Here's the thing. A friend very recently found out that her fiance had been cheating on her for half the duration of their courtship.
Even after being confronted with this news, my friend said that she would have preferred not to know a thing about it and would have married him anyway.
So my question to you is; if your significant other had been cheating on you, and you had no idea whatsoever (they were still behaving exactly the same, you thought your relationship was going well), would you still want to know?
And from another angle, if you caught your partner red-handed and had suspected him/her of unscrupulous activities, would you want to forget it ever happened and carry on as usual?
The reason I ask is because my friend, who was deeply in love with this scumbag says that ignorance truly is bliss, and she would pay to have her memory wiped of the incident.
So what do you think? Some people want to know everything down to the tiniest detail, and some deny it outright
2007-10-22 06:18:32 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sometimes, the truth hurts so bad . . people think that ignorance is bliss.
The problem with ignorance in a situation like this is that it can lead to STDs and unwanted pregnancies. (to say the least).
I for one, would want to know. Rose tinted glasses don't look good on me.
Just be her friend, offer the shoulder when she needs it . . . I have a feeling that before too long, the truth will be too blatant to just "ignore".
2007-10-22 06:26:53 · answer #1 · answered by desi girl 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't think your friend really means that. She is just hurt right now and not thinking clearly. Then there are people who know that their partners are cheating and choose to ignore the signs or their scared no one else will want them or they stay simply for security. Of course I would want to know if my partner was cheating but it would also be my decision on what to do when I found out. You can't fault your friend for how she feels not everyone feels like cheating is a deal breaker. I say to each is own. I can't say how I would react until put in the situation.
2007-10-22 06:25:36 · answer #2 · answered by blickyjunk 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would want to know what is going on in my world and appreciate the information if someone thought to give it to me. As far as your friend she lives in a fantasy world with her fiance and only wants to believe in the fairy tales of happy endings! I am sorry but she is setting herself up for a future full of pain and sorrow for herself. One day when she awakes from the dream that she has created in this man ....she can never say that no one warned her when the real world finds her alone raising her children. Your girlfriend must have low self esteem with some real deep issues if this is the best that she feels she can do for herself and I would be concerned about her to!
2007-10-22 06:40:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes I would absolutely want to know, because I wouldn't stay around. It would be bye-bye. If they cheat on you then they obviously don't love you or respect you at all. And normally have the pattern to repeat. Either way I would leave, I can never forget, no matter how much I love my husband now, I may forgive later on but never forget and it would probably keep coming up in the future, because of the hurt it would cause.
2007-10-22 06:24:51 · answer #4 · answered by Melissa C 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I would definitely want to know, no matter how painful it may be. I would never want to continue an unfaithful relationship, even if I was truly in love with the guy. I would feel like such an idiot to be cheated on, but to continue on with the relationship even after knowing? That calls for a straitjacket.
2007-10-22 08:16:27 · answer #5 · answered by writeaway 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having been there done that! I would most definatly want to know, yeah they say what you don't know don't hurt but it would hurt a whole lot more after you were married and you found out certain things that just didn't jive with you and how you thought. Sorry might seem a little confusing but the bottom line is that it is better to know, expecially if you were getting married to him!
2007-10-22 06:33:57 · answer #6 · answered by cowgirl! 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can't understand how anyone could not want to know. Wouldn't you want to know if something was truthful or a lie. Anyone who says they wouldn't is emotionally weak. The best part about being ignorant is that you don't know you are but the worst part is that you don't know you are. Anyone who would rather spend their life with some loser than know the truth and move on is an idiot. Sorry but it's true.
2007-10-22 06:42:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell nawwww!!!! No ma'am miss Becky. I would want to know. I value myself and think I am worthy enough to be respected by any man. Why would you turn the other cheek? Better to find out now in the beginning and be married with kids and find out later, ya hear me. Tell your friend he made room for the right man to step into her life. Never, never lower your standards, always reach for high expectations, and you will grasp high expectations. Don't settle for less or you will always receive less.
2007-10-22 06:27:46 · answer #8 · answered by stepintostep 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I found out my ex was cheating after we were together for over 2 years. I forgave him but never forgot and never trusted him again. It ruined our relationship. I would want to know because the sexual playground is a very dangerous place these days, you never know what someone else has got.
2007-10-22 06:30:16 · answer #9 · answered by Girly1 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I'd want to know.
It speaks to the character of the other person in the relationship, and shows that if they can not be trusted to remain faithful, then they simply can not be trusted. Shows that they're a liar, as well, and they'll lie about other things.
2007-10-22 06:24:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋