What is the worst thing that could happen?
2007-10-22 08:35:09 · 11 answers · asked by Lioness 6 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I purposely left it broad so that people would comment on whatever area and extent they associate it with. Anything goes.
2007-10-22 08:48:07 · update #1
I am going to take control and interpreter it as controlling the uncontrollable (ie worries and stress). That being said, I have learned in the past few months to not fixate my worries and stresses on things I can not control. I have learned that worrying or trying to perfect things isn't always needed. I am a very passionate particular person (say that 5 time fast) so it is in my nature to worry and stress over things. But I finally put my foot down and said "let go"...it was honestly like a huge weight has been lifted from my shoulders and I wanted to shout it to the world how happy it made/makes me!
This decision to "let go", came at a very hard time in my life. I was losing my grandmother to cancer, my mother was hospitalized for a diabetic attack, I was in charge of an office staff for the first time, (owner was on 2 week vacation leave) and my brother was going through a deep depression (he was paralyzed in a bad car accident 11 moths ago). SO I decided to let go of all the unmanageable and uncontrollable. Truth be told, I have grown leaps and bounds because of it. Me and my husband don't fight as much, I am happier and accomplish more. But I think the biggest plus is that I am awake to see the beauty that is all around, I was blind to it before.
gosh Lioness... you really squeeze the sap out of me!
EDIT: without the lows you couldn't fully appreciate the highs!
2007-10-22 09:48:12 · answer #1 · answered by kub2 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely. In fact, I think the worst is going to happen, that way I'm not disappointed when it does. Conversely, if something positive comes out of 'it 'then I am pleasantly surprised as well as appreciative. I was told this was indicative of a control freak, lol! What I am afraid of? Our whole world spiraling out of control, beyond repair or recognition. I've also been told that being a trauma survivor that this is quite normal. Every once in a while I want someone else to take the reigns awhile, just take over for me for a bit so I can breathe.
2007-10-22 09:27:06 · answer #2 · answered by bijou 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I only give up control easily in areas of myself of which I am not vulnerable to get hurt.
But in a much deeper and personal sense, it's sometimes strange for me to let myself go, in part because I've made inaccurate judgement (of character) in the past with certain individuals and it backfired against me pretty badly, and yes, that happens to everyone, but I'm protective (either by nature or nurture) of myself and the people I care about.
On the other hand, I'm also quite open about my opinions, which at times may change, depends on if I have learned that there's more to what I thought I knew, so in areas of learning and sharing, I do let go completely, as it is enjoyable for me, to exchange with others in a mental level.
2007-10-22 14:30:38 · answer #3 · answered by Quelararí 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I never drink and never get high because I can't stand not being in control. I always drive. I won't fly. My kids are getting older though and everyday I lose more control. Once they are teens I'm a goner. I am trying to get used to the idea now (they are 3 & 5).
I don't think afraid is the word. The problem is that, from experience, *I know* that no one can do it quite the way I want it done. I'm working on it.
2007-10-22 09:27:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
sometimes i am.
*hello, my name is shelby, and i'm a control freak*
i have to take a deep breathe & let go...
the example that pops into my mind right now is when my husband cleans the house, does the dishes, etc...
i sometimes have to force myself not to "fix" it (not that it's wrong, per se, just not the way that *i* would do it)
it's not like having the glasses not put into matching rows in descending height, or having those bowls stacked together is really going to cause a catastrophe! lol...
2007-10-22 08:45:25 · answer #5 · answered by Ember Halo 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Actually, I like giving up control. It's no fun to always be in control of everything.
2007-10-22 11:27:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Control of what? Yourself? Your life? Your partner? If you are in control, why would you want to give it up? I don't really understand the question, but I will try to answer what I think you mean.
I would never give up control of myself to anyone (if it could be done). I am my own creator and my reality is mine, and no one else's. To give up control would be like being posessed (which I do not believe in) and someone else driving your mind. I don't think it is possible to give up control unless your consciousness gives up control of your physical body hence death. And no, I am not afraid of death.
2007-10-22 08:42:16 · answer #7 · answered by mysticrystaldawn 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i won't relinquish control because I rather be responsible for all outcomes. I can't bare the thought of letting someone make a bad decision for me.
2007-10-22 09:25:04 · answer #8 · answered by wadacious 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can have the control and all the stress that goes with it, i will just sit here and enjoy this biscuit.
2007-10-22 08:49:34 · answer #9 · answered by just-dave 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you have to elaborate on the issue of control. it is kind of confusing
2007-10-22 08:45:59 · answer #10 · answered by beauty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋