My fiance, she'll be my wife in two weeks, and I just discovered that she is pregnant. She' s in the third week. She wants to tell he sister now, her sister has two kids and has had a miscarriage. I want to wait at least til 3 or 4 months to tell anyone. I've heard many first time mothers lose their first and I would prefer she wait at least through the first trimester. Should I give in?
2007-10-22 04:52:53 · 6 answers · asked by goo 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Why wait?
A lot of couples hide the pregnancy and then when they experience a miscarriage there is no one around to know about the loss because no one even knew she was pregnant.
Even if she did miscarry, and had to tell people, that actually helps with the loss - because it helps you acknowledge it and receive support and love from others. Otherwise, you suffer in silence, and suffer alone.
There is NO research to show that a woman is more likely to lose her first baby. The risk of miscarriage is the same with every pregnancy (unless a woman has a pre-existing condition).
Your wife-to-be is already a mother, no matter what happens - good or bad. She should be congratulated for this by all those who are near and dear to her.
Motherhood is not a secret - it's a miracle - share it!
2007-10-22 05:01:37 · answer #1 · answered by Veritas 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if she wants to just tell her sister then I see no harm... but I would wait.. I had 5 losses and everyone knew and its was very hard to tell people that I lost my baby. So wait to announce to everyone. but one or two people wont hurt.
Wait till you have a sonogram done where you can see the baby and then tell everyone. Good Luck!
2007-10-22 11:58:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
We told our entire family when my husband and I found out...we were 2 weeks along....
I am now 15 weeks along and have had no complications (praise God) and all is well...I don't think there are any cons to telling people early...other than all the unsolicited advice from well-meaning relatives...
2007-10-22 12:04:43 · answer #3 · answered by Notagain 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it were me (and I told everyone right away and then did have a miscarriage with #1), I would wait until after the wedding!!!
Wait until 3 mos if you can. It's the grown up thing to do.
2007-10-22 11:59:02 · answer #4 · answered by Lamont 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
it's not true that all first time mothers lose their babies although i did so that is kind of weird but it wouldn't hurt to tell it's very good news and should be shared so go ahead tell the world lol and congrats on the new baby
2007-10-22 12:03:06 · answer #5 · answered by moringurl20 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are happy about it,tell people!!!!!
Why not?My hubby said that he wouldnt say anything until we were 12 weeks,2 days later he was telling everyone we knew!!
Enjoy it!
2007-10-22 17:25:00 · answer #6 · answered by Kathryn B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋