Have you ever went into a relationship with the feeling?

Question

you were going to get your heart broken?

I think everyone has mad this kind of mistake.

Why did you do it?
What did you do to try and soften the blow?
How did it all work out?

Answer 1

I have never entered a relationship where I felt it was a bad idea.

However I currently have my heart broken every day, for me that's a part of being human.

My first girlfriend is my wife (100% strike rate), and before we were married things were rosey, although she had many family problems, things were fine (apparently).

As soon as we were married I noticed an almost instant change. The reason, my wife had a really disfunctional family, that looked great on the surface. When you grow up you perpetuate your parents relationships. So my wife became as distant as her mother was to her father.

We survived and things ticked over. The real problems arose when stress was added to the relationship when our daughter was diagnosed with autism.

My wife withdrew from me even further, it felt like trying to stop water with a piece of stocking, it can be done but it's an effort. It's hard to be positive when your child will never be a part of society.

Years have passed and I have endured and have been trying to help my wife without putting more stress on her than she can handle.

She is now on anti-depressants and looks to be on them for the rest of her life. She is working through her issues, and hopefully one day things will be better.

Until that day I live in hope, do what I can, survive and wait.

There is nothing else to be done.

Answer 2

How about this don't go into the relationship if you allready know that something is just not right. How about you become good friends with the person and get to know them first.

Yes I started into a relationship know that the woman I was after was a gambler and a thief but I believed that I could change her ways. I believed that if I showed her something different in her life she would want to change. Instead she got worse because I got to relaxed and let her take the reigns and it failed miserably. I tried over and over again. I took in he three children and pretty much put myself out there.
Why I did it? Because I loved her and I thought it was the right thing to do.

What I did to soften the blow? I started to accept the fact that this woman was destroying everything that I was and I wanted to hang in there for the kids at least and I almost stopped trying.

How did it work out? I ended up great for the both of us. After many times over her making poor decisions and getting fired and all that other crap she finally just left. At the same time I got a new job and started catching up. I was in a position where I was trying to figure out how I was going to make ends meet after her leaving me with the house, two cars, all her bills that she jacked up and no kids (they weren't mine anyway).

I survived the storm and it is a fact that I made it through and I couldn't have done it without prayer. I struggled for a bit but now I have awesome friends and a lot of support. I think she's doing pretty good. In all, we just had different road to take and so that's what we have done so far.

Answer 3

If the other person does not represent the possibility that you could have your heart broken then they are not serious relationships. This is just part of life. If you ever intend to have children you have to assume they will break your heart at some time - it won't kill you!

Answer 4

a relationship? yes I have had that feeling and needless to say it was a disaster. Have I gone into a marriage with that feeling...no. I think its all part of hoping you can change someone. Its human nature to look for the positive especially if youre an optimist.

Answer 5

people take the risk for the chances, like maybe next time it woudl be different and better. you'll never know until you try. it's human nature to give people chances esp. the people you love. getting hurt has no soft blow if it hits you. in a relationship you're bound to get hurt. nobody is perfect.

Answer 6

I got in to the relationship and I got pregnant and now I'm raising my beautiful son by myself and the father is abusive and dangerouse. So basically I got blessed big time for it and yet on the other end it was a total emotional wreck.

Answer 7

yes, cause I loved him so much and I though I can make him love me. I used to tell myself he will come around and its my fault for pushing him into something he didn't want. In the end I was the one that suffered the most. I finally found the courage to leave my own prison.

Answer 8

I was young and stupid.
I broke it off.
He was mad but left
I tried never to do that again, it was hurtful for both of us.

Answer 9

yes, i married him. i never thought it would really happen, long story there...but it did. no heartbreak here, YET..