so this is the story ...my boyfriend said wed spend the day together but he went to work. that was fine...then he said wed spend time after work and that was kool...but when the clock turned 7 he said he had business to do....which i know about..i made dinner..he said hell be late...but around 10 he said he wont make it so i called asked were he was and he said at his friends house i got angry ....he came and said he cant handle the stress...he cant be with me....i actually begged him(something i said id never do) to give me a second chance and he said hed think about it ...i said i could change...he said he loves me so much but cant handle the stress...how can i show him i can change...?all i want to do is lay in bed...and cry...im so scared im scared hell decide to not give me a chance...help
2007-10-21 20:19:04 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Thank you guys all of you...i am a mess but i just gotta keep strong..i didnt do anything wrong i got upset after he broke the promise he made and he lied to me...but like you said i should wait it out and he wrote me this morning and he wants to see me at the lake...so yeah well see what happens...but thank you guys so much for all your great advice
2007-10-22 08:11:57 · update #1
What you should do is find another boyfriend, you do NOT "need" him in your life at all. If you try to change your behavior when you did nothing wrong just to please him, you will find yourself trying to do that for the rest of the time you are together, and failing. You will never be able to "change" enough to suit him, especially since he would have to change to make this relationship work. While you might think he is your "boyfriend" he obviously does not. This is called abuse and you should not put up with it, nor attempt to change yourself in any way. Realize you have made a mistake thinking he is necessary for your happiness and move on with your life. Only you are responsible for your own happiness and this guy obviously does not care about you at all. If you stay with him it will only get worse with time. Good luck.
2007-10-21 20:34:40 · answer #1 · answered by Wiz 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let him go if he really loves you he will come back. you dont need anybody. try engaging in positive things. The same thing happen to me before and i thought i was going to go crazy. I couldnt sleep, had no appetite was a total mess. But i didnt call him and a few days later he came into his senses. DO not call him. You must act like you are ok. dont ever show you care too much or he will step all over you. Let him look for you. you have to be cruel to be kind!
2007-10-22 03:48:25 · answer #2 · answered by dynamyta21 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, pick yourself up off the floor. You don't need a man to survive! If he told you he can't do it, respect his decision. Let him have his freedom, because you can't hold him back. Whatever happened for you to deman a second chance, if it was your fault, just don't do it again when you meet the next guy. In the meantime, get out of that bed, and go meet someone else! Go to church, art exhibits, other shows, social gatherings--don't wait on this man!
2007-10-22 05:01:57 · answer #3 · answered by WonderGirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to stop begging and acting desperate thats got to be the biggest turn off for a guy. Show him u can change by not acting like your life isn't worth living if he isn't innit
2007-10-22 04:50:58 · answer #4 · answered by princesskelz 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You don't need him...you do not need a man/women to live! and why would you want to waste your time with him? he doesn't want you anymore, can't you see that he is making excuses not to be with you? it is really hard to do but let him go! you do not need to change for somebody to love you!
Maybe if you are jealous and crazy, then maybe you would have to, for any relationship but if not, nevermind that guy!
it is hard but you won't die!
2007-10-22 09:14:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you need is to curb his a ss. Sounds like he is getting his needs met elsewhere anyway.
2007-10-22 03:38:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think that u shouldnt think its ur fault--cuz its not. u seem really nice...i think ur 2 good 4 him
2007-10-22 07:28:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
why u think that it's ur fault, if ur boyfrnd realy love u than he could feel ur problem, ur mind and never heart ur feeling.................................so, never be upseat........................ if ur's love is true he could come back in ur life................take care
2007-10-22 03:42:36 · answer #8 · answered by nill 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋