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My husband has been cheating on me online. I know because I talked to her online. She lives a long way away, I know he would never run off w/ her but it is still cheating right? We have been together 5 yrs. What would you do?

2007-10-21 14:52:02 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships Marriage & Divorce

No it is some ugly woman in New York

2007-10-21 14:56:20 · update #1

I need the putor for college

2007-10-21 14:57:02 · update #2

35 answers

You need to confront him on this. It is a form of adultary. Explain to him how it makes you feel.

2007-10-21 14:55:00 · answer #1 · answered by Bob D 6 · 7 0

I had found out about my husband doing this as well. He tried to hide what he was doing, but to no avail. He tried to lie about it when confronted, but failed miserably. He has refused to stop cheating online and off. But it all started with him having online affairs. I seperated myself from him and will soon be doing divorce paperwork. It is definitely considered cheating and not because I said so.
I hope everything works out for you and best of luck. Take care.

2007-10-21 20:23:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0 1

I am a guy, have had many relationships that have never gotten serious because they don't want to. But I can tell you your husband cheated on you because he couldn't get what he wanted out of you, a little bit more.

Take into consideration your legal status, your financial status. Maybe it is a little fling he is having and it might be time you both stuck up on a marriage consoler or this has been a rooted relationship where he is fulfilling his sexual desires.

You have done nothing wrong on your part, but it does not mean your marriage is over. You both need to close these wounds and he needs to admit his mistake and confess to you that he has done wrong and broke his promise with you. It is up to you to accept his forgiveness and make sure it doesn't happen again. Get consoling and revamp your relations.


You might want a lawyer on hand and get evidence on what he has done. To make sure that if you want out of the relation your not going out empty handed if you want to file adultery if it is illegal in your state.

2007-10-21 15:04:37 · answer #3 · answered by boxfervor 3 · 1 2

Perhaps your marriage is getting to the boring spot that some couples have.You and your husband need to spend some close time with just each other and do special things to make it fun.Talking to your hubby about this instead of going off the deep end can save or destroy your marriage.What he has done is not right and you and him need to work it out.He has cheated by talk but not by touch

2007-10-21 15:01:20 · answer #4 · answered by mamaw2305 7 · 1 2

This is definately adultry. Save all emails or any record you have of it because you never know when you'll need it in the future...even if ten years down the line you get a divorce. Tell him how you feel.
I'd flip out, shut the internet service off kick him out until things are rectified or until I decided to file for divorce.

2007-10-21 14:57:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3 1

I have had friends with this situation. One got divorced because she found there were nearby women he was meeting. The other is still with her husband who we believe has really stopped going on line like that. The other, well, he is looking for men to have sex with and that is really tough on the marriage!! Counseling has helped each one of them.
I have not had this experience, though I have been afriad of it because I have seen my friends go through it. I have told my husband I would break his computer! but that is because my heart would be broken.

2007-10-21 14:57:21 · answer #6 · answered by wawawebis 6 · 1 1

Talk to him. but I would like to warn you that sometimes confrontation might not work if he is really doing what you are saying he's doing. He might just shut you down. I am speaking of observation of other relationship where the person who cheated most likely if he or she is talked to about the situation at the wrong time or maybe he or she is not in a good mood he might just start arguing so make sure he's well rested and ready for you to talk to him about it but don't wait too long or it's going to leave a damage in your relationship with him.

2007-10-21 15:03:42 · answer #7 · answered by tneva 1 · 0 3

I'm not positive that counts as cheating. It might be classified as 'talking to someone online'. Plus has he ever seen her? She could be a guy or an overinformed thirteen year old or something.
I would talk to him about it. Tell him you know he's having cyber sex with some lady. Then threaten to break up with him. If he doesn't care, leave him. If he tells you not to, give him one more chance.
That's what I'd do, even though I'm not married.

2007-10-21 14:57:38 · answer #8 · answered by Sucre Noir 5 · 1 3

THis is some dilemna...I would say he's just feeling horny but it's still wrong to express these emotions with another women, If you confront him about see what he says...if he gets all defensive and upset put your guard up...but if he understands and agrees to stop then just be aware but your marriage should be ok

2007-10-21 14:57:17 · answer #9 · answered by ELECTRA 1 · 3 0

It doesn't matter where you get your appetite as long as you eat at home.

Talking with a woman on the PC is no worse than you dancing with some dude on the dance floor, or having a chat in the bar, or watching a dream boat actor. You are both getting turned on. Just go home for the finale.

2007-10-21 14:59:56 · answer #10 · answered by Ranger 7 · 0 3

I'd confront him and require therapy immediately. he'd have to commit to never speaking with her again and re-commiting to marriage vows. unless of course there are deeper problems in your marriage and this is just a symptom of a bigger issue...in which case maybe this was his way of getting out?? anyway, he has to commit to changing and getting help. My very first inclination is to kick him out, but I do know that in marriage it's just not that easy...you have to at least try to make it work, right? good luck.

(and yes, that's still cheating)

2007-10-21 14:58:29 · answer #11 · answered by abiona 3 · 3 0

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