im a 22 yearold male! My girl is 22 and she has a previous kid from a relationship i dated her still and we dated since Aug 19 till today oct 22.. i found out she is pregnant now and its hard to belive that im having my own kid i feel scared and nervous what should i do i feel as im in a shock..
2007-10-22 02:51:47 · 11 answers · asked by Akirah S 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I been dating this girl since Aug 19 till oct 22 2007.. i feel like my mood is changing.
2007-10-22 03:00:46 · update #1
i feel like im mad since i was told she is pregnant
2007-10-22 03:02:02 · update #2
Give it some time to sink in. You have loads of time to prepare for this--over 9 months by my last count!
Whatever you do, though, don't blame your girlfriend. That's not fair. You BOTH made this baby, she just happens to be the one carrying him or her.
From this point on, the baby comes first. I do hope your relationship with your girlfriend gets stronger and you two stay together, however, you don't have to force yourself to be with her for the long haul. Instead, be there for the baby. That is your priority. You are now a dad-be a good one, right?
Once the news has sunk in, you might find that you are excited! A baby is such a blessing...lots of hard work but so, so much fun.
2007-10-22 03:05:04 · answer #1 · answered by Dalice Nelson 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It can be scary, when you find out. My husband is in the military, currently deployed, we've been married for 5 years and he's still scared. He's not even here, lol!
But in all seriousness, it's ok to be scared. Don't feel like you have to be everything at once now. You don't have to date her forever if it doesn't work out, as long as you show her that you have intentions to help her with the baby, but you need some guidance. We all have to start somewhere. You got nearly 9 months to prepare, so save a dollar a dollar there, support her by visiting with her as best you can and always be honest with her! Even though it might seem worse in the beginning to tell the truth, you don't want a little "white lie" coming back at you.
I wish both of you all the best!!!
2007-10-22 10:08:25 · answer #2 · answered by Cat Scratch 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is shocking. My husband was scared shitless, and we were married and stable and everything.
Just assure yourself that everyone has kids at some point, more so than not. Decide that its the best damn thing to ever happen to you. Do what you can to help her out, and look forward to Birth day.
There is NOTHING more wonderful than seeing that baby for the first time. My husband NEVER wanted kids, and he was an asshole my whole pregnancy, but the MOMENT our son was born he changed 100%, he's never been the same since.
Being a good dad is a choice, all you have to do it make it, and then active seek to be it.
2007-10-22 09:56:33 · answer #3 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's natural to be nervous. However, you have a huge responsibility now. Start preparing in every way. A child is such a blessing. Don't worry if you don't feel a "bond" with your baby yet. It's normal. A lot of men won't experience that feeling until they actually see and hold their bundle of joy. All the best!
2007-10-22 10:00:05 · answer #4 · answered by Dana D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's ok, you'll be fine.
It takes 9 months for a reason, so everyone can compose themselves and do what they got to do to get ready. You will be just fine.
It's alright to feel mad or happiness, or whatever our feeling.
Our baby was unexpected, and my husband wasn't horribly angry, but a little bit and a little scared i think too. He didn't even talk about it for a couple weeks. But now, he's cool, and he's being so great!
Just take a deep breath and keep doing what youdo. Support your girlfriend and ask her what she needs. Right now, so early, you both just need to be honest with eachother and support eachother.
Best of Luck to You.
2007-10-22 12:45:12 · answer #5 · answered by BlueBlue 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its scary, for both you and her. When I told my fiancee he just sat there didn't even blink, and stayed like that for quite awhile. I know you are scared, angry, confused and freaking the flip out but you need to just go with the flow. Nothing is going to change this, so you might as well get used to it now right?
My fiancee spent the first 3 months in disbelief, he refused to talk about it and although I understand he was just trying to cope, I needed him. I was and still am sometimes really scared. Right now she needs you more than ever. She need to know that you are there for her, that you are going to love this child. I know I was terrified, and all I wanted was for him to hold me and tell me it was going to be okay.
I promise eventually you will love the idea that you helped create this beautiful child....it just takes time, it did for my guy anyways. Just always let her know that you are there for her. Whether you two stay together forever or just remain friends always let her know that you are in this together! It will all work out, I promise! CONGRATS!
2007-10-22 10:48:12 · answer #6 · answered by For my scars shall mold me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be a man...do the right thing and take care of your responsibilty for starters. Your girlfriend is gonna need you, so be there for her. I'm 22 years old and 30 weeks and four days pregnant and my babies dad wants nothing to do with me or my daughter simply because he doesn't wanna be a dad. My advice to you...don't be like him. Takes two people to make a baby...own up...do your part and be a father to your son or daughter.
2007-10-22 10:02:07 · answer #7 · answered by Amanda 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
RELAX! It's not the end of the world. I suggest you take some time to come to grips with it, then start planning for it's arrival. having a baby when you're not ready for one can be extremely stressful, so please remember that when dealing with your girlfriend. i would say that most people had their children unexpected, and have done just fine. a child usually is a change for the better in one's life. try and embrace the news that way. GOOD LUCK!
2007-10-22 10:05:52 · answer #8 · answered by rosie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, men and women have babies together everyday. Some guys are a lot younger than you but they manage. Be happy! You guys are blessed.
2007-10-22 10:05:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well.... I know is shocking... because you barely know this girl... why you did not use protection???? why??? why you guys broke up???? well, you could still be a good father and don't have to be with this girl... but just try to be the best parent you can to your baby. GOOD LUCK!!!
2007-10-22 10:05:17 · answer #10 · answered by :) 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋