I'm in the middle of getting a divorce from my wife. We still live together as she wants me to leave and I think she should. However, rather than keep fighting (especially in front of the kids) I am going to go ahead and leave.
She wants to keep it "amicable", as do I. However, she is nitpicking the hell out of me. Every little thing that she perceives as wrong, she confronts me with. For example, she wants to know how I am going to parent our children after I leave. Specifically, how I plan on being able to help them get their homework done and cook dinner for them. She feels that I am incapable of doing it so is "concerned" about how it will get down after we split.
Last night she was out on the town. I put the kids to bed and retired myself (not sleeping well). When she came home our 3 year old was up and walking around. She rode my azz this morning for being derelict in my duties as a father.
I now feel she will always do this. Should I just get a lawyer?
2007-10-22 06:31:02 · 14 answers · asked by Avatar 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You would be a fool not to.
2007-10-22 06:35:28 · answer #1 · answered by countryguyhfc 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most definitely! She seems to be the type of women that isn't happy with anything that you do! It will cost you but in the long run, especially with you having little ones it will work out for the best. I sincerely hope that you get the children, since it seems that she is more "concerned" about not having you around to help her with them! I think a great father will always provide and you seem to be that type. I admire a Man who can take care of his children! There was a gentleman in church yesterday and my heart felt for him, beautiful children, two little girls and a boy. He just kept loving on them and the little girls hair wasn't done like a mother would do, and I so felt like asking if I could fix their hair but didn't. He so loved those kids and I give him and every other man who is out there and does the same! Men don't always get the best side of things, I should know I have a brother who has had to go through this with the witch that he had a child with. He found a lawyer, in the Dallas, TX area who does an awesome job! She is very aggressive and gets the job done! She works with Dad's that get shrewed by the wife's and want the money for themselves instead of; for the kids.
I don't know where you live, but maybe you might find something similar to this organization for dads.
Best of luck!
2007-10-22 06:44:36 · answer #2 · answered by cowgirl! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's smart to get a lawyer anyway in a divorce but the lawyer wont' help with your wife nitpicking about your parenting. Just suck it up until you live separately and then parent however you think is best for the kids. She cant' nitpick then, and if she makes comments when you drop the kids off, tell her they're your kids too, and as long as they're as healthy and happy as they were when you got them, then she should keep her mouth shut. You aren't just a sperm donor, you're their father.
2007-10-22 08:54:36 · answer #3 · answered by abrennan01 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Know this:
It is impossible to keep any divorce where kids are involved (and your feelings) amicable. No offense but that's ridiculous.
If you couldn't get along while you were married, what makes you think you will afterward?
It is really just tearing everyone else up, this whole idea of ending it amicably. Finish it quick and clean. There is no middle ground.
Yes, go ahead and get a lawyer. I am sorry for the loss of your family and wish the best to you and yours.
2007-10-22 06:51:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-05 19:55:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are in the middle of a divorce, and don't have an attorney, why not?
In most states, both partners can stay in the marital home until the divorce is final. that doesn't mean it will be fun.
2007-10-22 06:43:31 · answer #6 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes get a lawyer. She has no right to try to tell you how to be a parent unless you are truely a bad parent. If you leave you will have visitation with the kids, probably on the weekends, so why is she worried about you getting homework done and cooking dinner, she will have the kids most of the time. Don't leave your home before you get legal advice. Leaving may be seen as abandonment. Talk to a lawyer before you do anything.
2007-10-22 06:39:43 · answer #7 · answered by Girly1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Save yourself the aggravation pal. Move out. She's gonna get the house anyway. At least when she sells it you get half. But for peace of mind and the saving of your sanity...move. that'll keep it amicable.
2007-10-22 06:38:01 · answer #8 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is just trying to make you feel that you are not good enough to be a parent and that the custody should go to her. Show her you can be the best parent ever and have fun living the single life. Life is to short. Show her.
2007-10-22 06:36:47 · answer #9 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes because her lawyer will take you to the cleaners...good luck.
2007-10-22 06:38:20 · answer #10 · answered by Dillon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move out of the house ASAP.
After that, how you go about parenting your kids when you have them is your business. Just like I'm sure you wonder how she will handle alone without you around to do ALL the crap I'm sure you do and she doesn't even realize.
Good luck man..
2007-10-22 06:35:46 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋