In my opinion, I think it is wrong. You and your mate may never get married but you will have a child for a responsibility.
2007-10-21 15:22:29 · 39 answers · asked by C-DOG 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i dont believe in premarital sex and adultery. its a sin.
2007-10-21 15:25:21 · answer #1 · answered by 412envy 7 · 4⤊ 5⤋
Things happen in life you don't always plan. What really matters is what kind of family that child has. A strong family support system is more important then whether the parents are married. After all, couples get divorced all the time and being married doesn't make them good parents. My grandchild has two parents that love her to death, and will always have that love whether they get married or not. She also has grandparents, aunts, uncles, greatgrandparents, cousins etc. that will always be there for her. That is more than a lot of children with "married" parents can say in this day and age.
2007-10-21 15:29:51 · answer #2 · answered by etkatluv 2 · 4⤊ 1⤋
But what if u was rape as a child or somebody mad u have sex but you never hnow if u and that person are going to be other for the rest of both of your life it may work or it may not so how can you say wait until marriages for that write back that you if you want thank you.
2007-10-21 15:32:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
ABSOLUTELY NOT OK to plan and have children before marriage. Even as an accident the are showing irresponsibility which is not a good attribute to have to raise a child. You are so right, that who looks good today can arrive home as a toad tomorrow. The pressures of getting to know someone is hard enough and then you add and subject a child to the mix....it is so unfair to do that to a child.
2007-10-21 15:50:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
I believe that everything happens for a reason. If you end up pregnant and you and your boyfriend did not intend to get married, things have to be taken into consideration. My sister is going through this exact situation right now and she and her boyfriend have no intentions to get married. My parents are very religious so you know what they think... I think you should do what makes you happy. Why get married if you feel it will not work out? I wouldn't do anything in life just because someone else believes I should.
2007-10-21 15:34:02 · answer #5 · answered by alexis_0724 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I believe in morals, some people have different morals than others. personally, my ideal situation would be to get married and have children with the one I love and plan to spend my life with. if however, i do have a child outside of marriage i wont love the child any less...to each is own, and as long as the child is happy and with a loving person to hold near i dont see the problem.
2007-10-21 15:27:02 · answer #6 · answered by Ash 4 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Children are a blessing. Sometimes unexpected things happen and I think it's ok not to be married before. I know many people who have had children out of wedlock and both parents are very active in their children's lives. Some have gotten married during the pregnancy, others after and one couple hasn't been married for 5 years. To each their own and as long as they are happy and doing what is best for the child in their eyes, I respect them.
2007-10-21 15:28:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 2⤋
Children before marriage is wrong, wrong, wrong.
For god's sake people--either buy a $3 package of condoms or use some self restraint.
What.....you aren't ready to commit to each other but you think the commitment to raise a child together is?
It just makes me crazy when this happens, and it happens way too often!
2007-10-21 15:36:06 · answer #8 · answered by Dirty Martini 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If your taking the responsbility on of giving birth then I'm sorry thats way bigger then marriage , marriages come and go , kids are for ever.
I had my kids before marriage my daughter is the only 1 who was conceived during marriage and I divorced her dad.
I dont care for the other answer's comments and opinions and to be quite frank religion and god and the bible have NOTHING to do with anything.
2007-10-21 16:06:20 · answer #9 · answered by JadeyOz 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think it's ok. Marriage has nothing to do with how great a child can be raised. Single parents can do just as well if not better than having both parents. Also, people who get married just because they have a child together, but do not love eachother can cause huge problems with the child.
2007-10-21 15:26:46 · answer #10 · answered by rend 3 · 4⤊ 2⤋
What is your motive? Is it because you want kids right now without being married, or you want kids just with this person? If it's just with this person, you probably want to make sure there's some kind of promise to your relationship like some vows. If it's just because you want a kid and are ready for that responsibility there are plenty of single moms (and a few dads) famous and none famous who are doing well for themselves and raising decent, loving human beings.
2007-10-21 15:31:12 · answer #11 · answered by myrnac 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋