My husband and I have been seperated for almost a year and I am filing papers as we speak. I have been cravely male companionship lately. I am by no means naive enough to believe that i am ready for a relationship, but would like to find a friend with "benefits". Any opinions on this ?!?!
2007-10-22 06:27:57 · 24 answers · asked by mutigernurse 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Right here, baby !
2007-10-22 06:31:03 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
You should easily be able to find a man or two that want some no strings attached fun. It may be a little harder and take a little longer to find someone that you want to be friends with also. If you really want the friend part too then you need to become friends first. If you have the sex first then you'll probably only end up being f*** buddies, which is ok if that's all you want. Do you need both in the same package? Why not have a friend and a f*** buddy. Do keep in mind that many men will lie just to get some so be careful that you don't end up with a married man or someone that lied about their STD history. Be carefull that you don't get emotionally involved. Even if the person seems really great you need to date different men before you get seriously involved.
Where do you find them? Just about anywhere. Start up a conversation where ever you happen to go. Most guys are usually willing to have a conversation with a woman that seems nice. There are lots of dating and social networking sites. put up a profile that says you are looking for friends. Respond to profiles. Heck, take a look a the yahoo 360 profiles, you may find someone in your area. Or look at the profiles for people who's answers you liked here on Yahoo Answers, maybe you'll find someone nice to talk to that wants the same thing.
2007-10-22 08:15:21 · answer #2 · answered by kirk1500 4 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Friends with bennes.......great concept. Expecially, when you don't want to get in to long-term relationship at the momemt.
There are two things you need to make yourself aware:
1) Find someone who will be 'benefiting' you....meaning find someone who is a pleaser not a pleasee. Nothing worse than getting into a 'friends with benifits' situation to only find out that you're not receiving any of the benefits.
2) Make sure that you're intentions are spoken upfront. Many issues arise when people assume something. Also, when you're around the man you choose, make sure not to be so 'like a man' about it. Say this is what you want to do but don't dweel on it. Nothing worse that a lady sitting around and talking about she 'loves like a man' :)
Enjoy!!!
2007-10-22 06:42:40 · answer #3 · answered by Blue-eyed Stranger 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋
This is so easy. Ok, you are so lucky to be a girl. And I'm not just some freak out here bullshitting. My wife and I are really into the sex thing. Been for quite some time. Sex has become very much more 'casual' and for pleasure now. Please go on line and look up swingers clubs in your area. It is not what you think. Nothing 'sleazy' or perverted about it. Just regular neighborhood people (couples) who also enjoy sex. As a single female, you are a highly sought out person as far as clubs go. The clubs themselves are trying to find single females to join them, single males not welcome. There, you will have the upper hand and be able to decide who you want to be with. Try it, you'll LOVE it.
2007-10-22 06:38:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
You'd be treading into dangerous territory! Women are much more at risk of becoming emotionally attached to a man than a man is to woman in such an arrangement. But, you do what you want. I'd never try to tell you how to run your life...
2007-10-22 06:33:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
Not sure what you mean by benefits, If you have a friend, or make one just for causal sex, but let them know up front. Are get some play tops, then help your self
2007-10-22 12:30:35 · answer #6 · answered by good old boy 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋
I have always thought there was a place for that. However both parties have to have the same expectations of no strings attached. Can you be just friends and have sex with this person? Not easy!
2007-10-22 06:33:49 · answer #7 · answered by countryguyhfc 5 · 1⤊ 3⤋
When the divorce is final you will be free. There are probably plenty of men who want the "benefits" without the relationship.
2007-10-22 07:01:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
You are going to put yourself in a place where you are going to give yourself to someone for free. You will probably get caught up and want more of a relationship if this was going to happen. Someone is going to end up getting hurt one way or another.
2007-10-22 06:33:59 · answer #9 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Friends with benefits are fine as long as you both are on the same page.
2007-10-22 06:31:29 · answer #10 · answered by Girly1 4 · 1⤊ 4⤋
I really dont know what to say but move on and find u someone that is packing like me
2007-10-22 06:34:21 · answer #11 · answered by cordarius4show 1 · 0⤊ 3⤋