I have known my bf for quite a few years now and we are very close. I, being bi curious, have always wanted to make a move. I get a little flirty with her and she even asked me one day if I was bi curious ( I guess I was laying it on pretty thick), but I was too uncomfortable at the time to respond (now if she asked me, it would be a little different).
She calls me her lover and we joke back and forth, but a part of me wants to try something with her. For example, how would someone interpret this situation: we were drinking and having fun and she said she felt me up earlier (I didn't recall it) and I asked her if she would like to do it again and she said maybe and winked at me. Is she flirting or just being funny??
I guess my question is how should I go about bringing it up to her and should I or shouldn't I make a move on her? I don't want to affect the friendship in any way and I don't want to lose her as a friend, but these feelings are overwhelming.
2007-10-22 05:51:10 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I would say make a move, but go slowly! Don't just attack her. Make it sensual and romantic.
2007-10-22 05:56:04 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
When in doubt, don't! She is your best friend, you say. I would never do anything to harm or even take a chance on losing that relationship as "best friends" It also sounds as if your friend may be playing with your feelings as well. Once you two get involve with each other and it doesn't work out, there is no going back to the way it was. Nothing will ever make it the same again. Is it worth taking that chance? Not to me it isn't. Only you can do what's right. Listen, and not with your feelings or thoughts. You should already know the answer, it's whether you do what's right.
2007-10-22 13:06:40 · answer #2 · answered by Molley B 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Anyone whos given you a "maybe" answer doesnt know how to give a straight answer. This is obvious that you didnt even need to waist your points on. She obviously wants you. Talk to her before you think anything can be more than a friendly hug or kiss. I mean seriously you obviously flirt with her and seems like she does it too. Hey talk to her and see how much you and her can move forward with it. Rejection shouldnt be something you should worry about it because if it does occur to what it seems, looks like theres a 10% chance it could happen. I SAY GO FOR IT. Its try its the things you are afraid of that are regreful...! GOOD LUCK SWEETY!
2007-10-22 13:10:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
this may not be the best answer, coming from a guy, but you should just keep the flirting going and stuff, and like smack her *** from time to time or grab her boobs or something, ive seen some of my girl friends do that with each other as a joke, but the more often you do that kinda stuff, the more used to it she might get, on the other hand, that might scare her a little, maybe you should just talk to her an tell her how you feel...
2007-10-22 13:05:59 · answer #4 · answered by *Warwick*DC5 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say no Becuase you seem as though you are guys are good friends and lets say you do tell her she could say no and say she doesnt feel that way towards you or she could say yes and you guys go out. Either way you will never get back your old freindship. Sometimes its better to have your friends and it seems you guys may be really close. I feel for you it must be pretty hard but sometimes you just have to make a choice freindship over love?
2007-10-22 12:59:04 · answer #5 · answered by Tiffany 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Definately make a move. It sounds like you're both in the same situation - you want to be with the other, but aren't making a move. Well, someone is going to have to make a move first, so why not you? Go for it!
The best of luck to you!
2007-10-22 13:01:18 · answer #6 · answered by LadySingsTheBlues 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would ask her, if you make a move she may accept it once, and then you think it will be OK the next time, and then she may reject you the next. It's a confusing thing for most people. I would go into it with my eyes wide open, I wouldn't rely on not talking about it.
2007-10-22 13:01:08 · answer #7 · answered by Katlynnelore 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
r u a bloke or a girl? anyway, no matter what, if u really don't want to ruin this best friend relationship, then don't do it, so many girls r out there unless u can SURE that she is thinking the some thing, which it's quite easy to verify after her drink some thing(talk first, see her reaction).
2007-10-22 12:58:58 · answer #8 · answered by Brian A 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't make a move on her because it will ruin your friendship. But yes, she was being flirty when she said she might feel you up again and winked at you.
2007-10-22 12:58:13 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Have you seen Hitch do something like that get close to her if she's feeling you she'll come the rest of the way.
2007-10-22 13:01:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey...just tell her you want to talk and its smething that has been seriously on your mind and you would like her opinion...just ask that she not respond till you have said all you need to...then sit back let her tell you how she feels and go from there...but dont forget to mention your feelings on ruining a friendship....I am sure from what you wrote that she is interested as well....life is a risk.....take it and enjoy life's path..............
2007-10-22 12:56:18 · answer #11 · answered by kandy_kane03 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋