When I was not having what I am having now i was sad, now I have so much I am still not happy, I am lonely and miserable. Pls HELP
2007-10-22 08:49:52 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
Happiness Strategy #1: Don't Worry, Choose Happy
The first step, however, is to make a conscious choice to boost your happiness. In his book, The Conquest of Happiness, published in 1930, the philosopher Bertrand Russell had this to say: "Happiness is not, except in very rare cases, something that drops into the mouth, like a ripe fruit. … Happiness must be, for most men and women, an achievement rather than a gift of the gods, and in this achievement, effort, both inward and outward, must play a great part."
Today, psychologists who study happiness heartily agree. The intention to be happy is the first of The 9 Choices of Happy People listed by authors Rick Foster and Greg Hicks in their book of the same name.
"Intention is the active desire and commitment to be happy," they write. "It's the decision to consciously choose attitudes and behaviors that lead to happiness over unhappiness."
Tom G. Stevens, PhD, titled his book with the bold assertion, You Can Choose to Be Happy. "Choose to make happiness a top goal," Stevens tells WebMD. "Choose to take advantage of opportunities to learn how to be happy. For example, reprogram your beliefs and values. Learn good self-management skills, good interpersonal skills, and good career-related skills. Choose to be in environments and around people that increase your probability of happiness. The persons who become the happiest and grow the most are those who also make truth and their own personal growth primary values."
In short, we may be born with a happiness "set point," as Lykken calls it, but we are not stuck there. Happiness also depends on how we manage our emotions and our relationships with others.
2007-10-22 09:39:12 · answer #1 · answered by Giggly Giraffe 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have always been happy. My life has not always been easy. When I was poor and practically on the streets (briefly after a really bad business venture!) I was just as happy as I was a few years later with one home in the most expensive American city and a second in the countryside. I was just as happy being young as I am now that I am...well, not old just not middle-aged anymore.
Circumstances do not determine happiness. Happiness is an attitude you are born with or without. I have known grief and I have known suffering. I have never known unhappiness.
2007-10-22 09:07:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear lonely person,
You are sad because you may not have any real love in your life - your friends make you happy, your hobbies make you happy; who are your friends? Why not call a close one? Are you grateful for all your good friends? Are you missing how Much love they have for you? Do they make you happy? If not, seek new friends who are like you that you can talk to. Join a club for example. What are your hobbies? Do you love drawing? Painting? Do you prefer athletics? Well, if so, join a football team!!!! Try to think about what you would like, then do something about it. Is the glass half empty or half full? About the stuff you have....if you don't get anything from it, sell it and buy something you like!!! What do you like???? :))))) If you have a girlfriend, why not buy her some flowers? Why not buy your Mother some flowers?? Get a pet. Dogs are very loving, but remember to treat them well....they have feelings too.
Am I helping you at all?? ;0
2007-10-22 09:09:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
happiness is a state of being complete. Noone can tell you to be happy but yourself. To be happy, you must first accept the fact that life isn't fair and that only the strongest and fittest will prevail. And then either become the leader, or be the follower, but whatever you do, be grateful
2007-10-22 08:54:39 · answer #4 · answered by krasnoglaz 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would first question if you are healthy. Happiness is a perception of the reality of the situation. So if you have much but am still not satisified, it may be because you can not take it within yourself.
2007-10-26 08:46:43 · answer #5 · answered by Joy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Happiness is a feeling. You know exactly when your happy. You've been happy before. You don't search for happiness - you search for things that interest you. Happiness is a byproduct.
2007-10-22 09:00:19 · answer #6 · answered by craukymuvilla 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Matthew 5;3 says "happy are those conscious of their spiritual need"
2007-10-22 14:46:39 · answer #7 · answered by brooklynn 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋