She is saying hateful, character-slamming things that are so rude and have no basis in reality. She is using four-letter words. I told her three days ago to stop contacting me or I would file harassement charges and yet she still contacts me. She is mad at me cause I was trying to be her friend and my ex told me on Thursday to leave her alone cause he decided he was uncomfortable with how close we were getting. He has not told her apparently that he was the reason for me no longer contacting her. Now she has gone insane on me and will not leave me alone. And she's a cop!!! I am tired of getting text messages all night long and all day and I refuse to change my phone number or email address. What to do?????
2007-10-21 15:50:21 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He and I have two children together. He has visitation every other weekend. He and I have always gotten along until now.
2007-10-21 15:50:51 · update #1
okay sorry for the typo, obviously I meant ex-husband. I am remarried, happily.
2007-10-22 00:29:39 · update #2
if i was you i wouldnt even bother telling her not too . just dont tell her anything reply , nothing , infact delete before you even read the text.
the most powerful thing is not knowing.
if you reply at all , then she knows something , youve reacted.
say nothing and shes left wondering , ....
and after a while of no replys or response she will be starting to feel very frustrated and then possibley a little silly . and a few others may notice she appears obsessed.
so every text you get , just delete and smile knowing its another one she will be fuming over why you havnt replyed ....
ive been there.
but dont be stupid enoughto even send one last text saying thats what youll do or it defets the object .
ignor her its so infuriating to be ignored ..
2007-10-21 16:03:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh honey . . . this is not good. ANY time a man (or a woman) stays out all night and won't tell you where they've been it is very, very obvious what they are up to. I don't know about you but I would be hurt to the brink of insanity at this point. I am not one to cheer on the side of divorce but the honest truth is that marriage is tough enough when both people are in it 100% and it sounds like your husband isn't even almost in it 100%. You can't carry this thing on your own and if he is calling this a mistake and is all full of regret, wanting after another woman he had previously committed to? AND he is pushing you away, acting angry and refusing to seek counsel? You have a serious set of issues on your hands and you need to consider making an exit. You need to really think about whether you are willing to put up with an unfaithful, unhappy man for the rest of your life or at least until he gets the nerve to leave you. Staying with someone for the child is not always right either, especially if they are being exposed to conflict and anger between the two of you. How do you know he would get custody? Is that a legal, proven fact? I don't mean to sound pessimistic but it's hard enough to fix this kind of thing when both parties are committed and I just don't want to try to sugar coat.
2016-03-13 04:17:24 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had to deal with this before, also. My fiance's exgirlfriend was insane and called my cell phone 87 times in 20 minutes and would text message me constantly (that was just in 1 day, and this went on for weeks)- I finally filed communication harrassment against her and had a restraining order put on her. I suggest you do the same because it will not end. There is no reasoning with people like that.
Make sure you keep phone records and print out all of the emails she sends you. Also, you can get a copy of the text messages mailed to you from your phone company.
I'm sorry you have to deal with her- I know exactly what you are going through.
2007-10-21 15:54:21 · answer #3 · answered by Madison 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
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2007-10-21 16:56:57 · answer #4 · answered by David B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just have to say this..... the actual question is funny. You sounded like a polygamist family. hehehe "My husband's new fiancee....." lol
Sorry for your problem. I would change my number and email anyway. But then again, if he has joint custody, he will get your new number, so it's not worth it for you to do that. I don't know what to tell ya. Sorry hon...Definately file harassment charges. If he does marry her, she will have to stay away from you and your children. You could win full custody for that. And then, just be done with them. If he's not man enough to step up and say he did it, then you don't need either one of them in your life. Move on, find a better man, and have him adopt your children. But for now, DEFINATELY file harrassment charges, or a restraining order even would work great. You don't want your kids hearing crap from her about you, do ya? Fix it! File on her sorry butt.
2007-10-21 16:07:12 · answer #5 · answered by werbodalini 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just because she carries a badge and a gun doesnt give her the right to be a freak , file a complaint against her and I'm sorry but you seriously need to change the number have you saved the text messages as evidence ?
Tell your ex husband if she doesnt quit the tactics you'll file a restraining order on him as well because if she unstable on this manner I wouldnt trust her near my kids.
2007-10-21 16:16:21 · answer #6 · answered by JadeyOz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, it would be uncomfortable for everybody that you and your ex's fiance were cultivating a close friendship. I would not want to even get into to that one. As far as the non stop harassment with texts and e-mails, you can ignore it or you can go the police. Just because she is a cop doesn't mean, she could not be a loony tune.
2007-10-21 15:56:42 · answer #7 · answered by drewxjacobs 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Keep all the texts and emails that you currently have. Block her email address which can be easily done and simply ignore the texts. The best response in this situation is no response at all. One thing makes me wonder however - what is your ex hiding that makes him so uncomfortable with the thought of the two of you being friends? I think he has a bigger part to play in all of this than he is admitting or that you know about. Seek legal advice.
2007-10-21 15:56:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wow. I think the best course of action is just to ignore her. If you two were getting close...there's no telling what he told her about the situation. Let her know that he was the reason that you stopped communication with her....and then leave it at that. She'll eventually get bored and leave you alone. Until then just do your best to ignore her, although that has to be infuriating!
2007-10-21 15:53:46 · answer #9 · answered by Tina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
print out a couple, if not all, of her emails and take them to the police station and file harassment charges against her, and get a restraining order at the same time. this is a person who should not be a cop, let alone carrying a gun. your husband may be playing the two of you against each other perhaps but if you mentioned this to him, he is as much to blame as she is.
Depending upon what is in the emails and how it is said, you may also be able to get visitation limits so that the children are not exposed to this woman as well. Good luck to you!!
2007-10-21 16:11:34 · answer #10 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋