Basically i was very much in love with a girl she was my everything! She went to university and left me for other men. Now i am depressed, lonely sad and just can't seem to be happy with other women! I have a new gf who to be honest.. i can't seem to care for which i know is wrong, but she's forcing herself on me and i can't help it :( I can't seem to get turned on by other women, is it becuase maybe i'm depressed? My diet is poor and am living on bankrupsy, lost my job etc which is bad too. If it is depression, how do i help myself, not being able to please somebody is killing me, shes attractive and all but.. i dunno just seem to rise to the challenge, lol. Also, does anybody find condoms restricting, i can't seem to get the full whack while wearing them are like different sizes or something, i feel like crying when putting them on! haha. Ok thanks guys. Just want to know if this is normal or i'm just a total loser (your not allowed to say that) =)
2007-10-21 22:42:02 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Men's Health
First, you are very normal. You loved the girl and you are feeling loss, maybe even similar to if someone you had loved had just died. The person who gave the first answer obviously does not understand this.
If you lost your job because of the breakup, you may be depressed. This does not mean that anything is wrong with you, depression due to loss such as the type you have experienced is very normal and usually goes away in time. Though for some people, the amount of time required to adjust can be quite long.
In order to deal with the loss and to be able to function in the meantime, you should discuss these issues with your doctor. Chances are that you will be prescribed an anti-depressant for a period of time so that you can function until you can get over this loss.
Modern anti-depressants are usually very well tolerated with a minimum of side-effects. Some anti-depressants do have an impact on sex-drive, so be sure to explain to your doctor that you have difficulty getting an erection now, as your doctor should find you an anti-depressant that does not make this problem worse.
The most important thing to remember is, that while you may never stop missing this girl, in time you will be able to stop feeling the loss so strongly and will be able to build new relationships. All you need is time.
2007-10-21 23:00:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Felt exactly like you after similar circumstances.I did not have any feeling down bellow for months after my divorce.And yes you right to say that condoms kill the feeling and putting the damned think on kills the momentum.I also have work and financial troubles.Keep going my friend.The earth is still spining around and the sun comes out every day too.It will take a while untill you become normal again.It's just the body's way of coping with shock and depression.One bit of advice,keep trying and one day all of a sudden it will all be normal again.Bestest of luck.Remember life is great and human beings are amazing in adapting to new situations,especialy if we have to.Panos
2007-10-21 22:50:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-04-09 21:19:53 · answer #3 · answered by Michele 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-02-15 21:40:05 · answer #4 · answered by Wilda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stress and depression affect sex drive.It is temporary.Forget the past.If you have missed the bus wait for the next.You will be able to regain your capacity to enjoy sex.It is not a wrong thing to fall down.But if you donot try to get up it is a mistake.
2007-10-25 23:54:29 · answer #5 · answered by leowin1948 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know what you are going through...a girl ripped out my heart and i wanst interested in sex for a while...i was depressed..i saw a doc, talked to my friends and fam (not about my lack of libido, but about the girl). you need to get things off your chest. stress and depression definately cause a lack in sex drive. see a doc and talk out your probs with fam and friends as well. eventually you will be able to get back into the dating game and all that. good luck.
2007-10-22 02:02:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you are depressed, maybe you should finish with your gf for the time being and give yourself some time to recover from the loss of your previous girl?
give yourself some time to heal chick and you'll be ok. don't rush into anything.
2007-10-21 22:54:31 · answer #7 · answered by Missfit 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depression/ stress has a definite affect on manyfunctions, not least of which is sexual. give it time, treat yourself and those around you with kindness, realize that everything will get better if you want it to.
peace!
2007-10-21 22:50:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
man, it sound's like she really riped your heart out, i know it sound's hard to do, but just stop thinking about her, put her out of your mind, she wasn't the right one for you anyway, it's best to find out before you married her, so good luck, and time heal's all wounds
2007-10-21 23:36:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There were a few too many laughs in there for my likening.
Give it time buddy
2007-10-21 22:47:05 · answer #10 · answered by spick&span 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋