I have two best friends and lately when I've been hanging out with them 2 of us have mysteriously lost money. The 2 of us who have experienced this feel that the other "friend" has stolen the money on all 3 occassions. I've mysteriously lost $70 on one occassion and my other friend lost $200 on one and $50 on another. Im getting angry because we've been friends for nearly 8 years, I know she's capable, but why with us?? We share friendship tattoos!! What do you think is the best solution? I am so frustrated.
2007-10-22 05:26:18 · 11 answers · asked by Ace 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
if you feel she's taking money from you and your other friends
i think it's best to keep your money in a safe place and away from her and try to catch her in lies. if you feel lies in her then it's best to ask why is she lying to you and if you feel it's her taking money stay away from her or just tell her if you ever need anything just ask me. if it happens again it's best not to be her friend. just tell her there's been money missing lately and if any of my friends need money please ask me then steal it. some girls do those things to support their boyfriends drug habit or maybe they do it to feed their child or their just selfish and greedy to spend their money. she's just taking advantage of you because your caring. i would rent a hotel with your friends leave money on the counter and pretend that you're a sleep and if you see the money gone then it's her after all. keep your eyes open.
2007-10-22 06:00:02 · answer #1 · answered by Alex 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Next time, don't invite the suspected thief.
If you're certain she's stealing from you, then it's probably past the point of staying friends like you have been in the past. There's a trust factor in friendships and once it's violated, especially over something so material and petty as money, it's hard to go back to normal.
You could talk to her and tell her you've lost money and you think it's been stolen and ask her if she knows anything about it. But most likely, she'll just deny it and nothing will be solved. If you flat-out accuse her of stealing it, then it'll probably end badly.
So just quietly back off from hanging out with her. She's not stupid - if she's stealing from you, she'll know what the reason is. Then she can decide whether she values your friendship or your money more. If she comes to you and asks why she's being excluded, take the opportunity to tell her subtly that you and your other friend have lost money when she's around, and you're testing whether or not it's a coincidence. Then the ball is in her court to either 'fess up and apologize or take the money and run.
2007-10-22 05:39:01 · answer #2 · answered by squat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You either need to talk to her about it, or stop being friends with her.
If you know she's capable of stealing, then you shouldn't be surprised that she'd steal from you - she obviously doesn't value her friendships as much as her need to steal.
You might want to consider that this is beyond her control - she could be a kleptomaniac who cannot control her compulsion to steal. In that case you should treat it as you would any drug or alcohol addiction - be sympathetic but also refuse to let the behavior continue. Stage an intervention and insist that she get the medical treatment she needs. If she won't agree to treatment, then the best way to honor the friendship is to cut communication with her until she is willing to make amends.
2007-10-22 05:33:13 · answer #3 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you are having feelings of paranoia and need to get some counseling. That is what you, or anyone, should do in this situation. Unless you have a particularly shocking appearance, it is irrational to think that strangers on the street have any interest in you or gathering near you. People look at each other. That's what we do. Other people are interesting to look at. It doesn't mean that they feel ill will toward you or are even thinking about you at all. We have to look somewhere!
2016-05-24 04:19:32 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Confront her about it. That's the only way to get an answer on why it is that she's doing this to you and your other friend. Tell her your concern about the situation and that it may hurt your friendship that you have built in the past eight years.
2007-10-22 05:41:46 · answer #5 · answered by Menace21 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know such a situation is really frustrating.
I think you should ask her calmly. Just assure her that you will maintain your friendship even if she accepts.If she is a true friend she will understand you and will never repeat it again.
If she refuses, then just let her know that the person stealing their money is hurting you. Hope she will regret her deed and feel sorry.Best of luck.
2007-10-22 05:33:39 · answer #6 · answered by firebolt sruti 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to drop that friend. Friendship tattoos don't mean anything if you have that kind of problem. It doesn't matter if it's drugs or kleptomainia, the fact is if your friend steals from you once she'll do it again.
2007-10-22 05:31:08 · answer #7 · answered by Rebeckah 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow that's messed up you 2 should try to set her up catch her in the act if she only does it while you re out then do it then she does it then because she thinks you wont notice and maybe think you would think you spent that much see what I'm saying and when you catch her lay it on her shes suppose to be you re friend and friends dint steal from each other.
2007-10-22 05:44:54 · answer #8 · answered by tina0674 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she's not a friend if she's stealing...
some people are compulsive thieves. i don't know why.
your friend needs some help with this, but whether she gets that help is up to her.
2007-10-22 05:35:32 · answer #9 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why dont you and your other friend(victim) get another tat under the current friendship tat that says...TRUST..
2007-10-22 05:30:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋