I'm just so down about the whole thing at the moment. I've just been disappointed one more time with a guy I really like. We met in school & spent the last yr in contact & flirting, he told me he was falling for me and we finally met up a little while ago for a day. I thought it went fine but he hasn't asked to meet me again..ok he lives in another state & ive invited him to visit..he said he will come when he gets time..but i feel im doing the running and its not right. I'm so upset about this as I don't often meet someone I really like..this guy...I more than liked him. Why does this happen to me? I really didn't invite this guy to flirt with me, he did it. I now feel rejected and unattractive. I hadn't met someone I liked so much for a few years. Please give me any kind of advice as I'm so down. I'm not a child, I'm a woman in around 40 and have had 2 long term relns. Even a few guys proposed but not my types.I cant get over this rejection now. I need love & sex but cant do casual.
2007-10-22 02:24:03 · 9 answers · asked by person 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I can empathise with you as I've been divorced twice. I just put it down to bad luck and bad timing. I channel my energies into other things now.
2007-10-22 02:30:56 · answer #1 · answered by Ron 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
A lot of factors comes into play when 2 people want to go into a relationship. Often, it is 1 who like the other more.
Believe me, it is not your fault. Sometimes, the other party just don't see you as their partner. You can try to examine your behavior but it doesn't lead you anywhere.
The best is that you just keep going & do not search for love! Let it come find you. Sometimes, it is better to give someone who likes you more than you like him a chance even tho you think he is not your type in the beginning. Who knows it might be the beginning of a very long term relationship?
2007-10-22 02:36:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its actualy very easy to find love, but we all have one small problem. We tend to have too many preconceptions of what is going to be like when it comes along and thats why we give up very easily, when it doesn't come in the right package.
I have been reading this book that has truly been helpful, I think you ought to get from Amazon or something and just have a good read. It will help alot. Its called Finding true love and here is the address http://www.amazon.com/Finding-True-Love-Essential-Discovering/dp/157324564X/ref=pd_bbs_sr_1/104-7343159-0051109?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1193085972&sr=8-1
Best of luck
2007-10-22 09:48:56 · answer #3 · answered by Rajiv T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe struggling is a habit in itself. I was born in alcoholic poverty and left the nest with a habit of struggling every day and a life pattern of never getting anywhere. The path of least resistance would have been to embrace the alcoholic legacy and I was so determined to avoid it that I fought twice as hard after I left my birth family. Finally I learned that there is such a thing as trying to hard. I quit struggling and began looking for what I should actively embrace. It worked for me. I consciously chose NOT to embrace the alcoholic legacy, but quit struggling against it. I consciously chose what I would embrace and embraced it with all my energy. My "luck" changed dramatically.
2016-05-24 03:42:18 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
long distant relationships are the hardest to handle, from what I see it's a waste of your time and energy. The key is not to look for someone, I know, easier said than done. But if you look for someone you will meet some nice people, but it will just send you around and around in a circle. Just do things you enjoy and see what comes your way.
2007-10-22 02:33:14 · answer #5 · answered by Katelynn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's easy to find someone you love, but it's difficult to find someone that loves you back.
Honey, your not alone, I'm presently in the same boat with you. I feel exactly the same way. So, on this question I'll give you a star because I'm hoping some sensible person will give good answers...I need help too.
2007-10-22 02:31:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be patient. I'm a 44 year old guy who's looking and I'm recently moved to a new town. I can't believe how slim the pickin's are so I'm just going to go back to school, get a better job and concentrate on me.
I'm not going to force it like the disastrous marriage I just went through. I deserve better and I'll wait for it. You deserve what you want too.
2007-10-22 02:34:47 · answer #7 · answered by Your Uncle Dodge! 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If a person is insecure, they often come across as too eager or 'needy'. This can push the object of their affections away from them. By working on themselves, so that they develop healthy self-confidence-- they won't feel insecure or unsure, and so will automatically stop the undesireable 'needy' behavior. Then --even if they never find 'the one'-- they can be happy just being themself!
2007-10-22 14:45:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, I could have written the exact same thing myself. Were we with the same guy??? The ONLY difference is that we didn't meet in school.
I just keep telling myself that someone better will come along. It's REALLY hard, but that's what I have to believe.
Best of luck to you!
2007-10-22 02:45:03 · answer #9 · answered by ♥Ashley K. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋