Please help with advice about a harassing neighbor of mine.?

Question

I have a neighbor that is always making it difficult for my kids to play in their own backyard.There are so many occasions but I will start with what happened yesterday.My three boys were outside playing and my oldest son who is 14 picked up a stick and threw it up in the air and it hit my 5 year old son in the back and he started to cry well, my neighbor had yelled out at him" How about if I come and get a stick and beat you with it?He continued to tell him that he is a punk and that he should come over there and beat his a* He went in the house and started to shut the door and my son told my other son he was a jerk and he opened up the door and said WHAT? What did you say? I should come and beat you as*hole! and then said "Oh, I better shut up before you go and tell you mommy. My son should of shut up but he said "yeah, I am going to tell my mom and then they came in and told me. I have heard him threaten him before. Do I call non emerg. and have it on file. Please help. Thank you.

I just wanted to tell Nikki that the stick was an accident and my son hugged him and apologized profusly.This wasn't the first time he has threatned. The first time he yelled at him for getting excited that my five year old had thrown a good pass with the football and he yelled out good job buddy. My son loves football and teaches his younger brothers and even little sister who is 3 to play football. He told my son to shut the hell up and he mumbled under his breath that he didn't have to and he didn't hear him so he asked him in a rude tone what did you say huh? what did you say? come over here and say that chicken, and as I was walking away from the window and going to tell them to come in my kids were coming in and he said yeah, walk away chicken go ahead chicken. My neighbor has three kids of his own all girls and the oldest is 13. He is only in his 30's. Every time my kids go out in the back he makes it a point to come out and watch every move so when I see him come out they go in

Answer 1

Hi there...i am with you...firstly does your neighbour have teenage kids??
If not he really doesn't have the experience to understand them...sometimes people are quick to judge especially when they havn't been there with kids...usually a neighbour with children will have more of an understanding..not always the case...but I am generalizing...
some people just believe all teenagers are bad news...
I think it would flip your neighbours reality if he could witness your son playing and helping his younger sibling...kicking a ball etc...Your older son is showing defensive signs which is totally fair enough, but he would also be feeling misunderstood..I am sure the neighbour is getting right up your nose, he got up mine reading your issue...however fire on fire never works...I am sure your son is intelligent to understand that at his age...
The best way to put a fiery neighbour out is with water!!!!....Explain that to your son...He is not bowing down, merely standing his ground and proving who he is...a loving big brother who adores his younger sibling...(I know...sibling rivalry and annoyances are always there...but underneath there is Love....sometimes moments like these can remind them)...If your son shows your neighbour the good in himself indirectly by playing nicely, bringing in the washing etc... the neighbour will bow down in shame for judgement...and so he should... Maybe even rub it in his nose and be the perfect Angel...mow the grass etc etc...shock the pants off the neighbour ...until he wants to swallow his words...!!!

Answer 2

I have the neighbors from hell as well. I would report it as a threat to a minor. That way if anything happens you have it documented. I suggest ignoring anything else that he says, and reporting every threat that he makes. There isn't much else you can do, unless you want to put a big sign in your yard telling him to leave you alone. If he is held accountable for the horrible things he is saying to your boys, than he will stop. Good luck, I know how hard it is to not love thy neighbor!!

Answer 3

i would say by the sounds of that one instance your lucky to have a neighbour like that!!!!!
what if that stick would of hit your son in the head or something.
at least someone is watching out for them.
i know if that was me i would say something too.
your 14 year old son need to be hit with a stick if you ask me.
he is old enough to know if you throw a stick a someone it will hurt them or permanently injure them.your other son is only five and needs to be looked out for you should go and thank your neighbour!!!
unless you have a better example of your neighbour threatening your kids you have absolutely no sympathy from me.!!!!

Answer 4

Absolutely!! Don't let that man talk to your children like that. Right now he is only making threats but you never know when those words might become action. Better safe than sorry file a report every time it happens.

Answer 5

Threats of violence should be reported. As an adult he should know better and maybe he needs to be told by the police to keep his trap shut. call them.

Answer 6

you should report this. he has no right to threaten your kids this way.

Answer 7

Yes you should do this.