Hi, I'm 26 years old married for 1 1/2 years. This coming Saturday I planned to travel to Disney World on my own, because no one else can go with me, I've asked! My husband refuses to let me go, he says it's not safe, I can see his point of view but I really want to go to the Magic Kingdom, it is a 4 hour car drive from here and I don't feel he has a right to tell me what to do. All my life I have been told no you can't, no it's not safe etc....... I want to be an adult and do what I want! What are your opinions on this should I stay home or should I stand up for myself and be free and go?
P.S. my husband has to work that day but even if he did not work he would not want to go so I'd never end up going if I waited on him. This is not an assumption but what he said.
2007-10-22 00:03:45 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
go to disney world but i dont know how much fun you'll have if you are worried about what he'll be thinking the whole time
you might tell him you would like if he came with and bc he has to work maybe you'd be willing to postpone your trip for 2 weeks max and if he still hasnt foudn the time to go with you in that time then go on your own
but really--- i dont think it will be fun alone... i have been several times and never once met anyone traveling solo... no one to take pics with... it is possible to ask a friend or even a coworker...
its just one of those places that is more fun with someone else...
2007-10-22 00:14:06 · answer #1 · answered by smittnlittlkitn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think going by yourself will be a lot of fun---can you ask a friend to go with you? Sometimes it is difficult for another to make plans with short notice and the tickets and travel might be too much expense for some friends.
Your husband is treating you like a child--you will never go anywhere if this stays the norm---its not safe to step out of your house--does he allow you to drive a car? That's definitely not safe. You will have to branch out on your own and get a group of friends who will go places with you.
2007-10-22 07:19:04 · answer #2 · answered by skyward 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OH if he doesn't want to go even if he could..plan your trip make all the necessary plans to make it a safe trip. and girl go to Disney world he has no right to tell you NO if he doesn't want to take you.. HE WILL GET OVER IT.. If you don't do this you will regret it for the rest of your life.. If you think you can do this do it.. believe in your self you can and make it happened..show him that you can do things on your own if he is not available.. I bet you he will find a way to go if you say your going anyways.. but if he don't plan your trip and take it.. good luck.
2007-10-22 08:01:31 · answer #3 · answered by boricua_2290 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should go but if i were you i would just wait until someone could go with you, it would be much more fun that way. Why doesn't he just go with you when he has a chance? Thats mean he says he wont' go even if he had a day off! maybe wait till you have kids and you can all go then, I don't think Magic Kingdom is going anywhere!
2007-10-22 07:15:21 · answer #4 · answered by nik 28 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think you'd have much more fun if you took a friend along with you or a relative, then husband would not worry about you.
I do believe that husband should just try it; he might like it. My husband used to say he hated musicals; until we saw Chorus Line, Jesus Christ SuperStar, and Tommy live. He just didn't want his 'guy friends' to think he was unmanly; now he tells them how great the musicals were. Same with me, thought I'd never enjoy football until I joined in and went to games and learned the terms; now I love that also. You limit yourself when you close doors to new experiences.
2007-10-22 09:31:04 · answer #5 · answered by pussycat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You want to do something that makes you happy. A husband should want his wife to be happy, other wise why get married.
Follow your dream. When I was your age, I got it ingrained in my head I could do nothing because it was not safe. Later I met accomplished women in my career who had done plenty of traveling and not once lent an aire of worry about safety. Their travel experiences were a big part of what helped them gain confidence, and experience that transferred over into other areas that helped them become accomplished in their careers. I finally lied to my mother about my traveling, and kept being an adult. Acting, thinking and being treated like a little girl will help no one in her adult life.
2007-10-22 07:23:41 · answer #6 · answered by so tired 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that is really sweet that your husband is trying to protect you... it means he loves you enough not to want something to happen to you on a car trip like that... like breaking down on the side of the road .... you would be vulnerable...
also, it would be much more fun if you can wait and go with someone ... wait until one of your friends or family members can go with you, and you would probably be better off.
..... otherwise, see if your husband would drive down there with you, and spend time somewhere he wants to see, while you spend time at Disney... maybe stay in a hotel overnight, then you can see Disney and he can spend the time doing what he wants... propose a compromise with him .... and turn it into a little getaway ....
2007-10-22 08:34:32 · answer #7 · answered by suisse shoggi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Disney World is a fantastic place, girl. But how long to you intend to spend there? One day is sometimes not enough n to go alone might not be that fun. It'll be good to go with friends who enjoy such place. Dont rush... if I were you, I would ask around for friends to go. Safety wise, I think, it would be safe for sure. Hope the best for you.
2007-10-22 07:22:58 · answer #8 · answered by candie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand what you mean, but i think you shouldn't go by yourself find somebody a sister, brother , family member or special friend. i live very close from magic kingdom and everything is beautiful, but not safety. try one more time to converse your husband to go with you that way you both can get away, I'm sure you both need it. Good Luck !!!!
2007-10-22 07:30:36 · answer #9 · answered by evy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um - he is not "letting" you go?
Who does he think he is - your father?
While I understand marriage is compromise and making decisions together - my husband does not posess the right or the power to forbid me to do anything. You're an adult and if you want to go to Disney then go to Disney!
2007-10-22 07:12:17 · answer #10 · answered by Susie D 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋