Aren't you scared about growing old? I mean, I'm terrified. I'm gonna be fat and ugly and a cranky ***** whose life is completely worthless. All I have is my appearance, I'm stupid in school, and I'm not especially a nice person or talented for that matter. My plan was always to be a stripper or marry an old guy but what if that doesn't work out? Nonjudgemental advice please?
2007-10-21 16:36:49 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
You need to get a real life - and that is not a judgment. It is a real important bit of advice.
Stripper???????? That is not a life. Marrying money?? That may be worse. It is hard to pick.
You say your looks is all you have, but you know that is not true. Get an education, get a decent job, meet nice people, feel good about yourself, enjoy the fact that family and friends think your a nice person instead of a looser.
Your looks will fade, have a back up plan. Start today.
2007-10-21 16:45:21 · answer #1 · answered by howdigethere 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people are probably afraid to grow old because they are probably afraid to take chances in life or were not able to do the things that wanted to do when they were younger, and they know they will have a bunch of regrets later in life. If you keep putting yourself down, you are going to continue to feel worthless. Being a stripper or marrying an old guy is most likely not gonna work out. You have more to give in life than just taking your clothes off in front of a bunch of strangers. You cannot rely on your looks to get you by in life, because attractiveness does not last forever. I don't have a lot of talent, and I don't look like a supermodel, but I have several things I am interested in, and one of them is computer forensics. I will receive training for that when I graduate from college, and I'm already teaching myself some things now and I'm reading as much as I can about it. I'm sure there is something that you are interested in. I strongly suggest that you sit down, and think long and hard about the things you do like because you may be able to make a career out of that, and then go to school for that.
2007-10-21 16:51:28 · answer #2 · answered by ♥Shania♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're stupid because you are uneducated. Is that what you were taught to "become"? A stripper? Some chick that marries an old man for the money? I'm sure growing old isn't the best thing in the world, but with age comes wisdom, something you lack, and you agree. So, what would I do if I was as ignorant and self-absorbed as you? I would go back to school ASAP. If you surround yourself with intelligent people, some of that is bound to rub off on you. I suggest you learn something that peaks your interests. There's cosmetology school, you cab choose to do hair/nails or both. There is massage therapy classes (Hey, you'll increase your odds with the old rich man by giving good rub downs) There's medical assistants, dental hygienists. These are all things that don't require years of college, and you can get pel grants to pay tuition. Listen, your question bummed me out. No young woman should be as .....hopeless as you. And I'm telling you this now, you're dreams of marrying big or the happy life of a stripper, it's not going to be that easy or perfect. Try believing you'll most likely be living close to poverty. Go to school, surround yourself with good, smart people. And try doing something that gives you a bit more self-worth. Do it for yourself.
2007-10-21 17:21:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I wouldn't go for or bank on the stripper or old guy plan.
First ,gain some confidence in things other than your appearance and other areas in your life will fall into place because you'll understand yourself more.
Find things YOU like to do and invest time into them.
Also, the best way to gain humility is to be humiliated. What I mean is, don't be afraid to try new things or get embarressed because you want to hide behind your good looks. You'll find that making a fool out of yourself sometimes is the best way to accept, enjoy, and become more confident in who you really are deep down inside.
And mostly, I'm sure that you have much more going for you than you think. I'm sure you're brilliant but you just can't see it.
2007-10-21 16:46:35 · answer #4 · answered by Carly R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't constantly worry about the future.
Focus on what is happening now. What you do now will affect how things turn out in the future.
I mean, if you're worried about getting fat, work out. Keep a healthy lifestyle and eat right.
In the end all the hoping and dreaming isn't going to get you places. Work hard now for your goals and dreams. Your hard work will pay off in the future. If not, at least you have the satisfaction that you tried and not have any regrets.
I don't know much about you, but one thing I always tell myself and my friends is always think positively. Maybe you're not as worthless of stupid as you think. Maybe you do have talents.
2007-10-21 16:44:13 · answer #5 · answered by jiyouix 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
OK... so you're not the only one who isn't smart. I completely SUCK when it comes to science, math, etc...
But find something that you enjoy doing, and then reach for the stars in that area. Do everything you possibly can to make a career out of what you enjoy.
Like, just recently, I figured out that I really enjoy taking pictures and being creative. So, I'm going to try and do something in photography or cosmetology.... either career I choose, I can use my creative side!
As far as you being afraid of your looks fading... a lot of people think that old ladies are cute (ME!). I know you said that you don't find yourself very nice. Well... start practicing NOW on being nice to people. Begin to charm people from your heart, and not what you've got to show. Practice makes perfect, right?!
2007-10-25 06:30:48 · answer #6 · answered by amber_lanae28 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What? The world suddenly doesn't need fat, ugly, cranky bytches anymore? Life is to be enjoyed. Beauty is great, but nothing compares with joys of being a cranky bytch.
2007-10-21 16:41:29 · answer #7 · answered by Trevor S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well since you realize this about yourself, start trying to make yourself a better person. Read more, take up a positive hobbie and try being nice to people. You're very lucky that you were blessed with good looks, so you already have a head start in this society, now go and make yourself pretty on the inside too!
p.s i never really liked paris hilton and i don't think that she is that pretty, but appearently a lot of other people do and she always got by on her money and looks and idk her well or if it's a fake, but i admire how she's trying to change herself if she really does mean what she says
2007-10-21 16:42:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think a very important thing for u to do is to try to do kind unselfish acts for people or ur friends to build your heart. I think in life a very important thing for any person is to have a strong base of good friends who will be there fopr u when things get tough. Try to work on these things and im sure u will be fine later on.
2007-10-21 19:07:04 · answer #9 · answered by virgin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some ppl were born with great legs, and some with great minds. You weren't born with either, so u should just work on your legs.
Seriously, walk 30 min 3 times a week for fitness. Read books that excite your mind and watch top model for tips on being in a career you cant be in forever.
2007-10-21 16:50:47 · answer #10 · answered by Boom Boom D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋