If so, how did it make you feel?
2007-10-21 14:56:57 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
No. Not really.
2007-10-21 14:59:12 · answer #1 · answered by ♫Di [Pro-Love, Anti-Hate]♫ 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
My first husband cheated on me by sleeping with men and women. The first one I found out about was a man. He told me he was just experimenting and that it would never happen again. I was super young (18). I believed him and took him back. Then he cheated with a women and then left town and left me a note where he listed several guys he'd slept with. It all started fitting together like a big puzzle. He'd slept with guys that we saw everyday. One was our gay neighbor in this little apartment complex we'd lived in when we first got married. Others had been old high school buddies that he would "get together" with once in a while. Another had been this teacher that he would "run into" when he would go to the gym. I felt so stupid and ashamed like there was something wrong with me. Each time he would get caught he would swear it was the last time and would I please not tell anyone. At one point he admitted to cruising certain areas of the city looking for young male prostitutes. Finally when I had two babies and was working two jobs and he wasn't working (He would quit or get fired from job after job)and he was still getting lost for days at a time, I packed his things and made him leave. I called his parents and told them what he had been doing and they came and picked him up. He has been living with them on and off ever since between failed relationships. He married again for a few years and after a while his wife started calling me asking if I'd ever suspected he was gay. He still refuses to admit he prefers men. I never told my kids about his lifestyle but now that they are adults I suspect that they know because of little things they say sometimes. For years I felt stupid and guilty. As time went by I got over those feelings. We are nice to each other when he comes to see his kids or when we see each other at graduations and such. Whenever he mentions some new girlfriend there is this weird unspoken thing between us. I know his secrets and he knows I know but we don't mention it. Its sad. He'd be happier if he just admitted it and then lived his life accordingly.
2007-10-21 15:32:30 · answer #2 · answered by Jade 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, but if that ever happened, I would send him packing. If I were you, I would get an AIDS test immediately. Maybe you just found out about his behavior, but this is probably not the first time he has had contact with another man. You have no way of knowing what else he's been up to behind your back. Once you go gay, you never turn back. He wants to be with men, honey. Clearly, he has some preferences that you cannot ever satisfy. Beware! Beware!
2007-10-21 15:02:47 · answer #3 · answered by bombastic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe my ex husband of 17 years ago slept with another man. i know he didnt want sex with me and i was alot younger. makes me want to get an aids test for the rest of my life.
2007-10-21 14:59:33 · answer #4 · answered by Ida 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A Friend of my exwife married a guy who confessed he was gay....the marriage lasted 2 days, and she was still a virgin last I heard....I think if I was her, I would have killed him on the spot for not being honest and making her parents pay for a big wedding and such...??? but as for my feelings...Eh! who cares!
2007-10-21 15:02:22 · answer #5 · answered by Oldmansea 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yup. Dumped his a$$ real quick. I obviously didn't have the right equipment to compete with that, so I went on my way.
I was hurt until I found out later that he was a coke wh0re and was doing it for the blow (pun intended).
2007-10-21 15:01:19 · answer #6 · answered by staggerlee337 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Brookback mountain!
2007-10-21 15:22:21 · answer #7 · answered by Danny's Not Cool 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
none that I know of personally, but there was an old LAW AND ORDER episode on TV that dealt with that exact issue.
2007-10-21 15:00:19 · answer #8 · answered by Mike 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
JT you need to confess to your wife ,not us .
never happen to me ,my husband is Gay phobic ,he as no respect for many choice's they make ,and hurt so many family's.
I'm more open minded ,he was raised in the SOUTH ,which i was raised IN Brazil ,so i understand love is blind .
good luck.
2007-10-21 15:05:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Did this happen to you? Or are you asking this arbitrarily? Either way, you're screwed up.
2007-10-21 15:09:10 · answer #10 · answered by David 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It have not happend to me. and that would be a totally kick out.. if ever happends and i find out. because sometimes things happends and we dont know..
2007-10-21 15:01:57 · answer #11 · answered by ^^Smile^^ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋