2007-10-22 02:22:07 · 15 answers · asked by Fancy You 6 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
To be honest, in regards to getting married to my husband, I followed my head. It was after I got married that I can honestly say I "fell in love." I am very much in love with him now and have no doubts that he is the absolute perfect one for me (even when I almost hate him!).
When we decided to date we had agreed, "If this is what God has for us, great, if not, we don't need to waste our time." In a few days, I realized he was the type of man, and his family was the type of family, that I wanted to marry. i told him this, with complete confidence, and he agreed. The rest is history.
What I expected was a confirmation within from God to say, "Yes, he is the one" or "No, move on." I received neither, though I sought earnestly. I learned then that if I am seeking, truly, God will not allow me to do something as terrible as marry the wrong person.
I learned, also, that marriage is not about "finding the one," "falling in love," or even "being compatible." It is about being committed to one person, upholding your vows. This is more that just staying with him or not cheating on him, this is a commitment to working continually on the relationship.
It hasn't been easy, but it has been worth it.
I didn't marry the first guy I fell in love with (or the second or third...), but I waited for God's perfect choice. I can't say if I believe He has a perfect one for everyone, but I know He did for me.
So, of these two options, I definitely followed my head, not my heart. But my heart, luckily, followed. However, it was the God's guidance, high standards (for my husband and myself), and patience that truly led me.
2007-10-22 05:46:08 · answer #1 · answered by MommaT 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Lol...why not just ask for the meaning of life? We've all done both at different times. Finding the balance/timing is the trick.
When to follow your heart or use your head. If you follow your heart it's always a big gain/loss. When you win you're euphoric when you loose you're devastated. This is a tough roller coaster to live on day in and day out.
If you use your head you can be content or mildly upset with an outcome and this may become boring.
So it's all about timing and choice...how important is it? Are you ready to take the consequences if it blows up? It's always good to think things through but sometimes you've just gotta close your eyes and jump.
2007-10-22 02:48:30 · answer #2 · answered by Nic 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Love is a heart felt issue. We need our heads to untangle the many contradictory entanglements we do get ourselves into when we allow our hearts to rule the way. But then again we need our hearts to get us out of the many mental alleys we also get ourselves into. Imagine how life would be without one or the either or both.
2007-10-22 02:34:59 · answer #3 · answered by JORGE N 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am a married man, so I follow neither my heart nor my head. I follow instructions.
2007-10-22 04:05:33 · answer #4 · answered by YahooGuru2u 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
The only function our heart has is to beat. Its all in the head, follow your head!
2007-10-22 02:25:29 · answer #5 · answered by dynamyta21 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Haha initially agreed with regard to the song :) and that i'm in choir too and that i as quickly as I positioned on myt scarf I positioned on it purely such as you do... I felt an identical factor on the beginning up yet then you form of get used to it. i think of you need to purely sing at homestead just to kinda get used to it before college starts off. wish i helped!
2016-10-07 09:34:04 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My head. The heart gives really bad advises.
2007-10-22 02:33:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Not only in Love matters , but in all matters the both should go together. Yours,
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2007-10-22 02:25:58 · answer #8 · answered by Raghavendra R 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
my heart! what's head to do with love issues?
2007-10-22 02:28:20 · answer #9 · answered by sarah kay 5 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Both.
2007-10-22 02:25:11 · answer #10 · answered by kim h 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋