I really do not appreciate it when people give me a stare that I do not enjoy. I seriously think they are insane and half they time they do it with no desire or no intention whatsoever. I opinion I need some advice to assist in stopping this rude stare. I do not understand why people give me this stare and for what reason. I have come to the conclusion in where I need some advice in making this problem of mine stop and to stop immediately. If you have some advice that will help me let me know. I would appreciate it if you would write me clean messages. Non-sense and idiotic comments will be ignored so do not even waste your time if the quaesitum or purpose of your message is to mess with me or somehow try to intentionally bring me down. I look forward to hearing from some decent messages.
2007-10-22 07:27:57 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
You can't control what other people do. Perhaps they like the way you look, you look familiar to them, maybe they think you are staring at them. Just smile back at them and watch them smile back at you!
2007-10-22 07:37:13 · answer #1 · answered by bobcatlady2u 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wave at them and see how they respond. If they wave back, maybe they were looking at something they liked. If they look away maybe they were just staring off into space and didn't realize they were looking right at you. Or, if you get a negative vibe confront them. My friend had an accident and can't really speak anymore. She uses this little computer thing to make life easier and while at lunch with her mother she noticed a few stares. They weren't nice or simply interested so her mom (who is awesome by the way!) walked right up to them and told them their staring was rude and making them very uncomfortable. Just feel the vibe out and respond accordingly. Good luck!
2007-10-22 07:48:52 · answer #2 · answered by Summer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi..
Is there any reason for you to think these people are singling you out to rudely stare at you?
Are your wearing anything outrageous, or doing something, to cause them to stare at you? Do you have an abundance of tattoos, that might attract glances from people..People are always curious when they see something unusual..That's just human nature!
If not, I can't understand stand why they would seemingly stare you.."Just like that"..It just doesn't make sense.
Is it possible,you're being overly sensitive that people are staring at you, or perhaps a little paranoid?
Perhaps if you feel this is continuing, you might consider
speaking to a professional..It really can't hurt, but can give you some peace of mind..
Good Luck, Hon!
2007-10-22 07:47:44 · answer #3 · answered by howdoilvthee 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Fine. First, this is meant to be serious. If you are noticing people giving you a rude stare constantly and in no particular instances, then it can only mean one of two things, or a combination of them. One, you are dressed and/or act in such a way as to call undue attention to yourself. Two, you are imagining it. Not that people aren't looking at you but that the way they are looking at you is meant as a rude stare. These being the two options which are at the root of your problem, then the solution is to change either or both. Dress or act more like other people and/or change the way you view people looking at you.
2007-10-22 07:37:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would learn to ignore the stare. You can't change other people, you can only change yourself.
You may also be generating stares by the looks that you give off, and you may not even be aware of these actions. Try and give off engaging and friendly smiles to people and it is likely they will return the same to you.
If you tend to dress and have an appearance that is somewhat different then the norm (lots of tattoos, Gothic look, etc.). Then I would revert to my first comment, because you will always get looks. People or always intrigued by those that look different, and many times aren't even aware of their actions. Again, those actions aren't likely to change, nor will you change them, however you can change how you react to them or learn to ignore them.
Good Luck!
2007-10-22 07:37:27 · answer #5 · answered by 10SNE1 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It freaks me out too. When I was in my teens a girlfriend told me to stick my tongue out at them. I had a beautiful friend in my 20s who's husband always said," Take a picture, it last's longer." As an older person, the best thing to do is just ignore it. Involve yourself in reading a book or the paper. I think people that stare have some kind of mental problem myself. It is rude, and it's weird.
2007-10-22 07:35:10 · answer #6 · answered by Kate J 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
They could be intrigued by your appearance & not really notice they are staring.
People stare at me all the time - but I have a lot of facial piercings, and a cute smile ;p
I either give them a dirty look right back, or ignore them. LOL
You can try to smile at them, but if you hate people like I do, smiling may just encourage more unwanted attention.
2007-10-22 07:39:02 · answer #7 · answered by Rue 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you want good advice, you'll have to provide better information.
Why are people staring at you? Is it men leering at you? Something about your appearance or dress? No particular reason, that you know of, they just seem to stare?
This is vital info, because my advice would be totally different for each case.
If it's the last one, I'd suggest counseling, because that's low-grade paranoia.
2007-10-22 07:33:13 · answer #8 · answered by juicy_wishun 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Guess it would help to know what action or situation brings on this rude stare.Are you sure that they mean this to be a rude stare directed at you or do they just stare randomly due to boredom or spacing out. I always give a sweet smile to people and it makes it hard for them to be grumpy with me...hard not impossible. Just as it's hard to yell at a cute little snuggly puppy, its just as hard to be rude to a person who has a smile on their face and a pleasant demeanor.
2007-10-22 07:39:32 · answer #9 · answered by Diane M 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You can't control other people. You can only control your reaction. Maybe you should not assume that it is a rude stare they are giving you. It could be that you're shy or have a guilty conscience so you don't like being looked at.
2007-10-22 07:32:31 · answer #10 · answered by the Boss 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋