I am 24 years old. Full of energy although I work full time and go to school (10 credits per semester) When I go home (around 10 pm only twice a week) I eat with my bf and we go to bed to watch some TV. He is tired by that time and falls sleep immediately.... I, on the other hand, stay awake waiting for a miracle to came ... his sex drive is very low! I don’t know what else to do.... I am tired of waiting until Sunday always to have sex... Sick of it! what should I do?
2007-10-22 07:37:02 · 12 answers · asked by :) 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
he is 29..
2007-10-22 07:51:20 · update #1
Sometimes its hard to believe that a men can be tired enough to not prefer sex, but it happens. One sugestion that i can give you is to try to break the routine, maybe doing it a little earlier, before having dinner, or you can play a little bit with the food having relations as dessert.
Talk with him about what things turn him on, his fantasies, try to merge his with the things that turns you on and your own fantasies and play something.
One usual turn on is when the lady takes the initiative to do something different.
Give him a surprise, showing up where he works or studies, even if its just for a quickie.
Send him cell messages every hour or 2 hours, just saying of all the things you are going to do to him as soon as you see him. If it doesn't disrupt the activities of both, as him to answer you what he wants to do to you...
Small pictures via cellphone messages can also work, a little bit of your leg, shoulders, even the bra strap, as revealong as you wish. Anticipation will be building and he should be the one going over youwhen he sees you.
Good luck
2007-10-22 08:05:41 · answer #1 · answered by Serpiente de Obsidiana 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sex is very important and if one partner is unsatisfied then there is a imbalance. Talk to him about it. Sex should be spontaneous and not scheduled all the time. That takes the fun out of it. Ask him what you can do that will get him more interested in it on other days. Have you tried to take charge yourself and do something different instead of just waiting around for him. Sex should be fun and enjoyable for both of you, and its important that you both are satisfied with that area of your relationship. No one should feel as if they are giving too much or getting too little. Talk to him, be open and honest and come to an agreement that you both will be happy with.
2007-10-22 07:44:43 · answer #2 · answered by Erica D 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to talk to your BF about your wants and needs. I think you should listen when he gives his thoughts. Then work out a compromise.
I had a BF who would only have sex on Sundays. He had the sex drive of a slug. Eventually it destroyed our relationship. The hurt feelings and sexual frustration bled into other arguments and it went down hill from there. My BF was unwilling to compromise and that sealed the deal.....
2007-10-22 07:46:24 · answer #3 · answered by Poppet 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
huh!?
yeah, mine has always been high too, and my x had zilch unless HE wanted some. then it was boom bangdone
So i think any amount of dressin up isnt gonna help her.
This man is just a wee selfish, probably a momma boy too.....
I would say make him see a DR and if he is a gungho no on that ....maybe give him an ultimatum. Not the idle threats...just tell him you are goin with HIM...to DR. think of your own strategy. And make him quit being selfish, and think of YOU!
Works every time
2007-10-22 07:53:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes...I know the feeling my bf is the same way.
what I would do is talk to him about ur feelings -n- tell him ur needs. Guys can't tell if ur not happy..u have to let them know. Next time ur in the mood try doing stuff to help him get in the mood like kissing on him or doing sexy stuff
2007-10-22 07:52:07 · answer #5 · answered by stacey 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try having sex in the morning when you both wake up instead of at night.
2007-10-22 07:44:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
a 20+ year old low sex drive wooooow that boy needs help
he should be beggin you for it not in vice versa
2007-10-22 07:42:27 · answer #7 · answered by Mack C 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The ball is in your court!! Make you wishes known! Attack him with advances, you got the power to make this happen!!
2007-10-22 13:36:54 · answer #8 · answered by happywjc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
'Fox' is right about the comunication,but he should also see a Doctor.At that age,he should be at it-with or without you(alone,I meant,not with someone else)-just about every day.
2007-10-22 07:47:19 · answer #9 · answered by M 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Buy something really sexy and put it on. Walk in front of the tv and see what happens.
2007-10-22 07:45:11 · answer #10 · answered by Moon Crystal 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋