I have been married to my husband for 3 years. We recently just seperated for a month and a half but are back together now. While we were seperated we were both with other people. Now, he wants to have a baby with me. I think he thinks if I'm pregnant I won't leave again or that no one will want me. Oh, by the way the girl he was with when we were seperated got pregnant with his baby and had a miscarriage.
2007-10-22 07:10:03 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
what a selfish jerk...he probably just left her because he wants a child and she lost there's...so now he wants you to give him what he wants. hes very insecure trying to keep you tied down that's just one way he satisfies hes own insecurities
2007-10-22 07:16:05 · answer #1 · answered by ledisxo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is this something that was discussed before marriage? I'm not saying that either one of you are wrong for wanting or not wanting a child, but having a child is a major issue in most marriage's! Sounds like something that should have been discussed before marriage because bucking heads about it now will only cause further problems in your marriage! As far as the other woman goes, it's something you'll never forget, but need to let go! You took the man back, by doing so you in some sence forgave him! Quit hurting yourself and live for today!
2007-10-22 07:36:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your husband is wanting to replace the baby he lost. Since you all just got back together you all should focus on your relationship before even considering to have a baby. Since you don’t want one at this time is another reason not to have one, both parents should want. A baby wouldn’t solve your problems. It seems to me neither of you are even dedicated to your marriage. You all weren’t even separated for 2months and you both had affairs. Yes I called it an affair because you were still legally married to each other.
Your priority should be to see if your marriage is savable.
2007-10-22 07:23:51 · answer #3 · answered by Spread Peace and Love 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Thats crazy. You two should have discussed this way before you got married.
And if you two just seperated for a month and a half and both with other people....you weren't dedicated to your marriage. Especially if you slept with other people. I'm not sure if you did, but knowing that he did in a month and a half...well that's dorky.
2007-10-22 07:15:28 · answer #4 · answered by ~*~Stephanie Dianne~*~ 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
A baby solves nothing, and apparently he doesnt' understand that.
Yes you'll have a child to love, but if you have a child while your marriage is unstable, you will grow even more resentful of him.
I think you are wise, not wanting to have a baby with him.
Heal your relationship, or move on, before bringing another person into this.
2007-10-22 07:14:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
if you don't want a baby then tell him, he has previously lost a child prob that is why he wants with you or because he loves you. but i think he is grieving for the baby he had lost. it is your choice and should not be pressured into it. maybe he is scare you will leave him and he doesn't want you to go, and by having a baby he thinks you be together and not leave. you know as well as others that a baby does not solve anything.
2007-10-22 07:17:09 · answer #6 · answered by kutchigal2005 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If it seems that both of you aren't on the same page or are traveling down different paths then maybe you two shouldn't be together. But before you decide to go separate ways you both should go to marriage counseling and try that first.
2007-10-22 08:11:01 · answer #7 · answered by healthnut 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Those sorts of decisions should have been made BEFORE you married.
What a mess!
The two of you need counseling before you talk about making a baby.
Some very immature and selfish attitudes are presenting themselves and with those attitudes YOU MUST NOT HAVE A BABY!
You both have a lot of growing up to do.
2007-10-22 07:19:01 · answer #8 · answered by WhatAmI? 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
And, you're the one who wants to cheat per your last question. A baby won't fix things. Cheating won't fix things. You two need to work out your issues.
2007-10-22 07:26:13 · answer #9 · answered by CC 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He must of gotten a taste of the family life and now he wants children.
I can tell you, one of you is going to have to compromise or your relationship is doomed. A family is a huge decision and deal breaker for all relationships. Either you want it or you don't, you don't move forward with it hoping that the other person is going to change their mind one day....it just doesn't happen that way.
2007-10-22 07:17:21 · answer #10 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think that bring a baby into this mix would be a terrible thing. Take extra precautions to make sure you don't get pregnant.
2007-10-22 07:39:17 · answer #11 · answered by Poppet 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋