Are children expected to GROW UP to quick?

Question

Dress too grown up, make-up, boyfriends/girlfriends, drinking !

What do you think??

Answer 1

I don't know that they're "expected" to grow up quickly but we certainly leave them no choice.

We've barred them from all of the stupid childhood things that we enjoyed. I grew up in the 80's/90's and stuffed myself with fattening, sugary food and never worried about getting fat or making healthy choices, spent all day outside playing never worrying about violence or the inappropriate behavior of adults, played dodgeball, kickball, tag, etc. and no one ever made us stop because it was going to hurt someone feelings if they were picked last for a team, etc.

Now we have a bunch of idjits telling kids that they can't be kids. They can't play, they can't hug, they can't eat candy (if they're not eating it then who is? I'm 24, I can't eat gummy bears all day and call it food anymore), they have to worry about getting fat, they can't play outside because it's a big, bad, dangerous world. They have nothing else to do but adult activities. They have nothing else to do but watch inappropriate tv and try to emulate what they see. Nothing else to do but get into mischief. It's ridiculous and it's our fault.

Answer 2

Yes. I've thought that for years. They are expected to be able to be more things and handle more things than we did at their age. School for example. They are doing things at elementary level that I remember not having until at least middle school. Some schools have started going year round, just like a job. They don't give the kids the summer off like they should have. Thankfully I'm from a small community and my daugther still has summers off. I don't think that should be something that is taken away from the kids. They need time to be kids. And as far as boyfriends/girlfriends, sure I had what I considered a boyfriend in kindergarten but not like they would even consider today. My daughter has seemed to be pressured to be a part of this "needing to be more grown up phase" in school. But not in my house. She has time to be a kid. She's 11, but yet has been "borrowing" my make-up for at least a couple years. But I only allow eye shadow and lip gloss. Some of her classmates though have had the whole face put on. I think it looks ridiculous. They are too young. I was 17 before I even started to wear any kind of make-up. As for drinking, that is not a problem with my daughter and I would hope it never will be. She takes that type of stuff seriously and just last year graduated from the D.A.R.E program. A lot of parents don't monitor their kids behavior enough. Whether it be what they watch on T.V., the games they play, what sites they visit on the internet, etc. But again, in my house all that is monitored. I could go on and on about this, it is something I take very seriously. But I think I made my point.

Answer 3

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Answer 4

Well yes, the government expects children to grow up, have fun as a baby, live as a toddler, go out like a teenager, act more mature like an adult and start a new family so the population expands. But other than that, there is no reason to grow up quick. When you're small you want to grow up really quick, be as mature as you're parent, grow taller and gain more knowledge. But as you grow up and start life as an adult, you realize that being an adult is hard and tiring, and you regret growing up so quick when you just want to live as a child again with people caring for you and tucking you in bed at night. But for parents, no, they do not want their children to grow quick, they love their child so much, they want to take care of them for the rest of your life, even if they have to sacrifice something. They just you to stay like a baby, when you were cute and cuddly, that's what my parents say. :) But some parents want their child to grow up quick and experience the outside world earlier do their always prepared for what's outside. They want them to start a good career, earn money, marry a good wife/husband, have children and if their lucky enough become as famous as Tom Cruise.

Answer 5

Yes - definitely. It is very sad.
It is caused by the media and magazines. Children are exposed to too much through telly and internet. I think soaps such as Eastenders should be put out after the watershed for the type of behaviour that they contain should not be seen by young minds.
The media has more influence on kids than parents, who wish to protect their kids.

Answer 6

Yes. but is also up to the parents to take a bit of control. On the other hand, there is so much pressure. I see 7 years old wobbling in high heeled shoes!

Answer 7

Oh yeah. see it everyday. If we had gone out of the house with makeup or dressed that way ,we wouldnt have got very far before being marched right back up to our rooms to change and wash our face. no boyfriends until 16 either.

Answer 8

yeah but i protect my children from all the crap on tv and the world in general im sending them off to live on a desert island when they turn 16, the other day i was in asda and was horrified to see they do push up bras for 6 year olds what kind of a world is that??

Answer 9

Heck yes, it makes me wanna cry. there is too much pressure being put on us and it is not good for our mental state or for our physical well being! our parents and other adults need to stop putting so much pressure on us to be. . . well. . . perfect, along with too grown up and with too much responsibility for people of our age to be able to handle well. we need time to play and have fun!

Answer 10

yeah, thats why so many are going off the rails - theyre meant to be children, not mini-adults. all that pressure to do well is literally making them go crazy