i want one so bad it's all i think about i see them everywhere, whats wrong w/ me i'm not soupose 2 want a baby bt i can't help it i'm starting to obsess. what shoul i do??
2007-10-21 16:48:58 · 26 answers · asked by lexielu 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
hey sweetie. there is nothiong wrong with you trust me i was like that at 14 your just getting clucky, i had a baby at 17 to my bf im still with and everyone told me not to have one but we were both ready and my partner has a very good job.. but trust me they are hard work and they take all your time truat me i love my son soon much i cant put it into words but i would wait if im you. you have so much more life to live and there is still alot of time for you just hold off on wanting one..
2007-10-21 16:56:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Thinking about having a baby is fine .However it is the timing in having a baby that can create issues.When you are young it is important to finish your education.This prepares you for financial security when you are ready for a job.This also gives you and your baby security and stability when you decide to have a baby.You should also try to meet new people, so you can be a better judge of people's character, don't jump into long term relationships because you are afraid of being alone, travel, explore your world and do things that may become limited when you have a baby.When you have a baby suddenly your wants must be put on the back burner because a baby's needs are more important.A baby is a commitment to another human being who has not asked to be born and is totally dependent upon you to make good choices on their behalf. Don't be in a hurry to give away your youth.You will age fast enough without any problem.You would never want to live with the regret that you had not delayed having a baby.I'm not saying that young single mom's are all bad moms I'm just saying that life is usually a little easier when you have given yourself time to mature. Remember ,that not all babies are healthy and happy ones.Some have collic, physical and mental development issues, a whole scope of problems that can be both emotionally and finacially draining.Do you think you are really prepared for that.I hope one day you do have the baby you want...................but not until you are truly ready.Until then enjoy being young.Take care.
2007-10-22 02:25:40 · answer #2 · answered by gussie 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
babysit.................. Most girls feel this way ..... its normal BUT you are too young to have a baby.....it would be really unfair to yourself and the baby.... wait until your older and then you can enjoy having the baby.....
If you had one now.... no hanging with friends, no parties, no dances, no free time, no social life ...... would be hard to finish school, and u will be broke and no way of supporting the child since your not even old enough to get a job other then babysitting. and babysitting wont pay well enough to support a child.
and without an education things wont change.... you will be on welfare and have nothing all your life. You will not beable to give you child anything...... even new clothes and shoes wont be possible unless someone eles pays for them..... once your in the real world you have alot of bills not just baby expenses......
Just to give you an idea about bills............
My house payment and car together are over 1000 a month....
then you have electric and gas...... if your lucky that will be around 300.00 a month but some people pay way more....
phone bill is over 150..... but u can live without this but it will make things harder....
Insurance for home and car are 200.00 a month and up
water is 60.00 a month at least...........
food is 300 and up a month.........
cable is 50.00 and up and u will want to have this if your gonna be stuck home....
internet you wont beable to afford im sure. but it ranges from 15- 21 for dial up or 30- 60 a month for dsl & roadrunner.
What about medical, dental, vision, and medicines....... what about daycare...... daycare will cost about 120.00 a week for a baby so about 500.00 for the month......
diaper and they arent cheap..... formula unless you breast feed, and baby always needs something !!!! and they only stay in their clothes a very short time and then need more.....
This doesnt even come close to covering anything for baby or all the bills you will have................ so think it over and wait.......
2007-10-22 08:47:50 · answer #3 · answered by tammer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Suprisingly, quite a few girls go through this between around 14-17 or so. Humans are actually designed to start reproducing around 15 years old so your body it telling you to get a move on. Don't listen to it! Babies are cute and cuddly but they take a lot of looking after. Even adults have trouble! A couple of options would be to try babysitting or volunteer at a childcare centre, especially if you can look after toddlers. Toddler taming will soon quench the desire of a bundle of your own. Don't worry too much about it, but if it keeps up, talk to your doctor.
2007-10-21 16:58:15 · answer #4 · answered by The Kelda 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First of all, I used to be like this at your age. I am 28 now. I got pregnant at 17. Not the best decision I could have made. I do not regret having my first child then, but I could have definetly waited. It was tough. You should think about school right now, I know you hear this everywhere, but believe me it's true. You need to be very financially stable to have a baby. And the long sleepless hours are not easy. Please think about this before having sex, which you shouldn't really be having at your age because you are not mature enough to deal with a baby.
Good luck and you'll get a baby when you're ready. You should really wait and maybe try babysitting to get rid of your urge. lol
2007-10-21 16:57:03 · answer #5 · answered by prettyrockangel 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's a completely normal. But, don't do it. I suggest you babysit or talk to your parents to have any baby. Do you have any baby brothers or sister's already? See if your parents will go to dinner (If they can trust you & your mature & you know what your doing) and take care of your younger brother/sister. You have your whole life ahead of you to have a baby. Just wait. You need to finsh highschool & go to college. Get married. Get a career before having a baby. It's very hard & lots & lots of money & time. You can barely get a job at 14 long enough raise a baby, go to school, and work. Will the dad stay around? Will he help? You have no idea what men will do these days. It's very hard to find a decent man now days.
My cousin is now 30. She has 7 kids. Got pregnant at 13 had the baby at 14. She strugged & she still is. She was stupid & made many mistakes. Her life is hell right now.
Don't do it. Wait. You'll thank your self in the long run.
2007-10-21 16:55:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
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2016-10-07 09:09:55 · answer #7 · answered by pihl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's just hormones. If any of your family members or family friends have young kids why not offer to babysit? It might help. Your obsession and need of a baby will probably pass soon. Don't worry. Since you obviously aren't very happy because of your problem I'd suggest taking up a hobby or doing something in your spare time like reading or listening to music, that's what I do and it really helps get my mind of my problems. Anyway, hope I helped. Good luck :0)
2007-10-21 19:21:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well lets narrow this down and make you reailze first :
1 . Are you Horney ? if you are >>>> thats becuz u want a child go have one or take the pill. its 2007 not 1930
if you not >>>> do not have one if u not horney they is no real reason u just find them cute and adorable just be with them more at friends houses and stuff ,mothers and pick them up play with them,get a doll
2. now that we have estabilshed you not horney u overscore is do not have 1 just be by them .. unless u want the bad way out of things ..there is only 2 real answers your choice and u staring at them in the face.
2007-10-22 02:20:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's totally natural!
As a teenager, your body is going through some major hormonal changes. Your "mom-mode" is kicking in, and you have a sudden need to be around children.
I know... I've been through the same thing!
Don't worry. As time passes, this will go away.
I've still always loved babies, and I'm sure that you will too, so now you can wait to be excited for when your OWN little one comes. =]
Good luck!
Katie
2007-10-21 16:55:07 · answer #10 · answered by Katie 2 · 6⤊ 0⤋