First of all im quite a friendly person. I'm not shy either. I've changed schools 3 times in my life and each time i moved to a different place for some years and so I lost touch with my group from the previous school. Ive just begun college and its hard to make friends here. I mean I know a lot of people around but most of them already have a group of friends and its hard getting into someone'e circle not to mention awkward. Im just bored to death now. I have no one to talk to or hang out with. The only people I talk to are my few friends from my previous school and they are in other cities now for college too. I really dont know what to do. Feel like jumping out a window.
2007-10-21 21:09:58 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I actually have a roomate but she has her own life and we just live together we are not friends really.
2007-10-21 21:22:41 · update #1
I'm in a similar boat but I consider it a blessing and only wish I could distance myself more . If life gets boring it me not others .
2007-10-21 21:15:25 · answer #1 · answered by dogpatch USA 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure the nature of your college, but the only way I made friends in a campus like mine (which was 30,000 people!) was to join some clubs. You don't have to be super active in them--it just can give you a good reason to go have some snacks and talk to some people about stuff other than school. And if you really want to get to know some of those people, volunteer to take an active part in planning something. You'll get a lot closer with those folks in a hurry.
It ain't always easy to find people you click with in a big place without trying. But remember that there are a lot of other people in your same position at school who desperately want to find other friends, too.
2007-10-22 04:35:07 · answer #2 · answered by flipmix_sf 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm in the same spot as you, is there room for two on that window you plan on jumping out of?
Seriously.
I think having friends is a good thing and it makes for good times. Then again, sometimes it's nice to be alone and just have "you" time...that way you can get more things done and have time for other people in your life.
However, not having buddies to hang out with or talk to is just a constant reminder of how lonely you really are, and it doesn't really make you feel any better about some things.
I guess all you can do is get out of your comfort zone and start making new friends at school and other places you go to. That's what I try to do, I will just introduce myself to people or a person like if I'm at a club or a bar for a drink...and for the most part people seem to be pretty friendly and welcome your conversation. I try to keep the conversation short though, that way I don't bug them too much, and then it leaves a little "mystery" to me, and they might be inclined to ask more about me later.
.Anyways....I feel you on this one. It's tough...it's all about the mental stuff though, you just have to be strong in that sense and figure out a way to overcome the problem and make it better for yourself.
2007-10-22 04:22:20 · answer #3 · answered by Murphy's Law 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Death is not the only solution 2 ny problem... pls understsnd that first!!! since even i have gone through dis situations of changing the skool n all... i still keep in contact wid my old friends by callin them regularly... so don't b worried now since you have entered collage life u can have more friends........ since ur a frindly person y don u spk to a gul whom u kno very well in ur class, make her feel intrested in you by sharin sum jokes, o discussin sum important matter, go out often wid her 2 sum movie o sum shoppin ,contact her wen ur board!! in this case u will get a gud friend!! cheer up dude!! don b worried jz pray n have a little faith!!
2007-10-22 04:26:34 · answer #4 · answered by Andy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the start of the next semester I think you should move on campus if you can they will place you with a roommate (instant friend) Or try hanging out where the locals hang out and go on from there. Good luck to you.
2007-10-22 04:18:26 · answer #5 · answered by Cindy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey cheer up! I'm a friend, there will always be a person whom God will send to help you and cheer you up in times of your need.
And don't give up, don't be shy also.
Raising up your confidence may help.
So just be who you are, and there will be that one person who'll accept you for who you are.
2007-10-22 04:57:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i will be your best friend just log on to vicky_badboy99
2007-10-22 04:36:15 · answer #7 · answered by Vicky 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋