I have a fear of marriage on what it does to a relationship, help me out please?

Question

I fear the day when I wake up and I don't even process in my brain that my spouse is naked.
The day we don't even think about kissing each other.
The day when we are so use to each other we would not mind not seeing them for a long time.
When most appreciation has died.
I fear all the newness and excitement dying.
It's similar to feeling like water falling down a cliff until there is nothing left at the top.
I already see it dwindling day by day.
I hate it.
It is causing stress on my body that I don’t need and there for giving me the fear to commit.
I know all this is part of life and marriage but I don’t like it.
I am know probably in the wrong here.
Is it out side world that has put these thoughts as to what marriage is like in my head?
Please just give all your opinion or experience in this area.
Thank you very much.

PS: I learned I am depressed so keep this in mind. Yes, posted twice.

Answer 1

Hard for me to say being ive never been married. But I do know I get the same feelings when ive been in a relationship for a long time.

I think its why I havent gotten married.

I dont believe you are in the wrong, you can only do what your self lets you do. You being happy is all that truly matters. If that means not ever getting married, then so be it.

Answer 2

I just wanted you to know that you're not the only woman that feels this way. I too am afraid of getting married. I DO have a great boyfriend tho. We've been together for almost 9 years. We did live together at one point, but now we have seperate apartments. He also wanted to get married...I said no. If you don't want to get married...that's really okay. There's no law that states every woman should eventually get married. Look at Goldie Hawn and Kurt Russel...they've been together for over 20 years. They've never gotten married. They also thought marriage would change things. Leave well enough alone basically. Don't push yourself into a situation that you don't want to be in just because "everyone is doing it" or society is telling you to. Your best bet is to take things day by day. You're over analyzing the "relationship" too much. This would stress anyone out! Don't do that to yourself. Do what's best for you!!

Answer 3

hey I am depressed too! I never used to believe in marriage but as time went on now I do. But its not compulsory and you are young. I think you should just go with the ..I am not ready yet. Hope you start feeling better.