Me and my fiancee are 23 and will be 24 when we get married. We boh have good jobs and a nice stable home. We've dated for a year and a half and known each ther for 3 years now. We plan on trying to get pregnant right after we get married. I really want to get married before I get pregnant but it's really hard to wait when so many people around you are having kids. I know a year isn't that far away but it seems like it when you want to be pregnant now. Right now we don't have any money saved up for a baby. We're gonna start saving in Jan of 2008. In a year we'll have $5,500 saved up to start trying to concieve. We'll have $13,000 saved up total around the time our baby would be born in like 2 years. I just want to know if anybody else has been in my shoes and couldn't wait to get pregnant? Did you end up waiting or did you give in to temtation?
2007-10-21 17:19:20 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
You know what you could do? Don't use condoms or birth control... have sex as a normal couple. Don't "try" and don't "prevent". If it happens it happens, if it don't it don't. If it doesn't happen and you get married, THEN start really trying. This way you won't have to decide on whether or not to try.... everything happens for a reason and if it is meant to be it will be.
2007-10-29 03:37:50 · answer #1 · answered by ϑennaß 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 57 years old and back then people who got pregnant before marriage were looked down on. Also I only knew one person who got pregnant in High School And her parents sent her out of the country (gossip was that she got an abortion) I am just pointing out that it used to be that people waited for marriage.
Another thing that is current or in the past is that no one ever really is ready to afford a baby. I think you are wise to start saving money
Pleases be patient for kids. I wish I had waited. I never regret my kids, I just wish I had more life experiences.
It is very easy to plan when to have a baby. All three of my kids were beyond my control. I have friends who had babies even with birthcontrol.
I would advise you to wait until you are married. You are in your childbearing yeas and it is a powerful pull to reproduce.
be patient. Why not push the wedding up closer?
2007-10-22 01:08:34 · answer #2 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I totally gave in and recieved my life changing blessing! Being financially stable is important but God provides for all of his children.
I have to share this story of how I've been blessed...
My mom works at HEB (a grosery store) and they give $7 dollar off coupons when you buy different baby items which makes them free! She found several on the ground and was given many more. Right now I have 30+ packs all the way up to size 6!!!
I have been given bags and boxes of nearly new clothes not to mention the baby shower. I have countless stories!
Don't stress about it, when you both agree to stop contraceptives the LORD will bless you too, when HE thinks you are ready.
Sadie is right, this will change your life totally. Treasure every moment as it is.
2007-10-22 00:41:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just enjoy planning your wedding and spend some quality time with your soon to be DH. We waited to TTC and the time we spent together before having a baby was precious. We took trips, slept late, went out a lot, and had a great time. THEN we decided it was time. I know it is hard to wait when you want something so bad but believe me you will treasure the time you had alone before the baby was born. Good luck!
2007-10-22 00:32:27 · answer #4 · answered by sadielovesgrover 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
me and my boyfriend are giving in... I have been what seems like torture for 2 years... and he finally decided that we could have one... We haven't saved any money but we are makin choices in our lives now so that it'll be easier when we do get pregnant. Props to you for saving money... But I hear the normal 20-something, can take up to one year.
good luck
2007-10-22 00:50:50 · answer #5 · answered by stephanie_hamett 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i can DEFINITELY relate to how you're feeling. my husband and i have been married for almost 3 years (nov. 23rd) and i'm getting antsy. but we are a little different than most couples. we got married when i was 18 and he was 19. DH says he wants to wait 7 years! i keep telling him not if he wants more than one! haha. it is very hard to wait... especially since my sister just had her 3rd. good luck to you!
2007-10-22 00:40:08 · answer #6 · answered by Jen K 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋