what do you do when you've fallen in love with a client?

Question

i'm an escort, i have a very regular client, who i've fallen for, he is in love with me too, i know i should cut the contact, but i simply can't afford to, he's my main client, any ideas anyone? no snide comments please, i'm not ashamed of what i do. we are both married

to those who wondered, yes my husband knows what i do, in fact encouraged me to fulfill my dream, the client is unhappily married.

Answer 1

sounds like your life is a lil mixed up at present...does your hubby know ur doing this..does his wife know he is paying for affection...if your falling for him and him you sounds like you both are in a troubled marriage....and to have feelings for a client can only be trouble...if you both feel for each other the way you do..then both get divorced...quit your job and get with him....he has been paying for you for how long....he may as well keep it up and make u his wife...then he will prolly do to you what he is doing to his wife now....so in the end you will be broke...heartbroken and alone...think long and hard..you know what yu have to do.....take care and good luck..........

Answer 2

You are married, and you are an escort? How does that work? And now you THINK you are in love with a paying customer. You do know that that is all he is. He is a paying customer who has a family just like you at home.
Your business is risky. You should know better than to wear your heart out on your sleeve. If you are aware of what you do and how you do it this would have never happened. You perform a service and get paid for it. You don't get benefits from being an escort. They pay you and you go home.
You have made a horrible mistake. You either cut your client off or tell your husband immediately. You have absolutey no choice. Your husband should be #1 or you shouldn't even be married. Please don't let feelings of lust fool you into thinking they are love! The two intertwine and in your business you should know the difference.
Either leave your husband or the client.
The only correct thing to do is to leave the client alone as of this second and tell your husband. Honesty is always the best policy. He is well aware of these risks knowing the business you are in.
TELL YOUR HUSBAND NOW!!!

Answer 3

Professionally speaking, it's wrong to mix business and personal lives. Either keep your relationship professional, or change it to just personal.

The more disturbing fact is that you're both married to other people. Even if your encounters are non-sexual, they have become romantic, and therefore you are both cheating on your spouses. You don't have to be ashamed of your profession, but you should be ashamed of living a lie by falling in love with someone other than your spouse.

Either get a divorce and marry your client, or stop seeing your client until you end your romantic feelings for him.

Answer 4

You're an escort and you're married... you must have the most understanding spouse of all time, Rachael.

Your commitment to your spouse comes first, business second. If you can't "un-fall" for your client, then you need to cut the contact.

Consider that your client is using you... he's paying for a service that you provide... that's the way he sees you. Maybe that will help you to "un-fall."

Answer 5

Please don't take this as a snide comment because I don't mean it as so. Are you sure that you're in love with him? I'm not saying your judgement is faulted or that you wouldn't know, but from experience it's really easy to blur the lines between infatuation and love.

If you're really in love with this client and neither of you are making any plans to really be together then you should end it. Simply because the longer you stay seeing him, the harder it will become and it could come and bite you in the butt later on.

Good luck.

Answer 6

You need to cut off the communication between you two and since you have fallen for one of your clients, I would suggest getting into another profession since you cannot control your emotions.
Also, if he is married and seeing escorts then do you really think he would be faithful to you if you two began dating?
That is just not a good situation.

Answer 7

I guess you said your not cutting contact but that wont ever solve anything for you then.If you obviously dont love your husband you need to end that marriage. I dont know about getting with this client,would he be going to see escorts behind your back too?Sounds like a bad situation to me.I hope you find some happiness:)

Answer 8

Well since divorce is now available in "drive -thu"s around Nevada... If it is Love...real true love, then take steps to be together and in Love / happy. Narrow your decisions to two options than write out pros and con - establish how to deal or over come any problems and act. Life is about getting what you want, as you know, so get want you want. If all else fails Jerry Springer would probably love to hear from you!! WE LOVE ESCORTS

Answer 9

i will type it as i see the situation. i honestly mean no disrespect at all (i promise) but as i see it... if you are in love with your hubby how can you be in love with your client as well? if you are not in love with the hubby i would go ahead and get a divorce so the situation doesn't get out of hand. that is if you honestly don't love him anymore and truly love your client.
ask yourself:
how long have i been in love with this client?
is it true or just a fleeting thing??

if its not true love with the client then i would break all contact and find a new client.

Answer 10

That sucks. I'm in a different line of work but also have clients. I make an effort to never allow one client to be more then 10% of my income. That way if I lose them, they are easier to replace and it won't break you. My suggestion is to build up your client base and then cut him off. Good luck!

Answer 11

First of all,I'm glad to hear that you're not ashamed.The world has always needed people who do what you do,not just everybody can do it and probably no other profession gets less respect.On behalf of society,thank you.As far as your' current dilemma,well,you and him have some choices to make.What do you want to do?And who is it going to hurt?How do I balance my needs with the needs of others?
As I see it,your' choices are:Make the switch(assuming he's willing to),Stop seeing him,or continue on with the way things are.It seems to me that the third choice would be the easiest,but,in the end,it's your' call.When the heart's involved,NOTHING is easy,it seems,but the good moments make it worth it :)Good luck.