I read that I'm doing everything correctly and 'prescribed' but he's not responding to any of it. How come I'm trying so hard and he doesn't? When I don't try, the same happens. Catch 22. He knows I'm unhappy with the quality of our relationship, I told him- "I'm unhappy with the quality of our relationship."
WTF already?!
2007-10-22 07:03:45 · 6 answers · asked by Xanadu 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
That's why you should marry a guy that knows how to read! Sorry.Don't throw things at your computer.Really you answered your own question.Start hiding money and assets and get a divorce.If he doesn't care enough to work on the marriage then let him work on the divorce!
2007-10-22 07:29:55 · answer #1 · answered by notagain49 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, he obviously hasnt read the same book as you. Reading books can be valuable, but if it is only practiced by one partner, then it is useless. Its a double effort. He has to try as hard as you. If he refuses to try, even though he knows you are unhappy, then you are banging your head against a brick wall. I suggest, instead of reading books, you tell your husband you want to join him in counselling. Be firm, tell him the relationship is at a point where, without counselling, you are very close to leaving him. Maybe he doesnt understand how bad the relationhsip really is. If you tell him firmly that if he doesnt attend counselling with you then you will leave. I think if you said that, he would really sit up and take notice. If he doesnt, then he obviously doesnt care about a quality relationship. Does he really know how bad it is for you?
2007-10-22 14:11:47 · answer #2 · answered by rightio 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
LMAO! I'm sorry, I'm not lauging at you. I can't STAND self-help books. They are full of s**t. And, guys tend to be pretty resistent to these types of books as well. So, yeah, he's not going to react much to it. How about just sitting down and talking one to one to hash out things. Tell him WHY you are unhappy with the relationship rather than say, "hey, this book tells me I need to tell you I'm unhappy."
2007-10-22 14:08:53 · answer #3 · answered by CC 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
bought the t-shirt.
Don't berate yourself. If your spouse chooses not to respond to your kindness and love, you can do anything...everything "right" and it won't matter. But, be careful not to give up too soon if you really don't want things to be over. Good luck.
2007-10-22 15:04:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It takes two to make a relationship work...plain and simple.
2007-10-22 14:09:18 · answer #5 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You answered your own query:
No matter what you do , you are not happy. Read between the lines.
2007-10-22 14:07:42 · answer #6 · answered by I tell it like it is 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋