Ok, in a couple days I have a report to do in front of 45 people and I freeze up and get nervous LIKE IF I MESS UP I'LL DIE OR SOMETHING!!!!!!!! I am so self conshis ( sorry by the misspelled words!) and nervous that I ALWAYS freeze up and sometimes... I ever talk with my BFFs and freez ep. EVEN WHEN I KNOW WHAT I AM GOING TO SAY!!!!! Please everyone HELP ME!!!! I need tips!!!
2007-10-21 17:01:02 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Education & Reference ➔ Homework Help
Just remember - air in... air out slowly.
You won't pass out or turn too purple if you have plenty of oxygen in your lungs. Control is all in the breathing!
2007-10-21 17:05:33 · answer #1 · answered by Tabonie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I got great advice from a speech teacher once-she said that being nervous is a good thing because it means you actually care about doing a good job. When I speak in front of groups, I believe that I have something important to say that they will benefit from and that helps. Concentrate on the importance of your material and you will feel less concerned with yourself. Speak up-nothing is worse than not hearing a speaker. Also, look for a friendly face or faces in the audience if it helps. Many people fear public speaking more than anything else so you are doing a great job by doing this. I'm sure you will do great!
2007-10-22 00:09:07 · answer #2 · answered by itry 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, speaking in front of a group of people is like the 2nd most common fear and also it is either a gift you have or not, so join the crowd. I feel so so so sorry for shyer type people because it is almost impossible, I, on the other hand always wanted to speak nationally, ??? I don't have a shy bone in my body but felt it was so unfair that I could get an A so easy in Speech and my friends who were more shy just couldn't get above a D. But, try to remember everyone has areas where they are weak, just do the best you can and move on. I cry if I have to draw or do artwork !!!!!!
2007-10-22 00:05:29 · answer #3 · answered by I Love Jesus 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
we are usually nervous because we don't know how we sound in front of people or maybe if we don't know what we are talking about. Here are some pointers that might help:
1. Record yourself and listen to how you speak.
2. Get to know your material and topic.
3. Speak in front of mirror
4. Practice in front of a group who will tell you what you need to improve on.
5. Practice. Practice. Practice.
6. Tell yourself you can do it and you will. If you say you can't do it, then you'll end up not doing it. POSITIVE SELF TALKING. Very important.
It will be more embarrassing if you stop speaking in front of 45 people. If I was in the crowd I would rather listen to a speaker knowing that person is nervous but still delivers versus someone who freezes and walks away.
My son has to memorize a poem (5-6 verses) every week and recites it every Friday in front of 25 kids and this is what we do everyday. Practice & Positive thoughts. And every week he Aces it. If my six year old son can do it, so can you.
2007-10-22 00:14:13 · answer #4 · answered by Christine 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I can empathize with you!!! I have the same problem. I am hoping I get over by the time I am done with college. Honestly, I don't know a remedy. Just know that public speaking is one of the biggest fears of people. I stress myself out because I feel like I have to be perfect. I have started to accept the fact that I will sound nervous and my hands will shake during a presentation. As I have accepted this, I have become less nervous. I also have to remind myself that my identity doesn't lie within my public speaking skills. At the end of the day, I get to go home to people who love and accept me for who I am...
I say you accept the fact that your presentation will probably not be perfect, which is okay. Nobody is perfect. Everyone stumbles over their words and freezes up once in awhile. Pat yourself on the back for having the courage to get up in front of others. If you survive it, you get an A in my books!!! Before you know it, it will be over!!! REMEMBER - YOU DO NOT HAVE TO BE PERFECT!!! Some people do not have the courage to even get in front of others to speak, and you do!!! Pat yourself on the back!
2007-10-22 00:56:29 · answer #5 · answered by *Honk Honk* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pick one or two of your closest friends or relatives and try giving your speech in front of them. Do it in a formal way, just as you plan on giving it to the larger crowd.
I think this will give you confidence for the final run.
Also, stage fright is natural even for the most experienced actors. Work on mentally accepting your nervousness and rising above it. Immediately before giving your speech, consciously try to calm yourself.
Being very practiced in the talk itself will help you. No your material cold.
Before you speak, don't keep telling yourself how nervous you are. Instead, repeat positive thoughts such as: "I am going to be an effective speaker. I want to convey to the listeners all the interesting information that I have. I can do this. I enjoy speaking to others and conveying to them the excitement I feel about my subject matter."
Here's something once said by Henry Ford:
"If you think you can do something, or think you can't do something, you're probably right."
In other words, the self-talk you give yourself is important if you want to be a success. Tell yourself you CAN give a speech effectively and you will feel CONFIDENT in giving your speech.. Don't tell yourself not to feel nervous. Tell yourself that you WILL speak with confidence.
2007-10-22 00:04:53 · answer #6 · answered by dnldslk 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a communications student at fresno state, and I know that when it comes to speaking to a class, or performing (I play piano as well) I sometimes get very nervous, and it feels like my heart is going to burst out of my chest. What I do to help limit those feelings, is I slow my breathing, try to control my heart rate, and reassure myself that I know what I'm doing. I know what I'm going to say, I already wrote it out, or I know what I'm going to play, I've been playing it for years. What it comes down to is you need to feel confident in yourself. Convince yourself that you know what you're doing, and the confidence will come.
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As a lot of other people have recommended, trying to give your speech around a small group of people that you feel comfortable with could really boost your confidence and make giving the real speech a ton easier.
2007-10-22 00:04:47 · answer #7 · answered by Cory D 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I speak publicly on a daily basis and I can tell you that if you realize that you are the only one that matters then you will own the crowd. You are the one in control. when you have a "captive" crowd then they have nothing else to focus on. When you have their focus then you rule their world! that makes you the Queen. LONG LIVE THE QUEEN!
2007-10-22 00:11:35 · answer #8 · answered by Alpha Dad 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have found that you are afraid to speak for fear of messing up, so know your material well. With confidence in the material, the rest is easy
2007-10-22 00:07:09 · answer #9 · answered by Experto Credo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first thing..make yourself notes or an outline as to what you want to say. Don't read from your notes but do make it easy for yourself. Find something to focus on when you are talking..pick one person out and look at them. should make things easier
2007-10-22 00:06:13 · answer #10 · answered by chuckie 1948 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋