ok,I am going to vent a little.I have been divorced from my ex for about 3 years I am remarried to a wonderful man.Anyways,my current husband does work.I do not I stay at home with our son.Well,anyways my ex.Doesn't work,still lives with his mom,and shares a bedroom with our son.Keep in mind he is 40 years old now.Her lately I can't get him to do anything except ****.Like for instance I asked him to get my son a haircut Saturday when he got him from me.Did he do no.I asked him to take him to pick out some shoes a couple of weeks ago did he do it no.I take that back yes he did he went to dollar store and picked out a pair.My son is hard on his shoes he is 9 years old.So I had to go to Target to get him some myself.I don't mind doing stuff for my son when he is with me I do laudry.cleaning,cooking ,and yes go shopping for him.
Right now we have joint custody he has him for a week and than I do and so on so forth.Would you take him back to court?He doesn't pay child support.
2007-10-21 16:19:43 · 9 answers · asked by what did you say 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
he is suppose to keep heath insurance on him but,since he has lost his job.He doesn't do that either.Do you think the court would make him get private insurance
2007-10-21 16:21:06 · update #1
he has been out of work for a couple of mo.now
2007-10-21 16:21:42 · update #2
I ask him not tell him obvoisly he doesn't foolow what he is told to do.I shouldn't have to tell him or ask him.He has eyes he can see
2007-10-21 16:41:08 · update #3
this is confusing...if your ex husband lives with his mother, how can he share a room with your son? does your son live with his father? do you and your new husband live with your ex and his mother?????
2007-10-21 16:26:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As you have indicated ... Your ex-husband is immature and
irresponsible. If you couldn't do anything with him when you
were married .... Then what makes you think that there is
anything that you can do with him NOW???
Do not expect that your ex is going to buy the shoes or get
the haircuts. (That is NOT fair to you and your new husband..
but what's new ... LIFE ISN'T FAIR) You can not let your
son "lack" because his Dad is a loser. So, you and your
husband will have to continue to make sure that your son's
needs are met.
You mentioned that your ex lives with HIS mom. Maybe she
would be willing to get the shoes and haircuts ... But it is
CERTAINLY NOT her responsibility. (I am thinking, though
that since she is "picking up the slack" for a irresponsible
40 year old ... she might do the same for HER grandchild)
You should DEFINITELY go back to court on the child support
issue. But if your ex-husband is NOT working ... Obviously
you ARE NOT going to get any money now ... But at least
if you have a court order for child support. Then WHENEVER he does start working ... Then he would owe
you "back payments" .... However .... the fact that a 40 year
old is NOT working, not meeting his own child's needs, and
living with his mother .... Doesn't sound like there is a good
chance that you will see ANY of that money. You and your
husband need to accept that reality! Sorry for your son about
that! .... But glad that your son has you and your husband!
2007-10-21 23:35:38 · answer #2 · answered by kjh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to an attorney and go back to court. You may not be able to get child support or the insurance if he is not working, but you can alter the visitation so that your son spends less time over there and your ex can have day visits rather than having to share a room with your son, unless your son wants to do that, but if you have a room for him in your house I suspect that your son would rather have his own room. Maybe this might wake the ex up but probably not. Glad that you found a man and got rid of the little boy!!
2007-10-21 23:37:35 · answer #3 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm going throug a divorce and my soon to be ex wants joint custody so he won't have to pay child support. (14 y/o & 12 y/o) He says feeding them when they are with him is his part of supporting them. He never buys them anything. When they asked him for school supply money, he gave them $4, total. LOL. But my understanding is that in joint custody, it means joint support, but also that each parent can do as much or as little as they want unfortunately. I doubt if going back to court would do anything but cost you lots of money. Just look at it like I try to. I got beautiful kids from him, and if I get nothing else, that's enough. We will survive.
2007-10-21 23:41:09 · answer #4 · answered by onceisenoughilearnedmylesson 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the court made him get private insurace, how is he suppose to pay for it if he is not working?
I would file for a different custody settlement. Your son sleeping with his father in the same bed for a week, every other week, is not good.
You "telling" your ex to do something should not be happening. You are not married to him. Who are you to "tell" him to do anything?
My ex is suppose to pay child support, suppose to see the kids over the weekend, and supply health insurance for the kids. Hmmmmm I do not see child support, he does not see the kids (his choice) and I supply health insurance for the kids. Sometimes it is just easier on the kids to take care of things yourself and not depend on an ex that is obviously not going to step up and take care of his responsibilities... Yes it sucks having to do that. However, it is better for the kids to ensure that they have a healthy stable home and would be nice if they saw their father once in awhile. But cannot control everything.
2007-10-21 23:37:36 · answer #5 · answered by LyndasCa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you two considering the stability for your child with this every other week stuff? Sounds hard on the kid at 9. Also, why does your ex not pay child support...Why did you not portect your son's rights by persuing him through child support. They will make him get a job...or loose his driving license here in Maryland as well as any tax return.
2007-10-22 00:00:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
somebody has to step up and get a job so that the child can have health insurance. you ex is taking his hurt feelings for you out on the kid. dont ask him to do anything for the child just do it and do send the stuff you buy over to dads send what dad has brought him. than that way he has the proper shoes he needs. but somebody needs to some buying cheap shoes for that boy if he is hard on shoes he needs one or two pair of GOOD shoes and than you wont have to buy shoes so often. but you both are responsible for the child so you cant really take him to court to say what he wont get the boy haircut. stupid. leave that man alone and take care of your son. GodBless
2007-10-21 23:30:16 · answer #7 · answered by Crystal G 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well get in touch with your state ag the child support and take him back to court to pay the back and also to revamp the custody
2007-10-21 23:29:50 · answer #8 · answered by tex19642003 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would take him back to court and have the order remodified........make him get a job and take care ouf your son and his needs
2007-10-22 00:06:45 · answer #9 · answered by switchmistress 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋