My mom passed last July 06 and I think about her every day and just miss her so much. Alot of people that have lost loved ones say they feel their presence around or see signs that they are around, or have dreams. I haven't had any of this happen, I don't just sit around and dwell on it every day, I have children to take care of. I just miss her so much, is there anything I can say or do to feel my mom's presence around.
Sorry if this sounds odd to some, I guess it is easier to ask strangers these questions than people you know.
2007-10-21 20:05:04 · 23 answers · asked by Lucy 5 in Science & Mathematics ➔ Alternative ➔ Paranormal Phenomena
I am so sorry for your loss Heather I too lost my mother 2 years ago so I know your pain and no your question is not a silly one.It is true that some people do feel the presence of some loved ones after death.Just because you have not felt her presence does not mean she has left you . I believe you do not feel the strong presence of your mother because she knew that her duaghter and family was going to be fine with out her so she went to the other side to continue her journey Heather your mother is still with you look around you.Look at your beautiful children or in the mirror at yourself at your brothers and sisters (If you have them) your mother is all around you I can tell you this from personal experience that just when you least expect it or when you are in times of turmoil you will feel her presence. she is still there with you heather.Time will heal your pain take comfort in the fact that someday you will see your mother again .I am so sorry for your loss. god bless
2007-10-22 10:26:07 · answer #1 · answered by Ron F 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry for your loss. I lost my mom in 1984 and still miss her every day. I felt her close by right after she died, I think because I was so devastated, then it gradually stopped. I only feel her presence now if I'm very upset about something and I've come to the conclusion that she's busy doing important work on the other side (!) and that I need to recognize that she's there for me whenever I need her, but she's not going to be with me constantly. Just relax about it and if you need her, just ask for a sign. Sometimes it will be something as subtle as a puff of wind on your hand...
2007-10-22 08:12:23 · answer #2 · answered by siobhan 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You obviously would have pictures around of her? Maybe if there is something you and her shared specifically, you could do this with your kids to relive the memories? Other than that it will never be the same physical presence which you probably feel the need to have. There will always be a void and do not worry if you do not dream of her, you know consciously that you miss and love her forever and always!
2007-10-22 03:15:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not everyone has the same experiences when someone they love dies. You say you don't feel your Mom's presence, but you do think about her almost every day. Believe me if you are thinking about her, then she is there in your heart and will never go away. Keep your memories and thoughts always of you Mom and whether you feel her presence in some physical way or not, she is with you. God Bless you.
2007-10-22 03:13:51 · answer #4 · answered by Diane B 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
you have already answered your own question. You said your married and have children. Your life is busy and full and your mom is not in the forefront of your mind. Many hauntings are caused by the people themselves. Since you have a busy full life, your not dwelling on what has passed. You sound like a strong independent woman and your mom lives on in your memories, be happy with that. And remember, not everyone who thinks a loved one is is their presence, does not mean its real or even its really their loved one.
2007-10-22 20:31:44 · answer #5 · answered by nuff said 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
My guess is that she has come around you but you have dismissed it as coincedence for fear of being thought silly. You are also distracted, you said that you have children, you are probably very busy and don't have so much time to motice such things either. Be on the look out for scents, a sudden whiff of a dish that she cooked, or a quick scent of perfume or powder that she wore all of the time. Also, you may suddenly look up and see her name written on a sign or her initials on a license plate. You are not remembering your dreams well either. Write them down upon waking so that you can start to focus on remembering your dreams. Also, sometimes when a perosn dies they are so busy on the Other Side recuperating or just going back home that they really are not visiting so often. And no your question is perfecty normal.
2007-10-22 07:34:03 · answer #6 · answered by Kimberlee Ann 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You are probably "trying too hard" to "sense" her. My mom passed away a long while ago (before I turned 6)and I feel this way a lot. But it seems that I sense her most is just random. Like when I am not thinking of her and all of a sudden I "feel" her. Sometimes when I am really upset about it it cry so hard for her (and I am a grown woman, mother of 3 but yes, we ALL "need our mommies" now and then) and sometimes when I feel like that and I cry a good cry, this sense of peace all of a sudden, not sure if its cuz she is "soothing" me or I am just cried out? My kids talk about her at the most random times,too. Once my daughter, who was 3 and with who Ive never even SPOKEN of my mother to, came in my room from the living room, where she was sitting alone,and told me "I dont want her to visit" and looking scared and I asked who and she pointed to my moms picture. I was amazed! Another thing: they will come to you in your dreams but they usually will just "be there" they will not speak with you. This is how you know they truly "vistited" you. and whether you can sense it or not, girl, your mom is there with you believe me:)
2007-10-24 14:46:04 · answer #7 · answered by t 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to hear of your loss.
When people say they feel deceased loved ones around them they are speaking of the strong memory of that person. Please do not feel as if you are irregular when you don't feel the same thing. Also, please don't see this as the spirit of your mother refusing to be around you. Do not see your current experience in any way deficient. See this as your own personal way of coming to terms with your loss.
There are many people out there--myself included--who have lost loved ones and who choose to mourn in a way that doesn't rely on a supernatural mechanism. I hold my memories of my deceased friends and relatives in high regard.
I do not remember them as saints or hold up these memories in some revered manner as if they were all holy experiences or anything like that. I remember them as the human beings they were--good, bad, imperfect, but people close to me and whose presence I miss.
2007-10-22 20:34:34 · answer #8 · answered by Peter D 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
People who hang around after death don't move on because they either have unfinished things to keep them here or were not ready to die. Often they feel the need to help family and friends. Most likely she felt that you would all be ok. She was ready to move on and ok with her death. Also some people who lead a bad life, evil persons, are afraid to go no because they are going to hell. They would rather stay trapped in between plains than face judgment. I don't think she falls into that group.
2007-10-22 21:11:29 · answer #9 · answered by John S 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry that you Mom passed, one can tell by your writing that you are really missing her. By way of your missing her you may possbily be missing signs of her being around. If you feel more comfortable doing so, talk to her in private. Also try to remember that to spirits on the other side time is a relative term. It could be next week or it could be years but when she is ready and is able, she will come to you.
2007-10-22 09:36:47 · answer #10 · answered by seerlights 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋