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/africa/2240790.stm

http://engforum.pravda.ru/showthread.php3?s=&threadid=155606

http://www.iranfocus.com/modules/news/article.php?storyid=5184

ALL punishments are carried out in the name if ISLAM!

FORCED ARRANGED AND CHILD MARRIAGE

http://marriage.about.com/od/arrangedmarriages/a/childbride.htm?terms=human+rights+chicago

http://news.scotsman.com/topics.cfm?tid=612&id=437042002

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/pages/live/femail/article.html?in_article_id=389831&in_page_id=1879&in_a_source

HONOUR KILLINGS

http://www.rawa.org/honorkilling.htm

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/pages/live/articles/news/news.html?in_article_id=396745&in_page_id=1770

http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/world/middle_east/1328238.stm

http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/world/south_asia/2567077.stm

http://www.hindunet.com/forum/showflat.php?Cat=&Number=71832&Main=60597

http://www.stophonourkillings.com/index.php?name=Content&pid=12

http://gatewaypundit.blogspot.com/2007/06/video-released-honor-killing-victim.html

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VZXU_xXUxXI

EXECUTING 13 YEAR OLDS GIRLS FOR HAVING SEX… DEATH BY STONING THE MOST VIOLENT, AGONISING AND SCARY WAY… SEE VIDEO AFTER LINK

http://www.iran-press-service.com/ips/articles-2004/october/izadi_161004.shtml


DEFFINETELY SEE THIS ALL THE WAY THOUGH TO THE END

IMAGINE THE SCREAMS AND USE A STOPWATCH

Clear video stoning
http://www.apostatesofislam.com/media/stoning.htm

YOUNG TEEN GIRL BEING STONED TO DEATH WHICH LASTWED 30 MIN TILL SHE DIED
http://www.jebar.info/yazidivedio/bisaba...
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http://www.aina.org/news/20070425181603....

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/pages/live/ar...

http://www.ekurd.net/mismas/articles/mis...

http://www.apostatesofislam.com/media/st...

Answer 2

I'm going to be 15 in 10 days and I've never had a boyfriend. I don't think I was ready to have one before. But now that I am ready to date my mom doesn't want me alone with a boy. Do you know how frustrating that is? The only time I can talk to guys is when they're at my friends house or at school. This just makes me want their attention more at that time because it's the only time I get to be around and talk to them.

Answer 3

Ok control freak. Havent you ever heard the story about the wind and the sun? The wind and the sun have a bet who can make a make walking take off his jacket. The wind trys first by blowing hard and the man doesnt try to take his jacket off then harder and eventually the man zips up his jacket and pulls the hood over his head..

Then the sun says my turn so the sun sets there just letting his rays gently doing the work and as it got hotter the guy took off his jacket.

The key here is brute force isnt everything .

I have seen this many times the parents try to be so hard on the kid that the kid breaks because the kid never gets any trust . So when the kid does get a chance to get away they hate the parent.

If your a good parent you can find a way to impart your wisdom so your kids follow your lead, not hate you for the rest of your life.

Yes be weary of your kids be watchful of them... never letting them date really bad ideal. You cant control people god gave us a free will. All you can do is be a real parent and try to impart some knowledge especially after 14.

You set some rules and you give them some lead way .... dont try to be hitler you see were it got him.

Answer 4

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Answer 5

Im against teen sex only because pregnancies are too much of a responsibility for teenagers Dating is fine!!! that has no issues unless if someone gets obsessive or neglects school. A speech on teen dating will only provide snide remarks afterwards. I would change it to teen sex and drugs.

Answer 6

what's wrong with dating people huh, my parents let me date, they are completely aware that i socialize a lot with the opposite sex, nothing wrong with that.
Really you should let your children date, if they don't gain the confidence of socializing with opposite sex then when are they going to learn, they wont be so confident, and you never know hanging around the same sex for ages; could turn them gay, it's a possibility.
you should have faith in your children (if you ever have any).
really the problem is that kids can't control their hormones, the problem is that they don't know what to do with such feelings, people have to explain to kids that what they are feeling is natural, but they don't have to act upon it, they have to understand that even though there body may be telling them to do something, they don't need to until they are ready to do it.


Also ignore the 8 year olds asking about love and stuff. Majority of girls are normal alright, remember that. the stuff you read is just the minority op people who don't understand how the world works yet.

Answer 7

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Answer 8

Wild post! all teens date and it is most important to be safe. Their are many teen dating sites and other ways that teens find other single teens just be smart and careful.

Answer 9

WOW, that was one heck of an arguement. but i am against teen sex, (or at all before you are married), not teen dating. dating does not always lead to sex. believe it or not, there ARE some teens who have morals and are responsible.

did you date when you were a teen? probably.

i think teens just don't know how far is too far. dating is fine, sex is not. what causes moms on welfare and unwanted children that act out and cause problems for society? not dating. sex.

Answer 10

Because teens *have* to date. It's called hormones. The teenagers who don't date are maladjusted, and considered freaks for the most part. The parents that don't let teens do what they want (within reason) scar their children for life.

Answer 11

ummm, i think it's ok if they are 16 or 16+.. they are always curious about love.. love to be loved...lots of people want to show their differences, especially some emo, goths.. but parents should always be willing to give them some advice..