I was with my ex-girlfriend for 4 years from 2002-2006. Even though my love for her was unquestionable, I just didnt marry her, just got scared about it. She wanted to get married, and I always told her that we would "soon." I never was with another girl, just thought things were great as they were and I knew in time I would marry this girl. Well, all of the sudden she told me in December that she was tired of waiting and that she didnt want to "waste her life waiting for me and false promises." She reconnected with some friend she had and they got maried 4 months later in April. I was and am still DEVASTATED. I love this girl deeply, I cant believe she did this!! I told her to marry me instead when I found out about it, but she said it was "too late." Since this time, she has called/email a bunch of times telling me she prefers to be with me and made a mistake. But, she cant see herself getting divorced bcs. she would hurt him and herself. Anything I can do?Will she be happy?
2007-10-22 07:03:45 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
all she wanted was a marriage. that is why she regrets her choice. she was impatient and selfish. i don't think she will ever be happy and you deserve much better.
2007-10-22 07:13:13 · answer #1 · answered by buk84 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She said she can't see herself getting a divorce, so that ship has sailed. If she's unhappy, then she needs to get a divorce and then contact you. But to be the "other guy" is just wrong. It doesn't sound like she's ever going to be happy,so don't be drawn into that drama.
I know you're devastated, but you should not be in the middle of her marriage. If she's unhappy, then she should get divorced and then you two can decide if that's what you really want, but she sounds flakey.
2007-10-22 14:11:39 · answer #2 · answered by LAL 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For her, I would have to say she made her bed, now she has to lie in it. People do make mistakes, we are not a perfect mammals here.*L* I do agree that being the"other guy" is wrong also. It's like getting empty calories and a buzz from too much alcohol. You need to occupy your time, who knows, maybe your next great love be your next date. Best of luck!
2007-10-22 17:31:28 · answer #3 · answered by rizing 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well so sorry to hear that.but now she is married you should really back off from her.. she made her choice, just let her know that until she gets divorced that you can be friends(not with benefits if you know what i mean)..
2007-10-22 14:14:56 · answer #4 · answered by wenwen 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
should of married her when she wanted you to...nope she will not be happy cuz she rushed into something that she wasnt ready for..you both fukd up, now you can fix it or leave it alone and continue on with you lives....GOOD LUCK
2007-10-22 14:09:05 · answer #5 · answered by switchmistress 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She made her choice, you need to move on. Plain and simple.
2007-10-22 14:12:06 · answer #6 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
have an affair with her, that way she wont expect you to marry her!
2007-10-22 14:14:54 · answer #7 · answered by Jonathan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋